My daughter is 14 and wants to know about oral sex :\ should I tell her? Or have her ask her father. ?

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anonChineseMale · Accepted Answer

It's hard... I know but I learned this in school. Sex Ed is great. Uncomfortable but who else is there to go to if everyone is scared too talk about it. It is better to be informed and make informed decision rather than oops I didn't know I could get... Pregnant, STDs, or someone just fools your kid in to an awkward situation.

Being informed is the best. Then it's up to your child to start navigating the world and thier own life. Plus people that don't actively masturbate or have sexual experience ever during their development can actually make sex feel bad for them. This is part of our nature. So... I suggest informing her.

Info about oral? Well clean your mouth. Use dental dam if you aren't sure. Clean cut and filed nails for insertion in to the vagina or else you can get an infection. toys are cool too but maybe save that for later. Giving oral similar case as above. Be clean about it. Use a Condom. Birth control is a thing. I don't personally like the idea of messing with hormones but... People love going bare. Sometimes it's used purely because of horrible cramps? There are different type of birth control. If by any chance she may have been having unprotected sex... There is a thing called plan B to avoid pregnancy.

Yeah so much to talk about.

But please inform your kids about safe sex.

I hope that helps.

BobbyC65 · Accepted Answer

Mother-daughter talked without father.

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

Why in crumbling earthquakes is a 14 year old girl suddenly interested in a blow job? Her boyfriend asking for one or what? She should be concentrating on an education and not the sexual kind that they don't teach you in school. Anything you want to know you can learn on line these days.

elizamichale1 · Accepted Answer

I think you should tell her n guide her so in future if she needs anything she would know she can come to u
What u can do is have her father be present there when u talk to her n if not i think u should both be open to her to give n guide her about sexual education

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

The real question is why can’t you just talk to her? What makes you so embarrassed to talk to her about it?
Obviously she trusts you. If you don’t talk to her now she won’t be coming back to you when she needs real advice about sex. So take this opportunity while you have it to build trust and be practical about the advice you give her.

purplepoppy · Answer

I'm sure She's already googled it

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I think it'd be best if you tell her what it is. If she asks her dad it might feel weird to her. Not just that but she's a girl and her dad's explanation isn't going to be the same as yours since you both might tell from experience, so it's best you tell her and answer her questions instead (if she has any).

Hawner · Answer

You can tell her yourself without a problem, but if the father could be present as well it could benefit her.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Do you not know anything about oral sex? Why would you pass this off to your husband?

ushagomez · Answer

Explain about it to her yourself or both you and her father talk to about it at the same time

iseekpinetrees · Answer

You should tell her

Lov2PlezUgurl · Answer

I think a show and tell session should be schedule once a week preferably on Saturday by you and the internet teaching her everything that you don't want some boy to teach her you should know what I'm talking about

Fatherhere901 · Answer

Seriously? Do you want your ex-husband, ('cause I'm assuming that because you said “her father”), to really talk about sex to your 14 year old daughter, Especially when it comes to oral sex?

Your daughter came to you for a reason. She is seeking your guidance. She is seeking your answers.

Also, is a pretty good chance she already asked her dad and got his side of the story. So, either way, she is either seeking your side and wants to honestly get your opinion. If you simply brush her away , she was going to remember that. It is better to be upfront and honest with her to build a bond between you two. Or she's going to realize her dad is the only one that she can talk to

Buckle up buttercup, this is called parenting…. don't screw it up

Berethor · Answer

Yes tell her father, fathers are usually better at dealing with those questions than mothers. :)

roody · Answer

Definitely don't have her ask her father, that's a weird dynamic.

Mikelaughs · Answer

You really should tell her.  If she feels comfortable enough with you that she is asking questions, you need to answer

IAMNathanael · Answer

I think all three of you should just sit down together and have a chat about the birds and the bees. Why bring in anything else unnecessary.

ChocoBrownieMonster · Answer

Tell her yourself, she obviously chose you as she feels comfortable about it which is really good and tells you how amazing you are as a mother to her. But you know she's going to want to know exactly how to do it right, so just grab your dildo out and show her i guess. Also it's a chance for you to warn her about STDs and what to look out for. Bad parents are those whose kids feel uncomfortable talking to them, she's a very lucky girl.

hornyafbi69 · Answer

Whoop that butt then tag in dad way way too soon

Weasly · Answer

As an outsider I would say best for you to tell her, but it depends on yours and her dads relationship for who is bets to tell her.

Dargil · Answer

If you decide to tell her anything about it at all, try to tie it in with teaching prudence and an admonition that guys her age are incapable of love and giving herself away to them will only gain her a reputation.

alice55 · Answer

She would surely look it up on internet

Natehunter199 · Answer

Dont get her father involved. It will be a shit storm between the two of them and she would probably be mad at you for it. Me being a fauther of 2 girls. That is one conversation that we will never have.