When in a relationship, how long does it take for you to start having unprotected sex?

[poneglyphs]

Is it like a month, couple of dates, or whenever you're ready?

[scott04sa22]

I'll wait after you build more trusts with her and maybe when the relationship gets more serious. if you had sex with her for the first time she's testing you and see if your sex is satisfying for her. Girls are very picky when it comes to their man. Later on she might tests you on wild sex positions she likes. If there's a sex position that she wants to do and if you unable to do it she could dump you over it and she's gonna give you an stupidest excuse on why she's dumping you because picky girls don't tell you why they're dumping you and I got dump from someone over a sex position I couldn't do. Girls dumps men over lots of stupidness reasons. Also from my experiences you could be her backup plan and she could be seeing someone else without you knowing and telling you. If your gonna ask her about it she's sure as hell that she ain't gonna tell you. Also you never know the guy she seeing could be her future fiance waiting an opening and opportunity to walk up to her and proposed to her!! That has also happened to me. Be sure to look for red flags at ALL TIMES during any relationships.

[Reaperbot666]

• I tend to have 4 rules when dating someone new.
• 1. no sexual interaction until were in a exclusive relationship.
• 2. no sex until we have been dating at least 90 days.
• 3. both of us get tested for STD's and other nasty things to prove we're clean.
• 4. we both use protection to reduce risk of pregnancy.
• if a new partner can't follow those. then their most likely not worth my time.
• as to when we stop using birth control options. really depends on how the relationship goes.

[Anonymous]

I find that condoms make sex way less enjoyable so I probably go faster than most. Normally it is after a few months after we both get tested and build the trust so that I am not worried about him sleeping around and catching something. But I can't say it hasn't been faster than that sometimes. Twice when I was younger in the spur of the moment, I went bare on two first dates. I ended up clean but would not recommend this due to the risk. But both times because of the risk was some of the hottest sex I have ever had.

[Jman001]

Where did those guys cum? I’m genuinely asking because obviously if they had condoms they cum in the condom but since they didn’t where did they shoot their cum to?

[poneglyphs]

So, are you willing to risk it on the first date for another guy you met?

[Torari]

Made the same mistake once. Took off the condom after 2 dates. Ended up with HPV. Thank goodness HPV is very minor and goes away on its own after a while.

[Opinion Owner]

@Jman001 One of the guys pulled out and came on me but the other time I was riding him and I was about to cum so asked if he could last a little longer after he said he was about to cum. He ended up cumming in me a few seconds after I came. We fucked twice the next day and he came in me those times since I was going to need to buy plan B anyways.

[Opinion Owner]

@Torari I got super lucky both times and am done taking risks while sleeping around anymore.

[Jman001]

I thought you had made him cum into the floor or something like that lol

[Opinion Owner]

@Jman001 I didn't mean to have him cum in me but being young after a few drinks and you don't think anything bad can happen to you.

[Cynicaldreamer]

After I make sure he's STD free, a reliable birth control has been discussed (unless he's sterile, then I'm good, lol), and I feel comfortable-

But there's no timeframe so much as I trust the guy and know we're going to be together for a long time. Meaning it might be anywhere from months to years; it is not going to be an instant process.

[poneglyphs]

ah, okay, well would a virgin need an std test?

[Agape93]

Why wouldn’t he? Some diseases can be inherited from parents

[poneglyphs]

@Agape93 hmmm I didn't know that?

[Agape93]

And now you do

[Gisellesupreme]

@Agape93 That’s paranoid asf.

[Agape93]

How is it paranoid? It’s basic biology hon

[Gisellesupreme]

@Agape93 It’s biology for someone to be paranoid? LOL K

[Agape93]

Where are you getting this paranoid thing from? It’s basic biology, regardless if you believe it or not.

[lumos]

@Gisellesupreme I don't think Agape93 is being paranoid. If you're not going to use a condom during sex, the smartest thing you can do is ask that the other person gets tested. Even if they're a virgin, they could have an STD, despite it being unlikely. So yes, although you can take their word for it, it's still smart for everyone involved to get tested regardless.

[Agape93]

Thanks @lumos ❤️

[lumos]

@Agape93 No prob! I wish people were more careful like you actually, better safe than sorry.

[Agape93]

Agreed, and thanks again :)

[SueShe]

@Gisellesupreme I feel I have to side up with @agape93

It is very well possible to "inherit" STD from a parent or to contract it without even having had penetrative sexual intercourse. You can get either herpes type 1 (HSV-1) aka lip herpes or type 2 (HSV-2) aka genital herpes. Both of them are considered STD.

