Girl I'm seeing wants to have a threesome, with another guy, but I am not into the idea. What do you think and how should I handle this?
We have been dating for about 4 months, and in that time we have had a lot of sex, and kinky sex as well. We are both very sexual, and I love it. But... she has mentioned in passing a few times that she would be interested in an open relationship, but that she wasn't sure. I told her everytime it has come up, that I would not be down for such a thing, and am looking to date one person seriously, and that I don't share my woman with other men, she is bi, I don't mind women.
She still isn't ready to be "official" but hasn't been dating anyone else, and neither have I. I have given her time to decide, but then about a week ago a topic came up. Where she joked about us having a threesome with another guy, but then turned into a real discussion. Not only does she want to have MMF threesomes like "2 a year maybe", and not only that but she wants me to DP her with another guy "most likely a big black guy with a huge dick". Im a white guy with an above average dick, but still. She is using my resistance to this as a reason she is unsure if we should make it official. Like this is something she needs in a partner. I told her I will never be cool with that, and she said she is sad, and cried a bit that night, but that she still wants to see me and needs time to think still. If this is something she really wants.
I am open, but she says she needs someone open minded. This is literally one of my only hang ups sexually. No other dudes period. I am willing to work with her, but not if it involved bringing other guys in. Maybe a one time thing, but she wants this regularly by the sounds of it.
My question. Do I give this woman the time she needs, while standing my ground. Or do I cut her loose to find someone else who can do this for her. She has been interested in FFM too, but admits she would also feel jealous.
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