He dosent want a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I was dating this guy for like a month or so and we got along so so well we’d spend alll night together all the time. We had sex on the fourth date because it just felt right. After this he messaged me but I could just feel his energy was kinda distancing. He still spoken to me but I could just feel something wasn’t right. I asked him if he wanted to hang out because I wanted to know what he wanted. He said he was busy so I just said over text and asked if he wanted anything serious and saw anything from us dating. He said that it would be serious if he wasn’t so busy but he dosent want a relationship right now. He also posted something like this on Instagram. Since then he’s been posting literally sex on his story and just ignoring my messages? What have I done wrong. I’ve been so relaxed with him and been nothing but nice. We’re both attracted to each other and each other’s vibe so I don’t understand. He’s been ignoring my text for like two days. We got along so well he even said he’d consider me to be his girlfriend at one point. He said he really likes me before but if he did like me wouldn’t he consider a relationship?

[winterfox10]

Sometimes your view about a woman just changes after having sex. You have to remember that sex is an expression of love for men, and so there's a huge element of anticipation that goes into it. Things that normally annoy you seem playful. The sexual charge makes her look better. All kinds of stuff looks better when you are anticipating being intimate. After you and he have sex, he's just done the most intimate thing he can with you, so now he's just left with all the stuff he doesn't really like all that much without any of the "yeah, but she might be great in bed."

[Asker]

So is it my fault then? I mean the sex was really good but it’s not just that we really get along. He’d spend so much time with me. I just saw him on tinder again though and he put in his bio ‘not for serious’ so I’m assuming he never wanted anything serious all along

[winterfox10]

No, it’s not your fault. Things simply changed. Maybe he realized that he was just looking for something different. Maybe getting closer to you scared him. It’s also possible that the sex wasn’t as fulfilling for him.

[Asker]

The thing is the sex was so good he couldn’t stop moaning. This sounds so much detail lol. And he kept saying how good I felt and how amazing I was. It all started after I asked him what he was looking for he got distant?

[winterfox10]

Maybe the sex wasn’t emotionally fulfilling for him? I don’t have answers for you here, I can’t know without talking to the guy

[abhi_97]

Why do women give their body so easily to a man? Granted that you were into him and wanted to take this forward, but did you try knowing about his intentions? What if he just wanted a fling and nothing else?

Now that he did all the good stuff with you saw you naked, his curiosity of knowing you more diminished. It's important to take wise decisions when it comes to relationships. It's because sex got easier to get, love got harder to find.

[samiammm]

You either go with your gut feeling or you go to him and ask.
Get some more info and then decide on what's going on.
Yes it does seem odd that he likes you and considers you your gr but then again he doesn't really want a relationship.
Let's find out what he does want.

[spartan55]

He said all that to get you invested. He always wanted sex, nothing else.

[boggboss]

Because he lied to you and never wanted one he wanted sex and he got it after that he dont have to act like a amazing guy because he got all he wanted

[Asker]

So what now? Will he just not wanna talk to me. This has never happened to me before. I mean I’ve had a friends with benefits but I didn’t care about them so it just didn’t matter. He also said to me after the sex that ‘he was waiting to do that the whole time so it felt better’ I don’t know what that’s meant to mean

[boggboss]

He will ghost until he wants sex again or simply not return its crazy you can't see this when its so obvious he got sex then started to distance himself

[Asker]

I know i just find it crazy how someone would put in so much effort just for that to ghost me again and lie and say they want a relationship when they don’t. I probably see the world a bit innocently it’s just hard to get my head round since it was so believable

[boggboss]

I have know a guy to chase after a girl for a year to get sex then dump her trust me the effort put in means nothing as he was most likely talking with multiple women

[Asker]

Yeahh that’s true. But I did ask him to hang out this weekend at mine since I move in by myself this week, if he was just using me wouldn’t he just come straight at it. I mean unless he just dosent want sex right now. I just wanna see him

[boggboss]

He is most likely chasing other women atm he will return when he is bored and knows you will take him

[Wise4myage]

Busy my ass. He used you for sex, and that's all their is too it. So forget him and move on, but in the future, don't be so quick to give it up.

[Valnac]

Sorry to say, some guys are trophy hunters.
From your read, I’d say you were a trophy.

[steveranger]

He is a fuck boy.

[Anonymous]

He used you for your pussy