Why would you see others just for sex if they have a super high sex drive? That doesn't make sense with the "sexually not in sync" premise. Anyway, it's only cheating if you don't tell them, or you ask them and they're NOT OK with it, and you still go ahead and do it. If you ask them and they say it's fine, then it's not cheating. If you're already married, though, then even if you ask, it's not really OK, because you already made vows and swore to each other, so a formal agreement was made, and it will be pretty hard for them to get out of there, it's not as simple as breaking up. Either way, it's still way better if you ask than if you just go ahead and do it, so that they can always make the right decision for them
in my opinion it IS ok as long as your partner is cool with it... if you dont tell them til afterwards, its called cuckolding...
and sometimes the sexual side of your partner can be "awakened" by it, or maybe even joining in...
true love is difficult to find, but good sex isn't... dont throw the love away because of a lack of sex from the one you love
So you are wanting an open relationship where you both can fuck others? Call it anything you want but if you are married it is still adultery. I take it there is no element of trust in your relationship. I would say if you don't like the hand you drew then get out and stop pretending you are in for "until death do we part". You obviously are not.
Yes, it's still cheating.
And no, it's not cool to see others just because of that.
Have a chat with your partner about your need. Either you turn up for the sexual activities together, you live with less sex than you need, you break up, or you agree to have an open relationship.
But, cheating is never okay.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Absolutely. Have you looked at "polyamory"?
It's not necessarily an easy choice, and not accepted by and large in our society, with a lot of judgement around it. But for some people (like myself), it's pretty much the only way to go.
It's something like what you describe in your question, that you have a great match with someone, but you don't depend on that person for everything. Maybe it's sex, maybe it's conversation, maybe it's both, or some other need that you want met. But the relationship rules allow for outside interaction on various levels of intimacy, which takes a lot of the burden off of having that monogamous "one and only" partner that has to do everything to meet all your needs or somehow feel like they are failing to be a good partner.
My saying is, "If you don't want to take the car for a drive, why would you care if someone else does?"
Is it really bank-robbing if you tell them after you rob the bank?
It depends on the dynamics of the relationship. I feel like some couple's therapy is a better start to resolving the issue.
Only if you talk about it and agree to an open relationship. If you don’t do that, it’s cheating
Just tell them? I'd still call that cheating. Get permission beforehand? That'd be different. The whole "cheating" part of infidelity is doing it behind their back. Being upfront about it is a somewhat different beast.
If you tell them and they are fine with it, it's not cheating. If/when they decide they are no longer fine with it and you continue it? It's cheating.
If you think you're going to put up a fight over it if/when they decide they are no longer going to be fine with it?
Then leave now, because you're confirming the sex means more than your love with that person.
Go for what you should've done in the first place, what you consider the "complete" package.
Break it off if its that important to you. Dont see other people while your ina relationship. Most types open relationships dont work. Maybe try to talk qbout how you feel
if i break a plate or tell you i'm going to break it.. when it's shattered on the floor, it's not really broken because i told you i was gonna do it.
Idiots... smh..
It definitely should not be a first case scenario, couples therapy and maybe sex therapy for couples would definitely be a go to for this kind of trouble.
But, if you or your partner have a much higher sex drive and the other one wants them to be happy and are fine with them seeing someone else just for sex with no strings attached, then technically if both members are happy then it is fine.
Am I really guilty if I tell you I'm going to kill you before cutting you in half with a machete?
my last girl fucked loads of guys while we were together but she never hid it or lied about it and she knew i didn't mind so neither of us regarded it as cheating
What made you be OK with it? Did you not have sex with her?
@RemoErdosain she was a nymphomaniac and no one man could satisfy her... it didn't make me love her any less or her me. it was just a sex thing
But weren't you afraid of the nature of your relationship? It's basically as if you were banging a bunch of different girls. Most people who want a serious relationship would be against that idea partly because of the high risk involved. When I found out my ex was banging a lot of other guys, my first concern was STDs
Yeah. Especially if everyone agrees it is ok
If both of you are aware of it and agree on this, then yes, if either of the things isn't in place, then no.
No.
You should just part ways
If you spoke to ypur partner and turned into an open relationship or smth sure. Otherwise it's cheating
If you and your spouse are in agreement on it yes. Then you get to have an open marriage.
Yes, it still is cheating, but tbh I get the temptation
Are you in a relationship of a similar nature yourself?
@RemoErdosain no, but I was years ago
What did you do about it?
It's not cool it's disgusting. Shame to the tenth power
What makes it cheating is when you're having sexual relations with someone else WITHOUT your partners acknowledgement.
If you tell them after the fact that you did "it" then YES IT IS CHEATING.
No if, and, but, or any way around that simple fact.
I agree
Not cool
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