Do you think he just wanted sex from me?

[xxochloxxo]

I’m not the type to put the blame all on him at all it’s my fault too. I found this guy on tinder and when I swiped for him I was pretty drunk but I was glad I did. I didn’t realise until within 2 weeks off talking to him that he put in his bio ‘not for serious’. After this I know it sounds stupid but I genuinely thought I changed his mind since we got along so well over phone and text. He took me out on a few dates and it went really well. After a month I slept with him.

It was really good but I just wanted to cry afterwards because usually this is all people want from me. Since I waited till after 4 dates though I thought it was accecpt able. We spoken about it afterwards and he said how good I was and how much of a freak I was and he said ‘I’ve been wanting to do that since the start I just waisted so it felt better’ which kinda upset me since I felt this was all an act.

I asked him to hang out this week and I do know he has honestly been busy so I offered to reschedule the date a few times but he just said he’s so busy and he barley has any free time in the week anymore. I do believe him since he’s been posting him at work till so late. Although This lead me to ask him if he wanted anything more since he said he has no time. He told me that me and him are just fun but I would consider it something serious if I was more free and I just agreed and said okay let’s just enjoy ourselves then and see what comes out of it. I messaged him yesterday after a week asking how he was and he hasn’t even responded yet. It hurts because I genuinely like him. I have a connection with him. Im so picky with people but I really like him. Do you think he just wanted sex? Shall I just accecpt this and move on. Thanks 😊

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

This guy has major trust issues and is damaged goods, sure he took you out and the sex was great but don't think he won't come back for more if your willing to give it up most Men whose got issues and broken will do the thing he did... Yes, them dating Apps are no good all they are is full of broken, damaged goods, people whose looking for a good time, I go on this penpal site all these bitches do is contact me and I know their just looking for a Sugar Daddy, well sorry but I don't swing that way, I'm glad to be age 52 and a Male Virgin, I want a sincere commitment but I'm afraid that I will meet damaged goods, So I just keep my distance and try to stay away from trashy Woman It's sad but people now days are not sincere, You place trust in them and they ghost you or they won't accept me, I only receive SSI Income and got mental health disabilities so no one will want me plus I can't blame them, I been on medications for mental health since age 21, so it's been a long battle

[MysteriousT]

I honestly think he likes you as well. He wants to be with you but he's very busy. Well, there is a catch here though. If a guy wants to be with a girl but has no time whatsoever, he let them know as your guy did but also try to make some time to see her as well. Even if this means sacrificing from his sleep, they do it. Not every guy is like this but I know that most guys are when they deeply fall in love. So my interpretation is that, I agree with you on that you possibly changed his mind about not being serious but not to the point where he makes sacrifices from his life to be with you. If you two can spend more time together, it might happen though so don't upset yourself.

However, there's one more point. Not responding to your message since yesterday isn't a good sign. Even if he's dying from exhaustion, he should've responded before going to bed. So maybe he lost a bit of interest in you after sex but that happens with most guys out there. Give him some time and you'll see how he behaves. Try not to attach strings just in case until you get a positive sign showing that he's interested in spending more time with you.

[xxochloxxo]

Thank you for this I do agree with you. He always says how funny I am and how he likes being around me and spends loads of days with me. I do believe he’s busy I just have the feeling he’s telling the truth. When we would hang out he’d spend the whole night with me and never leave. We spent 3 days together in a row and he said how much he missed me. I do know that he is scared though of commitment and he always puts things up about how he dosent put his trust in people. Yeah it is a bad sign, I do get it though because it’s happened before where boys have lost interest in me after sex then I just gave them a bit of time.

[MysteriousT]

You're welcome! Yeah, all these indicate that he enjoys being with you. So relax :) I truly hope things work out for you and who knows you may end up being a couple. Just give him some time as you said. However, if it happens that he doesn't seem interested for some time, I'd say move on. You give me a very nice loyal and caring girlfriend vibe. So if he doesn't go for you it's his loss not yours. Don't overthink about your past too much either, there are much nicer guys than you've been with previously who won't just want to have sex with you but will also share their lives with you.