Read the following article

www.stdaware.com/blog/can-a-virgin-have-an-std/

[Agape93]

Thanks as well @SueShe ❤️

[kaylaS91]

However long it takes for me to know they're STI-free, and that whatever we're using to prevent pregnancy is effective.

I knew my now-fiance was clean right from the get-go and we ended up having raw sex for the first time maybe like... two months into the relationship. It was on day one of my period (still decided to get plan B just in case)

[zeitgeist057]

If I'm in a relationship, I've probably already had unprotected sex with this person during the "dating" portion.

How long that takes depends on the person. I basically have to trust them and know about their sexual activity, testing, etc. It's a pretty simple conversation to have and understandably usually leads to sex fairly soon after.

[puck17]

I'm assuming that you mean unprotected sex as in no condom to protect from STDs? I'm on birth control but if I'm in a new MONOGOMOUS relationship it will be at least a month and only after we've had an honest convo and have clean test results from STD tests. Its just not worth it.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

The only reasons I would have unprotected sex would be because they've:

• Tested clean on an STD test completed recently (as since their last sexual escapade)
• Are sterile/vasectomied in the case of a guy
• Are otherwise someone I want to have sex with

It isn't a function of time. It's about whether or not they're clean and also childfree. I refuse to have sex with people who have STDs or who want children. We're fundamentally incompatible.

[AustinMan]

It's not about time. It's about connection and trust. Have you both been tested and are negative? Do you have an exclusivity agreement in place? Is she on birth control?

[IronLady6354]

as soon as I want to get pregnant

[bigmisssunshine]

When we’re ready to conceive a child.

[lumos]

I would never have fully unprotected sex. I'm always on the pill, and I prefer to have sex once we've established that we're in a serious relationship.
But I'm willing to leave the condom out once the both of us have gotten tested and our results come back negative. The only reason I'd wear a condom is to protect us from STDs, or if I'd forgotten to take my pill, but that hasn't happened yet during the 7 years I've been taking it, so I don't see leaving it out as a big deal.

[lumos]

and by leaving IT out, I mean the condom. :D

[poneglyphs]

True, I mean are condoms useless now or what? Ia it really that much better without it?

[lumos]

It's better for me at least, because condoms can cause a bit of unnecessary friction which ends up being more hurtful than helpful.

[poneglyphs]

Oh really, so when you on a date do you expect them to carry condoms or are tou already on birth control?

[lumos]

I'm always on birth control. I wouldn't have sex with someone I'm just dating. I prefer a serious relationship.

[poneglyphs]

Ah, okay what is the chance that a girl will let me have sex with her raw for my first time?

[lumos]

I don't know, that totally depends on her.

[poneglyphs]

@lumos yeah, you're right but that that an interesting proposal?

[Daniela1982]

I like to see how the Ho's think. Sex without on the first date? Ha! That is why STD's get spread like a wild fire. The girls on GaG who get no sex seem to fuck any guy who moves. Ha Ha, In reality most get no sex, including me.

[inb0x908]

U must b a guy in pink?

[Sbgirl]

This has never happened for me as I have only been with my boyfriend and he wears condoms as I am not on any birth control at the moment. We both don't want me on hormonal birth control, so I am looking into the IUD. I would only consider unprotected sex if I was on a super reliable birth control like the IUD or if I wanted to get pregnant.

Having unprotected sex without being on a really reliable birth control and not wanting kids is stupidity.

[RemiJ]

I would get an STD test done first to rule out anything. But I would say whenever you both are ready to cross that line. No pressure..

[wingattebaby16]

thats a hard one to answer..

it depends on the guy.. is he Experienced? has he slept around a lot? Has he gotten any girls prego?

for me, after a month or so.. again, sometimes the first time we have sex, i dont make him wear a rubber.. im on BC...

[CindyRuns]

In my case, until 2 months before I got married !!!

[ragequeen]

Lol what? If there is a risk of getting pregnant, not until we both have dated for several years and PLAN

[HOAAH]

When we are ready for a baby!

[hahahmm]

The week after she gets her tubes tied or I got snipped.


Don’t be a tard & make babies if you aren’t married or paying a surrogate.

[snowboarder720]

Unless I want a baby I don’t have unprotected sex; I never have.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Boring. Condoms kill the vibe 😂

[OurManFlint]

Trojan man over here too brotha. They could put my face on the box.

[snowboarder720]

@Dreamgirl97xo not worth a kid.

[Warmapplecrumble]

I only have unprotective sex 😂 but I'm picky with who I sleep with. Extremely picky and only have sex in relationships.

[Peanut127]

Once my tubes were tied (age 22or 23) that thought didn't matter unless he was scared I was lying lol I don't lie

[ImSparkly]

After he’s been tested...