Can anyone give me tips to be less afraid to have sex for the first time?

[Anonymous]

[Berethor]

Interesting insecurities, look-wise you should not worry about the fact that you very skinny, the guy already know that you very skinny, maybe unless you wear a very loose clothing to hide it, if a guy want to have sex with you that means that you look attractive enough to him, looks are usually very important to guys, but you contradict yourself somewise very skinny and fit is not the same, guys usually prefer thin girls, but you might be too thin, maybe you need to gain little more weight before you have sex for the first time. As for your labia, it hard to know if the guy would like how your labia looks beforehand, but guys usually not judgmental about vagina looks, guys tend to care more about how a girl look in general, it's unlikely that he would focus his look only on your vagina and refuse to have sex with you only because your vagina might not look perfect, especially if he likes how the rest of your body looks.

I find it interesting that beside the insecurities about your looks, which is common concern for girls, your main insecurity is about hurting the guy, not about him hurting you, well that's cute, usually virgin girls worry about the opposite thing, you know hymen and all that, plus you also very skinny, don't you fear that the guy would break you? maybe when you are undressed the guy would be amazed and worried about your skinniness so much that he would decide that he need to put more food in you before his put his penis in you, but it's unlikely, you can count on a usual guy eagerness for sex, even if your extreme skinniness is a turn-off for him, it's likely not a deal-breaker, and not only that he not likely to leave you after you about to let him have sex with you, but it's unlikely that he would postpone having sex with you for almost any reason.

Don't understatemente the eagerness for having sex that most guys have, if a guy have a opportunity to put his penis into a vagina, then the fact that a girl's vagina don't looks perfect and/or that her vagina don't look too skinny is likely not going to stop him. A girl need to be extremely unattractive for a guy to refuse to have sex with her in the last moment, you think that you are extremely unattractive? like most girls who are very skinny, you are likely very skinny by choice didn't you? so you become very skinny by choice and then you afraid to have sex because of it? then what the point for you to be so skinny? didn't you want to show your skinny body to the guy? don't you want to feel being dominated by a guy who is much bigger than you weight-wise if not also height-wise, didn't it makes you feel more feminine? why don't you think about the positive aspects of your skinniness, and not only about the negative aspects of your skinniness? and if being very skinny really stops you from having sex then maybe you should become chubby? or maybe you should become thin without being skinny? just like chubby girls usually overcome their insecurities about their chubbiness, you should overcome your insecurities about your skinniness, if you like being skinny, but only while you in clothes then you not truly like being skinny.

Girls are expected to look pretty, but looks are also a matter for taste, though if a girl is very ugly then most guys would agree that she is very ugly, but as I said if a guy consider you ugly then he was likely not going as far as having you undressed in front of him in the first place. You can worn the guy about your sharp hips if you didn't think that he notice the risk himself, it seems like a legit concern, safety first, it would be nice of you to worn him, and while it might make you sound insecure, the thing is that girls are usually not expected to be strong, the guy would likely still want to have sex with you despite your insecurities and the danger that your sharp hips pose, also while that quality would likely not stay with you forever, the fact that you are virgin would likely make you more valuable to him, the fact that you had not been with other guys before him could easily outweigh all the things that you are insecure about.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/AManIsAlwaysEager

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MenAreStrongWomenArePretty

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/WomenAreDelicate

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/NatureAdoresAVirgin

[Dargil]

If he is amenable to it (I would be), let your first session be in the Cowgirl position. You do not have to bounce, just thrust and shimmy. And you do not have to go immediately to insertion, which may be problematic as a virgin. Instead, get him hard and lay his penis up and flat. Then "nest" it between your labia (longer ones are perfect for this) and begin to thrust. Use lube or make sure you are wet. It's called "outercourse" and popularly a cameltoe slide. Look that up on Bing video and see how it works.

[AmandaYVR]

You don't have pointy edges, you can't hurt the guy.

We can't give you confidence in yourself. We're just internet strangers who don't know you. But we can remind you that everyone goes through this initial first awkwardness, and people love sex, generally, so it must be good, right?

You will only detract from your life if you over-worry about stuff like this.
Girls are way, way more critical of themselves than guys are of girls' bodies. Once you take this in and fully believe it, life will get a lot easier.

(And P. S. The more you get to know each other, the more you become a real person, someone he cares about, and not just a random collection of body parts. That's when the compartmentalization happens, and people are more critical.)

[CriticalDiscourse]

Accept it won't be perfect, beautiful, or flawless. Take your time, use lube, foreplay a lot, make a point to laugh and take your time.

[OlderAndWiser]

What are your specific fears? You've posted anonymous so please feel free to respond candidly.

