Would you just try?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend havnt had sex in 3 weeks which is a long time for us
We've lost all intimacy at the min
We bearly kiss maybe a peck wen one us is leaving the house
I'm craving intimacy or any type with him
I keep wanting to try with him but when we get into bed he's always saying how tired he is hell be glad go sleep... yet he sits up half the night watching shit

Should I just go for it I want to try tonight
I just fear him rejecting me because itll feel so awkward afterwards to just lay beside somone who has turned you down

Would you just go for it
And if they turned you down would you ask why

[PrudentGuy]

He's also 30-35 like you? Then I think there are more complex issues than mere "tired" and "watch shit".

To speak the least, I think work pressure and stresses of life had caught up with him.

Had you ever spoke with him about work issues?
Or finances and disappointment? A heart to heart talk showing your interests in his life may uplift his intimacy for you again.

Next as mentioned by others, porn or drug usage (not necessary drug abuse) may lower his libido.

Again, an intimate "sex talk" outside the bedroom may help uou know his fantasies more. Then suggests how you two may play out some of his fantasies. This may help.

Note: planned or scheduled sex may sound unromantic. But it works.

Finally, could he find sex boring? Or no more as appealing as in his 20s? Ask him. Assure him that you will not judge his replies nor let them affect your relationship.

While not necessarily suggesting open relationship or start a threesome, you may want to see how you can play a part to make his sex life according to what HE wants, not what you wants.

I faced tis problem with my SO before. Our determination after a discussion was, have daily sex for 6 months, no excuse for not doing.

Yep, every day. A commitment. No excuse. Then we added naughty texts and emails, and a nude lifestyle when we have privacy (yes, all the hours outside the bedroom but in the house were naked, compulsory).

After 3 months, I started to get horny daily again and our intimacy restored.

[JPrez]

Is this dude or a soy boy? Does he like dudes? Not sure why he would turn you down like that.

[Gwenhwyfar]

I would try

[Stanfordmorris90]

Go out and have some quality time with each other. You both need to spend time and get a break to your office work.
Swim with him, or shower dance with him may increase his fantasy for you.

[Anonymous]

You Mentioned he is watching Shit is that means Po*n?
If Yes He adicted to it.
so Use Fit Dresses Arround Him Just Show littlebit not all.
He will come Back to You again.

[Anonymous]

Have you had his Testosterone levels checked?