If you’ve never came before does that mean that the sex was bad?

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My boyfriend lasts like 16-40 minutes he lasts a good amount of time but I’ve never came before I still think sex with him is great it’s very exciting, feels good, and I love him But I was just curious about if this means that the sex is bad. I wouldn’t know because he’s the only person that I’ve ever had sex with but I’m glad that he is the only person.

Stevepro68 · Accepted Answer

One of my best sexual partners once explained to me that a "Orgasm" as the end all be all of sex, is male concept.
She would orgasm not all the time. Still felt it was really really good even without the O game.
So no worries for most women. It can be really fun without the O.
There is one medical issue. Some women have physiologic issues that make sex with orgasms difficult. Talk to your OB, and if you don't have any medical problems. Plus you can get yourself off.
Then it is time to take command, and learn your man what pushes your buttons and what doesn't.
Lack of direction is the usual reason. Guys often think that women are like men. The same basic thing will get off girl b because it worked on girl a.
You have to fix that wrong male idea.

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

As someone with no first hand experience (yet) I won't preach about the do's and don't's of sex.

But what I do know is. The most stimulating interactions I've ever had especially with a girl were ones where neither of us was afraid to be spontaneous. Say and do suggestive things. Get out of our own skin.

And my guess is sex works the same way it's not about how long it lasts it's about what these minutes include. Try exploring more do things that scare you just for the thrill of them.

And if he's acting all shy about it just smash him on the head and tell him to man up.

Gwenhwyfar · Accepted Answer

No! Not bad sex. Just means you cum easier from masturbation. Lots of girls do. Get him to lick you or play with you just the way you like it while you think about riding his dick.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well unless you cum it isn't great. You need to talk him through it so he can get you there.

summiter · Answer

Some girls just cannot orgasm from "normal" intercourse. Teach him how to give you oral!! Have you tried some different positions? Try girl on top that way you can control the speed, depth and move so that your clit is stimulated. Consider getting some sex toys and teach him how to use them on you. How often are you two having sex? Does round two help? Maybe consider mutual masturbation? Your thoughts?

Berethor · Answer

Not bad, but not ideal either, but not all girls are able to cum in sex, and it don't seems to be his fault if you are not able to cum even when he is having sex with you for a 40 minutes.

TadCurious · Answer

Jay I don't think it means it was bad. As you probably already know, it's more common than not for women to not orgasm from intercourse alone. But if you're able to orgasm from masturbation then you have that as a really good foundation for guiding your boyfriend to doing the "other stuff" to bring you to orgasm. And hopefully he wants to do that before the intercourse starts. But this is still all really new for you and these things will evolve with more practice.
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Sevenpointfive · Answer

16-40 minutes ayy? you like take a break and drink juice? what's going on?

Reaperbot666 · Answer

likely the positions your having sex in are not giving you maximum pleasure. many women tend to orgasm easier or better from clit situation to some degree. so you might require more foreplay or after play to finish. or consider trying different positions that you have not done already. if nothing else try just reaching your own hand down there during sex and rubbing yourself. to increase your pleasure and chance of orgasm. if your using condoms that could also be the issue. because they reduce sensitively for both guys and girls to some degree.

Weasly · Answer

You state you like it so he is not bad, but he should be taking the time to learn what you like to see if he can help you enjoy it more, aka help you cum. Especially if he is able to last so long.

From my understanding though, whilst helping him to get you there is a good thing, it should not be something you put to much focus on, as that can cause stress that prevents you from getting there. So I have read.

JoyGirl · Answer

He isn’t doing something right.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Maybe he can give you some foreplay if you can't reach orgasm in 46 minutes It's all what you like? If I have a girl I want her to be able to finish just as much as I do so?

pigoat · Answer

Learn yourself first by masturbating and experimenting solo Then teach him what you learn Done

Browneye57 · Answer

The majority of women don't reach climax without direct clitoral stimulation.  Ah... noobies. LOL

Wise4myage · Answer

Its not unusual. Try playing with your clit during sex and see if that helps you get off.

COMMODOREII · Answer

Girls take longer to orgasm. If you want to explore that with him talk to him about it. There is a lot of info online about how to make a woman orgasm. Maybe you guys can try those techniques.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

No ot could be your nervous but most girks dont from just sex it has to be oral to bring to orgasm

Juxtapose · Answer

He should edge you first because if 40 minutes isn't enough then you might not be thick enough to stimulate you or whatever.

TallAnon · Answer

Yeah, it means you're not stimulating the right parts

allaboutyou2 · Answer

It definitely doesn't mean it is bad, it just means it could be better, but you guys are young and sex gets better with experience. Keep trying to please each other instead of seeking pleasure for yourself is the key to great sex.