What things comes under BDSM sex?

[shreya_shiry]

I am sexually submissive and i like rough sex, dirty talking even name calling and little bit of degradation.
But I am not into that "fifty shades" thing. I don't like bondage or any kind of pain.( besides Spanking lol)
So i can't say I am into BDSM right?

[normalice]

I think BDSM is not what one would call your interests, based on what you've described. BDSM is more of a role play thing than sex, and it seems like what you like is the actual sex. You want to be taken and ravaged. If it doesn't involve a guy using your body to test the rigidness of his dick, you don't see the point. And there is much to BDSM that has nothing to do with penetration.

Although, there are some versions of rough penetrative sex that might qualify. Like throat fucking. Bondage becomes a practical matter for such things, as it helps keep the girl from squirming away. Or really rough anal. I had one girl who put out a Craigslist ad for a guy to show up to her house, fuck her ass with no preparation nonstop until done, and then leave. It was wonderful, for me, but I assumed it was something that will never happen again to anyone ever. Then I saw someone living in a completely different country basically talk about the exact same thing on this very site. It is apparantly less rare than i would have thought and, while there was no bondage, there was definitely something sadistic about it, and it seems like the sort of thing you could get off on under the right circumstances.

[Gagname]

You don’t like bondage, but bondage is only one of the 3 parts of BDSM.

You said you’re submissive, and could still say you’re into BDSMi if you either like to be dominated, or you like receiving pleasure through someone inflicting pain or humiliation...

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According to Wikipedia, “BDSM is... a combination of the abbreviations B/D (Bondage and Discipline), D/s (Dominance and submission), and S/M (Sadism and Masochism)...”

Bondage & Discipline - “consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic, or somatosensory stimulation” & “[punishment of a submissive by a Dominant] when rules of expected behaviour are broken”

Domination & Submission - the “set of behaviours, customs, and rituals involving the submission of one person to another in an erotic episode or lifestyle”

“Sadism & Masochism” - the “giving and receiving of pleasure from acts involving the [infliction & receipt] of pain or humiliation”

[Quackthulu]

BDSM
-Bondage
-Dominance
-Sadism
-Masochism

You can be into one but not the others.

[Guardian45]

Well-said! Quack!

[Gramkabir]

So... as per the definition, you are in to BDSM @shreya_shiry as Dominance is kinks

[TemptedTerry]

Submission is much more mental than physical. The physical acts only heighten the mental stimulation that drives your pleasure.

My wife is submissive. She is always naked. This way when I am home, she is continually objectified by myself. Her self worth is lowered, while mine becomes more entitled. She is seen more as a sexual object. It's a power imbalance, and that can be very arousing for both parties.

This is one very tiny small aspect of submission. And as I suggested, it's all mental. The physical act drives the metal stimulation.

The extreme physical aspects of BDSM aren't really done by those that dabble, or haven't evolved towards it. And some couples never feel the need for it.

If you are only really looking at being passive during sex, than a take charge man in bed should fill your desires. Though if you are more of a submissive, then other avenues could open up for you.

Enjoy finding out ;)

[TCredo]

Some good posts below - especially the gagname one. Being submissive does put you into BDSM but it's such a wide set of practices and often thought of in certain ways so I wouldn't get too caught up in labels - it's cool you can say you're into it or not - nice flexibility :)

I guess I should not have been surprised with how long and detailed the wikipedia article on it is:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM

I like all the things you mentioned in your question (but as the dominant one) but while that would put me into BDSM, I've never declared it so. I'd rather do than label :)

[TCredo]

@shreya_shiry Thanks for the like! I will have a better "answer" going in about 15 minutes lol :)

[magiusX26]

pretty much everything but basic vanilla sex

[SavageGirl101]

Bdsm stands for many things your only into one❤️

[newfreshstart]

May i pm you

[wondering_guy]

Submission is more letting him take control, you just got to find what submissiveness you like, like him using you for pleasure and you do as he says whenever he wants.

[Wise4myage]

Collars, whips, ball gags.

[Cellestial]

I'm the same as you (or the opposite actually lol), I'm dominant, I like rough sex with some name calling, hair pulling, hard intercourse and controlling. However, I'm not into extreme stuff (anything to do with machines, blood and pain).

[COMMODOREII]

There might a be a varying degree but you are right it sounds like you might not be into bdsm.

[kinkydrummer]

Well dominance and submission, sadochism and masochism are different from just hard fucking. So no , you aren't... Yet.

[mrcoolhk]

It's all on u
U be the badass women and rule over u dont like taking pain but you can enjoy pain 👍

[andy530]

All kinds of acts ans behaviors fall under bdsm. Even things as light as choking slapping or spanking

[CharlieDMX]

You are. You like D in BDSM

[ivbnlknfru]

No, your very sexy though...

[scooogy]

The question here would be "is someone into BDSM when liking something of BDSM or all of BDSM?"

[Tstrbrainer]

I think BDSM is a combination of various sexual fetishes

[male45]

You definitely can

[male45]

Im the same as you

[A_Nihilist]

There are many aspects of the bdsm lifestyle that are not pain.

A few examples would be pet play, choking (since that's not really pain), wax play, sensory deprivation, orgasm control/denial, behavioural reformation (if that's your thing).

It's a common misconception that BDSM is all kinky sex and pain.

[berserk945]

As long as your into being dominanted then yes you are into BDSM, just be clear to your partner what stuff your okay with and like.

[Pulseofsulfur]

You'd still be under BDSM because you're submissive and you like to be degraded