Are you into hookups?

Question

Its never really been my thing because i catch feelings so easily. Plus i dont like to just give myself away to just anyone. Like if i do something with you, its likely because i’ve liked you for a long ass time and am glad something finally going down between us 🤣 I only ever hooked up with 2 guys but it was pretty PG so I don't know if that even counts. Like the most I let happen was one sucked my tits and fingered me while i grinded on him and jerked him off. And like we had a long ass makeout session where i may have been completely naked 😂 but the other was some years later and he just stared at my boobs while he fingered me and i jerked him off. End of the day, they were longterm crushes and they just kept on hoeing after that day, so clearly the hookup wasn't worth it but i felt accomplished 🤣👌 Now i can't even do that little bit because I’d prob actually take it too far or catch serious feels. So yea, hookups ain't for me. But you do you... #iGotTheHookup #FeelFreeToList

Shamalien · Accepted Answer

Hookups are the soul killer. If you are seeking hookups, really take some time to introspect, what do you want from life? How is this getting you any closer to it?

If you only want to be with one woman, then you should be smart enough to realize that looking for casual sex only decreases your chances of your dream relationship ever happening. Some call it baggage, but really, you've chunked away at your soul and have not much left to give to another. You're not going to meet the love of your life in a hookup, I know there are exceptions but these are exceptions, not the rule. Sex is supposed to be the final step in the course of two people bonding, not the first.

The vast majority of men are always going to accept hookups. Now I am not one of these, because I have such a high level of disgust for whores and wouldn't risk jeopardizing my future over their slutty ass, but most are, so ladies, unfortunately, it is up to you to resume your hive mind "don't put out without commitment" ritual and keep the men in line. I don't know if men en masse can ever have this kind of willpower, it doesn't come from biology for us, you need to engage the higher will. Women do have a biological foundation for choosing someone who will stick around though, and that's what our culture used to harness to restrict sex to monogamous relationships. Yeah I'm sexist go rant about it, the sexes are different, end of story.

abhi_97 · Accepted Answer

I don't believe in sleeping with random girls just to satisfy my sexual needs. I attach my feelings to sex, I can't make love to a person I've just met 2 hours ago. I don't know how hard is it for people to stick to one person when they're in a relationship but for me it's pretty easy. If someone still feel like getting in bed with another person, they shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.

KeziL · Accepted Answer

I'm like you, I catch feelings too easily. I had a couple hookup situations but they just made me sad. What I really wanted was a solid healthy relationship, but those are hard to come by for me and there was only so much a girl could take, so a couple times I did the next best thing I could think of and just let things just be for a night, because I'm someone who needs physical touch and at least that way I could feel like things were right for a night. That sounds really sad. A lot of that is how I've looked at the reasoning for these hookups after the fact but at the time I think I kind of convinced myself that things could work out and they'd stick around.
Anyways, I catch feelings too easily and get attached. I worked on my self control and I'm done with hookups, making out is fine with me but I'm trying to be in a real relationship so I am done with hookups.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Fuck no that’s stupid. Life is too short and I need a real love and a family someday not some casual sex that’s a waste of my time and I’m not cheap either.

Majesty101 · Answer

Two words: hell. no.😂😂 I just can't do it.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

No I really don't.. I'm more used to the long term committed relationship. For many reasons...

CourtneyJane · Answer

Currently no, but my partner and I have an open relationship so I wouldn't rule it out.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

When I was a young man, I had ONS and casual sex. I'm not a young man anymore, and I've learned my lessons.

Lov2PlezUgurl · Answer

I have hooked up a couple of times but I wanted more than just one night I always want more but it's been 8 years sence I had sex so if there's any one that just wanted to hook up or more or less call me

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

No. I ain't cheap.

ImSparkly · Answer

I used to be, sex was just sex for me for the longest time. It fulfilled a want. I never really got 'feelings' for anyone, maybe some comfort, but never romantic or emotional attraction.

I was broken for the longest time.

Angel_123 · Answer

well i done sooo many i grown out of it i only meet them once Rarely 2 times but yeah haha

MrsJaximus-Lion · Answer

no never

EmmaMary · Answer

No, never have and never will.

Jjpayne · Answer

I in mind would probably just enjoy having the simple art of closeness but oddly enough right now a good cuddle while watching Netflix would be enough for me.

I honestly am waiting for a serious relationship first because even thinking about it so no hookups for me

SjE78 · Answer

I dont do it myself tbf, never been one for hookups or ons, or even friends with benefits for that matter as i get attached to those who i am intimate with especially if i've made a connection on that level...

DrippingHoney · Answer

I'm not into hookups at all.

ChocoBrownieMonster · Answer

i felt the American in you. This is me when a girl wants to hookup

Finchie40 · Answer

I don’t mind hooking up but it’s better if it leads into more

Avicenna · Answer

Generally, no, but there are some exceptions. Sometimes there is nothing else you can have with someone you went on a date with.

Bhavin2184 · Answer

No...

Reaperbot666 · Answer

not into hookup culture or one night stand culture. much rather exclusively date a girl who I like. while having a casual sexual relationship with her. I tend to have 4 rules when dating someone new. 1. no sexual interaction until were in a exclusive relationship. 2. no sex until we have been dating at least 90 days. 3. both of us get tested for STD's and other nasty things to prove we're clean. 4. we both use protection to reduce risk of pregnancy. if a new partner can't follow those. then their most likely not worth my time.