Could you date someone who identifies as Asexual?

I would call myself asexual... I have little to no sexual desire and have always been like this my whole life. However, I do have a partner with whom I’m sexually active with, but sex is mostly something I do for him, because it feels like nothing to me. (To clarify, it’s not just him, I’ve slept with 5+ people and it always feels like nothing to me.)
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  • If a asexual girl had sex with 5+ guys already it going to be more of a turn-off for me than her asexuality, and it mostly nullify the main advantage that one would expect an asexual girl, being a opposite of promiscuous girl, but I am not surprised, it can be hard for an asexual girl to keep a guy around for long, so ironically an asexual girl can end up with a pretty promiscuous record, and it's like the worse of both worlds.

    You think that you would be able to keep having sex with him or at some point you going to break up with him because "you can't take it anymore", and then you miss being in a relationship, and here we go again. Theoretically I might date an Asexual, as long as she is loyal enough, otherwise I don't see the point, she didn't desire sex yet she end up having sex with a lot of guys, yea great. As long as an asexual girl is loyal and is able to have sex, not only for the short run but also for the long run, then I might consider that deal.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Yeah sure. Sex is not needed to love someone. I would like to have sex at least once tho cannot be a virgin for the rest of my life. So if she allowed once or i dunno we came to an agreement i could have sex with someone which i wouldn't prefer but some asexual's really don't want to do it. Maybe like do it before i get with them? Then after that longs if i can masturbate it really won't bother me.
    It's just kinda all about figuring what each can agree on etc. Like maybe she could do a hand-job every now and then nothing fancy just feels better with someone else hand kinda thing. It really just is finding a middle ground.
    I am one who matches a partner's sexual activity anyway so if they have none my sexual desire for sex will be low. Which it kinda is anyway when single.

Most Helpful Girls

  • no, I can't see that working in the long-run. I'm pretty sexual and when I do have sex, a big part of or contributor to my enjoyment is seeing how into it my fiance gets. If he were asexual and was doing it 'for me'... that would probably turn into a huge disconnect between us pretty quickly.

  • Yeah, but I’m not going to press them for something they don’t enjoy. I can get dick/pussy elsewhere

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  • I am just curious. When you say that sex feels like nothing to you, have you ever masturbated and had an orgasm? If so, did it feel like a pleasurable experience? I am not being judgmental in any way, but just trying to understand where you are coming from. I used to know a lady a long time ago who had sex before, and had just no interest in it at all. She did end up getting married. I assume her husband was the same way but I have no way of knowing.

    • Like I have no sexual desire whatsoever. I don’t get horny so I don’t have a need to masturbate. I’ve never had an orgasm. Sex doesn’t particularly feel good to me, and while I was single for over a year, I had no problems going without sex and didn’t touch myself once... though I do regularly have sex with my current partner, it’s mostly for his benefit.

    • Ah OK! I was just curious. We are all individuals!

  • I have times where I'm asexual but other times I have the sex bug 😂

  • I dont see an issue with it. A relationship based on sex is a relationship that is only happy in sex. I personally know 2 asexual people, a man and a woman, and both of them are the cutest, dorkiest people I've ever met. They are very loveable. This is my experience though k still think thay the only way I couldnt date an asexual person is if they were a nasty bastard, which I assume you aren't

    • Hahaha I don’t think I’m a nasty bastard but thanks for you opinion

  • Not a chance in hell.

  • Nope.

  • The best partner for an asexual is a sapiosexual

    • Interesting... never thought about that before

  • I wouldn’t want to.

  • I know you won't be convinced otherwise but you need a new partner. Obviously you've had 6 duds

  • Nope

    I can't even be with someone who rarely has sex either

    • It would seem more like a friendship to me

    • Thanks for your opinion!

  • Only if she agree to kiss and cuddle a lot

  • Nope. A deal breaker. You need a shrink. I've never in my entire life heard of any person that doesn't like mind-blowing orgasms. Me thinks you're just burned out for some reason. Get some professional help.

    • Apparently about 1% of the American population experiences little to no sexual attraction, similar to me.

    • Well there ya go... the odd man out. More self-diagnosed mental illness. Got it.

  • I couldn't no. Its something very important to me.

  • Oh, jeez, no. The sex life of my past relationship was almost non existant and absolutely chaotic. I am not willing to put up with that anymore.

  • I think I could if she is not into physical attraction it is fine with me

  • I understand where you're coming from, I have to be drunk to even attempt sex. I could date someone similar if we had a strong emotional bond bc it sure as hell wouldn't be based on physicality

  • No disrepsect towards asexuals (i personally know two who both gave me a pretty clear explanation about what it means to be asexual!), but as horny, lonely pansexual dork, i dont think i'd do very well with an asexual partner 😂😅

    • Thanks for your opinion!

  • No, because I wouldn't see the point in dating them. But i could be friends.

  • Absolutely never.

  • No, I wouldn't. I'd like to keep all my options open; sex without mutual attraction, pleasure, passion, desire, and satisfaction is not an option for me.

  • Probably not sorry

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