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I feel gross, sexually and physically?

I feel gross, sexually and physically?
This is a weird question. But I’m looking for some advice or maybe someone in a similar situation. I feel so gross every day, my face is ugly, My body isn’t attractive, I shower every day sometimes twice a day just incase I might smell. I can’t help feeling stupid for asking this. I just feel so alone. My boyfriend hates eating me out, and he doesn’t tough my vagina without me asking first, I feel like he is grossed out by my vagina. I’ve always been the ugly friend and my best friend has previously told me my “mouth grosses her out” . I’m tall and a UK10-12. I don’t look like other girls, I am disgusting. I tell people I feel insecure, my friends tell me I’m pretty, my family just laugh and say I look fine and my boyfriend says I’m gorgeous. I Know they lie to protect my feelings, I feel like I gross everyone out, especially with my vagina. I feel physically repulsive and I feel sorry for my boyfriend for having to be only with me. I’m so ashamed of my face and body. I never used to be as insecure as I have been in the last 5 years or so. I’m more looking for advice or a friend in this situation as I just want to talk to someone, Thankyou so much
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*he doesn’t touch my vagina not tough sorry for the typo
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  • Well first thing I would do is ditch the dude if he didn't care love you enough to be honest with you lose him, your only as ugly it unattractive as you think we see ourselves differently than how others see us we are harder on us meet critical than others are towards us take me for instance I don't like how I look in photos but I'm told I'm handsome but I don't see it, don't worry yourself I bet your really a very attractive woman try changing your appearance clothing shoes makeup hair style and your best friend ditch that her ass too you need to be around positive people that make you genuinely feel good about your self and who life you for you or just do your thing alone you must like you always be able to get along with you weather alone or socially start thinking highly better off yourself and carry yourself in such a manner and everyone will pick up on it and treat you as such but you must let it shine out from within you I'm sadden by your experience but make some adjustments in you attitude personality you will have guys being for your time trust me take care by the way can I take a look at your photo in curious to know what you look like pleeezeee do take care always be positive and ditch the negative vibes cool and don't forget the photo of you and as you transform yourself

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  • " I Know they lie to protect my feelings" Let me suggest another perspective : have you thought about the fact that they could all be telling the truth but that you insist on not portraying yourself as good as others see you? You know, if a lot of people say similar things about you like that, it's more and more unlikely that it's a lie.

    I used to feel very insecure about my looks, but I learnt to love myself and, honestly, you feel so much lighter once you do. The main thing is to start considering that you might actually be better than just all bad, that you might actually be good, better than you think. Try to embrace compliments more and more, learn to appreciate your positives while minimizing your negatives. For example, "Huh, my hair looks actually pretty good.", "My mouth might not be the prettiest but is it a big deal ultimately? Does that make me a bad person? No.".

    That said, this is a process so it will take time and effort. It won't work instantly but, if you focus on that process, it will eventually pay off and trust me when I say it's so satisfying once it does as you feel free from a huge burden.

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  • This sounds a lot like body dysmorphia, and with that, I’m not sure any of us on here could offer you advice without suggesting you seek professional help. There is online therapy, and even over the phone.

    • I mean, saying things to make you feel better or flattered is not helpful, at least in my opinion. I feel like that is ultimately what you’re seeking, but no amount of reassurance or flattery will help until you tackle that huge, brooding inner demon.

  • Hey what do you like to say about your other aspect of life? Is that satisfactory according to you?

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  • I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. May I suggest strongly that you find a good therapist to help you work through this? It'll be a huge help. If the first one you try isn't working, don't hesitate to try another.