[xxochloxxo]

Thank you so much!

[girlzruleboyzdrool]

I'd wait until he messages back and not send anymore.. but honestly, if he could reach you before and he doesn't have time that seems like maybe he's not making the time to send you a 30 second text.

I'm sorry but maybe just keep being independent and don't focus on him
Focus on yourself. Go out and have fun
Let him reach out to you now.
You've done your part
You messaged and if he really wants to be with you, he'll message him back

Be a strong independent woman and don't chase him
Things will work out, if they're meant to

I'm. thinking he might gradually be distancing himself...

I'd be curious for an update in a month

[xxochloxxo]

Thank you. I will give you an update. He has replied now but he’s stil taking long I tjink he’s gradually distancing himself too since we have had sex

[girlzruleboyzdrool]

Yeah. He might not want to hurt your feelings so is doing that

[xxochloxxo]

Yeahh I mean I’ve told him that I’m up for having fun too but then I guess the price of that is not talking everyday and just talking for sex

[AustinMan]

No. I feel like there's something there.

[xxochloxxo]

Me too. He did say he was thinking about if he wants something serious or not since he likes spending time with me and that I’m always happy and nice. How do I go about this though now? I’ve messaged him to which he hasn’t replied to yet, do you think I should give him space or do you think I should try and ask to see him again and speak to him about this all

[AustinMan]

Make him pursue you. Here's a My Take about relationships I feel like you might learn something from.

Relationships and How They Work ↗

[Mantinziza]

Its tinder, tinder is designed for "fast and loose no pressure can't handle the baggage, all about me people".

Swinger's basically, but... more fine tuned? I guess.

I've personally never had luck with any "meet people in real life, online hookup dating sites", I tried to sign up for E-harmony a good 5+ years ago and was told "Sorry your personality type doesn't fall in with our category", bullshit.

That's whatever, point is I would say your odds's are better to meet people in real life. Meet people in real life for close romantic esq relationships, I'm not saying it's impossible to find an actual match online, I'm just coming from an odds's angle.

I wish you the best of luck in the future, I would just say try to mitigate your luck to your favor a little more.

Maybe it's just me but I will never meet any one online ever again, long story not getting into it, hope you manage to turn it around.

[cphipps48]

Tinder is notorious for being basically completely for sex and hookups and scarcely meaningful relationships

[KrakenAttackin]

"Met this guy on Tinder"... You saw a hot guys, fucked him, now you are wondering if you were used for sex. The answer is "yes", and you got what you deserve.

[xxochloxxo]

I don’t deserve this. I am worth more

[KrakenAttackin]

Well if you chase fuck boys you will get used.

[Valnac]

Depends what you are looking for, you enjoy the sex, but you sound like you want a relationship to.
I don’t know how old you are.
Are you looking to start a family or maybe you’re past that and want a boy toy
You have to make up your mind and go for it.
He is just looking for sex, that’s what Tinder is for!

[xxochloxxo]

I don’t want just sex I enjoy it but I like hanging out with him. I don’t know if I’m ready for a relationship I’m 19 and have a big future ahead and I’m moving soon and doing my degree but when I move it will be even closer to him than I am now.

[Valnac]

If you found him on Tinder, that’s were they hang out, they just look for hookups! If you enjoy sex and want a relationship, I suggest you forget him. And find someone that isn’t trolling.

[Always1unknown]

Yea i think so. Maybe try sending him a sexy pic to entice him or remind him what he’s missing out on. But don’t go all the way again for a while

[Always1unknown]

How old is he? Might just be immaturity

[xxochloxxo]

He’s 18

[Always1unknown]

Boy mature a little later than girls so he might be scared to settle down

[xxochloxxo]

Yeah he is scared to settle down he posted something about that. What can I do then? Just leaving him alone?

[Always1unknown]

Is he on here posting? Might need to give him some space

[Anonymous]

If he was from Tinder, then YES

[Anonymous]

Yeah pretty much

[Anonymous]

Yes that is all he ever wanted.