First time sex with a new partner: do you want simple vanilla sex or the sexual Olympics?

[Anonymous]

The first time with a new partner is a different challenge. Do I just stick with straight vanilla missionary position sex? Maybe that's what she wants but it's possible she wants more and she'll think I'm a dud in bed. Do I try something a little more bold, like 69, and show her that I am an attentive lover, but that might make her uncomfortable since it's our first time. Or is she hoping for a sexual decathlon and I need to show her how uninhibited I am?

Of course, you could talk about what you like and what you don't like but not everyone can do that the first time they are in a bed with a partner. So, if there isn't a discussion on the subject, what do you want to do the first time you are in bed with a new partner?

[PrudentGuy]

Since both are non virgin, I would do the following:

1) create anticipation by booking a nice hotel at least a week in advance. in my opinion, anticipation is great aphrodisiac for both genders.

2) when the day arrives, wake up early, go shopping together for adult items, include contraceptives and toys and lingerie. Not forgetting bath salt and essential oil, the type that arouses both our senses.

3) foreplay begins outside the bedroom. Holding hands while walking in public, even show PDA is incredibly sensual.

Not forgetting a nice lunch before Check-in and a naughty conversation over coffee.

4) after Check-in, prepare the room with essential oil burning and perhaps just sit to rest is good relaxation.

Not forgetting a good hot bath together, lathering each other is good way to undress with minimal awkwardness.

5) after bath applying massage oil on each other is very arousing, especially when on private parts.

6) I would not discuss basic foreplay like oral and fingering or sex positions.

Rather, sometime, with a good Round 1, taking an hour break outside the room, then back for more rounds are great.

Quantity may sometimes be better than quality alone.

How? Like my ways? Each session could be vanilla but different positions; but many sessions in a fine settings anticipated by both.

[Lliam]

I voted F. I was never interested in virgin or novices. I don't prefer vanilla sex but it doesn't have to be acrobatic or kinky. I love foreplay and enthusiastic PIV sex in whatever varying positions we wind up in. Why stick with just one position. It's fun to roll around.

[DizzyDesii]

I never expect the first time to be all of that because I’ll be nervous. So I expect it to be vanilla-y and just missionary... that is, at least round one. We gonna go so many rounds with so many diff positions that he's gonna think he's entered the olympics 🤣🤣🤣

[pleasestopthis]

Which positions are considered "vanilla"?

[Asker]

If all you've ever done is missionary and doggy, then missionary is vanilla and doggy is kinky. If you routinely do threesomes and gang bangs, then being tied to the bed, face down, and getting ass fucked may be vanilla.

[Hawner]

I would go for the classic just to have some solid ground and then check the waters. If the seems the "let's keep it slow" type, I keep with it; if it feels like she is demanding more, I up the game.

[dutch69lover]

She's gonna get a full on A# porn star kinda fucking. She gotta know I am into kinky sex right from the get go so she knows what she getting into right away

[Massageman]

While G is certainly appealing, I'd be around a B+.

[RebeccaSJ]

It was pretty much the basics, but it was excellent!

[Asker]

. . . and excellent is what counts!

[JennieF]

Well, I am an Olympic gold medalist.

[Walldo06]

Id go C D or E