Is it weird that I get embarrassed if my so finds my toy in bed where I left it?

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My ex would come over and sometimes I'd forget that my toy was in the bed. He'd pull back the made bed and find it laying in the spot he usually likes to lay... The thing with him is that he'd come in and say something like "oh I see what you've been up to!!!" but his tone, it never came across funny. Always kind of judgy.
I dunno maybe we were just awkward with each other but his tone was wayyyy off, 'I find this amusing'
I generally felt embarrassed as hell about a lot of intimate stuff around him.
Like he was always peering into me secret life whilst I didn't have get to know his.

Is it weird that I get embarrassed if my so finds my toy in bed where I left it?

Jaximus-Lion · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't give it much thought in my relationship. We both are neutral about it from the beginning. She told me she uses a dildo so i made her a clone of mine instead, i had my pornos in my computer and we started watching together and now our tastes in pornos are very different than it was 11 years ago. We have a common pornhub and youporn accounts and we put a lot of videos in our favorite list, we did upload few of our homemade movies, but we failed the amateur program and we stopped. It's all about communication and trust, not many can reach that level now days because of selfishness.

Ripper_E · Accepted Answer

No I get it. You probably just aren't comfortable enough with that person. If it's me, I already know or suspect that you masturbate. If you want to talk about it we can and if not leave it alone. No need to judge.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

no its not. I get embarrassed too but I like my so to sometimes catch me in the act.

Gwenhwyfar · Accepted Answer

That’s happened to me too. Being a little embarrassed is normal.

Jjpayne · Answer

I think it's telling him you are having fun without him while it's more a thought than reality, it is still a real thought

Makeushiver · Answer

Don't feel weird or at least don't live there. You have hit a few positive notes. The first is guys love the idea - or the view- of girls masturbating so seeing it probably turned him on. Secondly, it shows you're open about your sexuality. I'll bet he winds up spending some time fantasizing about you using it/them to get yourself off.