  • May I ask how big ) tall are you. I'd felt as a freak all my youth, but as my hole family were very tall too, I'd learnt to accept it. And as a strange thing I felt attracted to shorter men and older too. So my first relationship were with a guy, so tiny you might think of him as a midget, he were just about 5' talk and not even 50 kg, and he were 9-10 years older than my 17 years , I were and still is 6'8 ( 204 tall) , so I'd guess you get the picture, and my weight have always been around 95-100 kg depending on my physical fitness. He learnt me to accept the difference in size, my present boyfriend and comming husband is also much shorter and a few kg smaller than me too, but not at all so much. And he really learnt me to love my size in all ways. Hope you can do so too, as we can't really change us self, but we can change the way we think

  • Ok well I want to talk to you to,, so please send me a private message there are a few things you must do to start feeling and becoming who you want to be and love

  • What if you have been with just uncaring ASSBAGS? Why do you decide that your self-worth, the WONDER of you, is based on how others (maybe total FUCK-WHITS) related to you?
    I think someone sold you a bag of LIES, and you just accepted that!! SHAME ON YOU FOR NOT RESPECTING YOURSELF!!
    Who the FUCK ARE THEY, to say, and judge you?

  • Many guys simply don't like giving oral, it not necessarily because your vagina looks bad or smells.

  • Can you talk to a therapist? You sound seriously depressed.

  • You have self esteem issues..
    Work on it..
    Also love yourself...

  • Sound like your boyfriend has the issues. Not you. You shouldn't have to ask him to touch you.

    • I feel physically rejected everyday by the people closest to me. I know most girls wouldn’t have to ask there boyfriends to touch there vagina but honestly I feel like I should be greatful that he even agrees to touch it.

    • I'm sorry you feel rejected. You need to find someone that wanted to touch you and not because you ask. You are way more beautiful then you think you are.

  • I think it's just a product of your situation. You seem to already have self-esteem issues and your poor relationship is making it easier to feel down on yourself. Just need to spend some time on yourself and do some productive shit to keep your mind occupied. Make some short term goals to improve yourself so you can get some easy wins. Those wins should help improve your confidence.

  • Im sorry you have to go through this im not very good looking either.

    • Thats my girl cousin in the picture

    • Wow your geourguos i can't wait to see the rest of your body☺

  • I think you are just feeling insecure. Why don't you have a how do I look or a fansonly to get an idiea of your beauty. Probably many guus would find you desirable and be lucky to be in your good grace.
    Stop thinking too much and be confident woman

  • No guy should make you feel bad an if you over wash you could be washing natural bacteria that helps you stay fresh an clean an if you got s bladded infection it can change odor for worse an feel free to ask me to talk to im here for nice people here to talk to

  • You aren't repulsive. I can't tell you what I like about you without a picture, but I am sure you aren't ugly, or nearly as much as you think you are.

  • I'm so sorry you feel this way, PM me if you ever need to talk.

  • just go gym bro

  • no one is as repulsive as you sound. do you have a full beard? bunch of rotting teeth and a yeast infection? crossed eye, lisp, sleepy eye and bald spots? your boyfriend probably really thinks your gorgeous because beleive it or not decent guys see only the feelings they have and dont interpret beauty the way women think we do. most likely he is feeding on your own sense of self repugnants. he is probably convinced that making such moves alienate you because you act discustedcwith your self. i was with a girl that had been raped. it took me a long time to feel comfortable touching her cause i didn't want to make her have bad feelings. she wanted to be slapped n choked and it took me years to accept it because she talked about the trauma a lot. i just wanted her to be ok and my sexual desires came second.

    what im saying is no matter how you see yourself. take him at his word and own that shit. if he think your hot act like you know its true. slap your own ass once in a while and give a coy smile. taunt him eating a banana etc

  • sounds like you're just hurt from that comment. pychology is powerful.

  • You’ll get over this. You have to find a new boyfriend, one who is willing to fuck you and eat you with no questions asked. If you lived near me, I would certainly be your friend, eat you and fuck you over and over until you just could not cum anymore.

  • Have you looked into counseling for relationship anxiety.

  • Your boyfriend has some issues... What man doesn't like pussy lmfao.
    On another note - as an attractive man judging from your profile pic I can confirm you are good looking. If you want me to rate a better pic of you feel free to DM me.
    Life is too short to worry about these things.

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