[Asker]

Hurting them cause I’m small but my hips stick out a little, I’m insecure about my vagina, and I’m scared they won’t want to have sex with me once I’m undressed even though I have a fit body

[OlderAndWiser]

Your hips are not going to hurt a partner. I have never heard of a guy being hurt by his partner's hips while having sex. Do you have a current partner and you are contemplating becoming sexual, or is this just speculating what it will be like for your first time? Thinking that your vagina looks weird is a rather common fear among women. Some women have a very simple appearance, no protruding labia. They are afraid that once they shave their pubic hair, they will look like a little girl. Other girls have protruding labia that they fear are too large and they think they look ugly. Some women have skin around their genitals tat is darker than the rest of their body. I can't speak for your first partner, but I have had sex with a number of women and I have seen all sizes and shapes, I've never - not even once - seen a woman's vagina for the first time and become unattracted. I've never sent a girl home because her vagina looks too weird once she gets naked. I hope this helps. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk more.

[Dinklex3]

Doing it with someone you're comfortable with and who you know you can trust.

[swettannie]

that. and don't go all the way imediatly, start with only small things

[Mikelaughs]

Well, let's start with, what makes you most afraid about it?
Perhaps we should talk about it somewhere else where others can't see

[Mikelaughs]

Ok, hmu

[DrippingHoney]

Nothing anyone tells you will allay your fears. You just have to be ready and let things happen. Trust me, you won't hurt him.

[Sevenpointfive]

i ran away the first two times with girls i liked only to do it with someone i could throw away the next morning.

hold on to your virginity as long as you can. no one before your husband deserves it. if you do that it won't be scary

[Miristheiss]

Date them for a long time and get close and comfortable with them.

[LiamSawyer]

Yes learn to relax as tending your self will make your vagina tighter and more difficult to penetrate without much pain.

[chriscdi]

i dont think you'll hurt anyone unless you purposely do it

[Browneye57]

You're simply not ready. Do some more growing up. You're worried about the wrong things.

[Massageman]

Be yourself.
Don't get right into the "intercourse" part of things.
Be yourself.
Spend some time exploring each other's body, relaxing, cuddling.
Be yourself.
Don't worry about your hips. You won't hurt him with your hips!
And did I mention, be yourself?

[Iron_Man]

Yes get married first and be in love

[_Whatever]

"scared I'll hurt the guy" uhhhh... how, exactly.

[Windows2011]

You won’t hurt him, but you two should have a nice a long foreplay before he goes inside you, it’s better when you are exited and he is horny

[pizzalovershouse]

Know what your body likes an doesn't thats why most learn what feels good to them first so usely there's a bit of pain but thats why some girls own toys as virgins to use to be ready for first time with no pain

[ManHater]

LMAO! just let him take your cherry the faster the better so he can drop you hard so fast for the next ripe cherry for him to pop. Leaving you wondering how you let your self be used by a boy. No one likes a used cum dumpster.

[Asker]

You sound like more of a virgin than me

[ManHater]

Just leading by example that's all, you will learn how you were used. Girls your age are young, dumb and are easy when they are running on emotions. Anyways hurry up and open your legs, fulfill the prophecy like all the other girls your age wanting to open their legs just to make their man stay with them.

[Asker]

You assume I’m stupid, Im very experienced in the real world and I’m in no rush to have sex. I don’t feel the need to do it I just want to know how to be ready for when I am comfortable. Why don’t you hurry up and shut up?

[In_Trance]

Watch porn... does anyone look scared to you?

[Asker]

You do realize absolutely everything about porn is fake right? Even the cum is fake.

[In_Trance]

When you have your first orgasm from sex, tell the world how fake it feels

[Asker]

Are you on drugs?

[In_Trance]

Never had one in my life. But I have had sex... and you haven't. Your fear is irrational

[Asker]

My fear is not irrational okay? Who are you to tell me my fear is irrational when you don’t feel the things I feel or have the thoughts I have? You have nothing to be insecure about because you’ve already had sex.

[In_Trance]

Good luck

[Valnac]

Lots and lots of foreplay.
When you are sexually aroused and soaking wet you will be ready.

[Younghungguy17]

Play around with yourself and experiment first and talk with your partner

[gandolph3]

You won't hurt the guy. And thr look of your pussy won't matter

[Anonymous]

Skinny is sexy, hips don’t hurt.
Your labia are fine... guys getting laid don’t care about that foolish shit. Only angry boys use that as a point of attack.

The pointer for you when doing it the first tome is to make sure YOU are in control when putting it in the first time. If you let him lead you will likely get hurt because the guy is either inexperienced or doesn’t care enough to take his time to get you aroused or relaxed.