Guys, would you enjoy having sex with your partner without lights or with lights, if she's a shy person?

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oncpl · Accepted Answer

I can narrate my experience with a shy girl.
She was very shy and virgin. First time we confined ourselves in a room, she was obviously what would come next. After kissing and pressing her boobs, I pulled her shirt up. With some hesitation, she helped me taking off shirt and bra. She wanted to have sheet of bed over her body but I desired to see her nude. It was day light so everything was visible despite curtains were drawn. I removed my clothes, she immediately put her hands on eyes. But a smile was in her lips. I kissed her hands and slowly removed them from eyes. We embraced. After a few minutes, I undid her trouser and pantie. She was then comfortable but told to properly draw curtains. We didn't have sex, only oral was sufficient.
Next time she was absolutely comfortable. Thereafter we never bothered if lights were on or off, but most of the days we had sex in light.
So a shy girl can be comfortable under light if all is done slowly and without haste.

Berethor · Accepted Answer

Guys are more visual than girls, that's why guys usually prefer lights on, so light off is a turn-off for many guys but not necessarily a deal-breaker, and if it's a deal-breaker for the guy then how is she his partner in the first place? unless he lied to him or unless he is a optimist that think that he can change her.

Yes the guy would likely be able to get some pleasure from it even with lights off, mainly because pussy is pussy, but it does not means that he is not enjoying it less, because light off is far from ideal for most guys. It's understandable if she act like that because she inexperienced, but if she keep acting like that even while being experienced then it's quite odd.

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PrudentGuy · Answer

Oh I sure want the lights on.

I know shyness is always an issue. And I'll try to help her feel at ease by other means.

For example, when my SO and I were new to sex, I did research on sex and then study with her. I thereby also let her know how much I enjoy seeing her body naked, particularly her butt.

She laughed and laughed. In disbelief. And lights still off.

But suddenly one day, she looked at herself in the mirror and then flaunt her butt and said "you like these?" My reply was a sure and affirmative "yes!" She still had doubts.

But after another few sessions, where she intentionally did it doggy style, she believed me.

Thereafter, lights were on. To my delights.

And yes, i like it lights on, just sufficiently to see her body and enjoy it. I think i derived a great deal of pleasures from it and in return I make sure I satisfy her with at least an orgasm every session.

Sex improves.

AustinMan · Answer

Lights, lights, and more lights. Men get turned on by what they see.

Red_Arrow · Answer

I want lights! I enjoy looking at her.

Marcuslrh · Answer

I enjoy both it's great seeing a women on top in the light though so being in the dark can't compare to that view 🤩😍

spartan55 · Answer

Guys are visual, lights at least dim.

abhi_97 · Answer

Lights on, clothes off are two mandatory rules during sex. Well two people are having sex which means they're quite comfortable around each other and have spent some good amount of time together. I don't think embarrassment should be a topic to bring up in between at any point in your relationship.

slatyb · Answer

It takes special effort to make a room so dark the other person can't be seen.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

have had sex with a girl with the lights off in the past. better to have lights on but turned down rather low. just helps to be able to see what your doing and where you putting things. however if she goes the extra mile to dress up. in something more sexy then her normal look. nice to have lights on to see her more for full effect for her effort.

Weasly · Answer

I prefer lights, dim is ok, but not dark, I want to be able to see where I am.

If she needs dark, I would find that difficult & be less active as I need to see my surroundings in general, unless about to go to sleep.

Dargil · Answer

Very much so. I'll find what I'm looking for.

Natehunter199 · Answer

depends on the moment. I like some light but most importantly its what will make her comfortable

TeeSquare · Answer

Doesn't matter to me as long as she's comfy

broken_heart_at_48 · Answer

Both can be fun but lights on is definitely the best and if we're fucking there's no reason to be shy

BrokenEMT · Answer

I'd be good with whatever made her comfortable.

genericname85 · Answer

i prefer at least dim lights, to see what the heck i'm doing and also cause the visuals of seeing her naked body turn me on.

if you're in bed with someone shoving their dick inside you, there's no place for "shyness". get naked, have fun and get the deed done or move to a monastery and become a nun xD you can't have both worlds at the same time.

reptocarl2 · Answer

I have to have some light

george201 · Answer

If she is a shy person , i have to make her more comfortable and haveca discussion together to know the reason.
Ehen she is ready we will have it , if she is not ready to have sex with lights on but wants to have with lights of we will make love the way she likes and ofcourse we can change thst gradually

Anarchus121 · Answer

Yes.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Either way is fine. But I would prefer to see her. Why would you hide such a beautiful body?

clampfan101 · Answer

I’d prefer the lights on. I’d want to see her. (And what I’m doing. lol) Night #1 at the very least.

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