Is it too much?

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I am 18 and i had sex with 45 different person. People call me a whore cuz of this. Is it too much?

wingattebaby16 · Accepted Answer

too much is in the eye of the beholder.

i have dated 60-65 men.. and slept with 55...

#55 was in 2018 and still with him.

I have bad self esteem issues from being a neglected teen and in Foster Care.

I thought sex was love and having a guy in my life, meant the Depression of Loneliness was kept at bay. Most of the men only wanted a young girl as arm candy, to boost their image with their friends, so show they could a much younger woman when women their age were rebuffing them, and of course, sex with a girl with Demonic Sex Needs.

It took me 6 years and 4-5 therapists to realize I have value and dating so many men was my way of trying to fill the Gaping Hole In My Soul that only depression and anxiety came out of.

**So, on a brighter note, dating lots and lots of guys exposes you to the skill, personality, traits, likes and dislikes, you eventually want in a husband.

I have dated as many as 10 guys in one week, 2 of them on the same day...

I say, Go For It, Girl! Have fun and enjoy being young!

side note, i know some girls from HS that only dated one guy, got prego, go married, has 6 kids, and her hubby left her... and they all told me hubby was BAD in bed; small penis, no foreplay, only interested in Wham Bam Thank You Ma'am, and always looking at other women.. finally leaving her for one...

elizamichale1 · Accepted Answer

Nops its not too much at all
And its your own choice how many people you want to have sex with honey
You can have sex with a 1000 people or you can have it with 1 only... its just complete n entirely your choice
Do not listen to what people say about it

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

might want to join porn industry or get yourself an  https://onlyfans.com/  page. so you can record and upload it to make some money off it at least. there is a newer site  https://vuli.com/  that recently started. which is looking for new talent to join the field. they offer actors/actress the ability to monetize content. so they can get paid anytime someone watching or buys their content. so long as the content remains on the platform. the more sexual partners a person has casual or relationship wise. the harder time they will have in the future to bond well to a possible long term partner. when they choose to finally settle down at some point. because they will subconsciously compare past and current encounters and partners to each other. happens to both males and females to some degree. from what some recent studies show.

Dongtai · Accepted Answer

At 18? Yes. 45 is a lot. And 18 isn’t very far from 15. I’d be wondering when you started having sex and how often. I’d wonder if you’ve been through any traumatic experiences and if you had some sort of mental/emotional problems.

People forget what sex does to your mind and to have it so frequently at a young age? Even if you had sex with 45 different people when you turned 18. That’s still 45 different people with different personalities and backgrounds. It’s not the physical act of sex that I’d wonder about. I would be concerned about your mind.

If you said 45 at 25 I’d be less weary. But at 18 you’re barely an adult. The experiences you have going forward are going to eclipse the ones you’ve had up till now. You’re not a fully developed person “mentally” so to have that much sex at 18? You’re either a unicorn or you’ve got some other things going on.

MORPHEUS_12 · Answer

Well considering that I am 46, and only had one sexual partner all my life. Not to mention I married him. I would say that's a pretty high body count. I makes me ponder if there isn't some underlined psychological issue.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would have you talk with a therapist and check for STD’s - sounds like you are in pain

chrissykerdock · Answer

how many were just blowjobs if any? definitely too much for pussy sex

Tyme1313 · Answer

No you aren’t a whore, I had sex with more than that by the time I was 18. There is nothing wrong with being sexually active.

jinswatermelon · Answer

Maybe bc that is a lot of different particles from a lot of different people 😂🤷🏾‍♀️

MayBrayNaughty · Answer

If it's your choice and all consentual among adults then who cares what the number is?

chevymcgthatsme · Answer

When I was 18 I slept with a lot of men to I was jst dying to have sex nd a had a very bad sex drive still have but have a boyfriend so dont do that anymore but u where obv just wanting to experience what sex was like it obv felt good nd wanted it more tht was like me

purplepoppy · Answer

In a week yes, even a month is pushing it a bit. But in a year that's less than one a week

Amoracchius · Answer

There's a lot of data about relationship and marriage satisfaction and longevity relative to how many sexual partners you've had. The more people you have sex with the more difficult it is to build a meaningful connection down the line, and the more likely you are to divorce if you get married. This has to do with the chemical systems responsible for pair bonding. Oxytocin is a drug, and you can ruin your ability to pair bond by messing with that system too much.

That said, do you, but pretending that there are no consequences for your behavior is nonsensical.

Lliam · Answer

I define whore as prostitute. If a woman simply loves sex, she might be promiscuous but she isn't a whore. I don't even have a problem with promiscuity, but I can't help but wonder how an 18 year old could have already had sex with 45 people unless you are including giving and/or receiving oral.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Um, yeah. Your fucking at least one new person a month, thats way to much and quite frankly really disgusting. Its like watching a morbidly obese person eat a tub of lard, they aren't evil but they are disgustingly unhealthy and something is clearly wrong with them.

jack187625 · Answer

45 isn't insane amounts, that could literally mean you have had sex 45 times. It can be treated as a recreational activity, if that's what you want, it shouldn't make an ounce of difference to anyone else as long as you are safe whilst doing it!

People talking about body count being unattractive, how often do you actually have that conversation with a SO? Working on the premise that people are safe and don't have any stds, the only thing is that people know what they like being done to them. It also means that they know how to do things to you as well, and several different ways of doing them, not everything works for everyone, so more experience is only a good thing!

What ever happens in your past obviously effects (affects?, always get confused between the two) the present, but not as much as people say, be who you want to be in the now. Who knows what's going to happen tomorrow?

rachel776 · Answer

i've had sex a lot and that would be too much for me, but everyone is different

Marcuslrh · Answer

Waw that is a lot but just think if it was a guy know one would even care as long as your happy doing that you do you😊

Berethor · Answer

Don't worry, you are not a whore, you are a super whore. :)

420Rachel · Answer

This is a guy pretending to be a girl. Look at all of their questions 😂

abhi_97 · Answer

I'll definitely agree with the people and you should consider changing your username to "melwhoreney" which will make the right first impression of yours on people. I think it's a win for you if you want to progress in this field.

TheBootyChest · Answer

It's not healthy in the sense that you run the risk of catching something or pregnancy.

I won't say it's too much period, but it's too much too soon in your life. Plus it puts into question how old are the people you are sleeping with before you turned 18?

JaneDoe377 · Answer

"too much" is subjective but it's not a small number

triff · Answer

Not altogether I take it haha When people around you tend to be disrespectful toward you Then you must look at why and try and understand where they are coming from Not so you should be ashamed or made to change your ways but allow you a choice How come you slept with 45 and we're they of different ages

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