How many of you made the mistake of asking for sex before your partner was ready?

Question

Yads just made a good point on another post. (Someone @mention her bexause I forgot the full tag). Its such a turnoff for some of us when a guy asks for sex/sexual activity. If i wanted to give you head, you’d know when I wrap my tongue around your dick. If i wanted to sex you up, you’d know when i slide down on that dick. So stop asking, be patient and wait for it. by the way, i know some guys hate when girls ask as well. I just didn't include it on this poll. Maybe next time. 🙏
#FeelFreeToList #AskingToGetLaid #AskinToGetFckdUp #AskingtobeShutDown

Dongtai · Accepted Answer

Would you rather be asked or would you rather have to push a guy off of you because he “thought” you was ready?

Come on girls. Think these questions through. Map out the scenarios. A lot of guys will ask a girl he hasn’t known for months if she’s ready purely out of respect. Some guys are educated about a woman’s perspective of sex. It would be different if he’s been with her for a while. But say you’ve only known her for less than a month? There’s no way you know she’s ready unless she’s naked or grabbing your dick. But let’s not pretend most girls are bold enough to do that with a guy they haven’t known long. Most girls do not lead in the bedroom.

Some girls freeze up even when they aren’t ready and guys can read that as “yes”.

Some girls say yes out of fear. Some girls just go with it because they don’t know how to stop the situation. Guys can’t magically know if a girl is ready or not. She can be all over him with sex being completely off the table. I’ve been with girls who wanted to do everything but sex. Completely naked and everything. Sometimes it’s best to ask.

In my experience of asking, I ask “for the girl”. Not because I want sex. I’m giving her space and the chance to opt out. I’m letting her know it’s “ok” if she isn’t ready and that I respect her enough to let her speak for herself. And sometimes they really aren’t ready but are the next time.

Guys. Keep asking. Ignore girls who tell you not to. Respect the women you’re with

krin_m · Accepted Answer

Most of the times, it has just happenes naturally without having to ask. A few times when I may have had a doubt whether she is ready or not, I have made sure that she knows that I'm not in a hurry. And there were times when my partner was impatient and could not wait so initiated it (I admit, I liked it :-) ).
So I guess, I don't have a definitive answer.

Yads_Is_Back · Accepted Answer

Sorry, I finally found it 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

Asking for sex is for chicken 🐓 🍗 men who can’t take hints and do it successfully, which is sad since it’s not that hard if your woman is not one to sleep around. Actually that’s sad too, if she is one and tells you no 😂 okay I’ll stop.
Anyways, yeah him asking would shut me down. I need a man who knows what he’s doing and is dominant. What other species does the male ask before mating? Like, that’s so lame. 😂🤣😂 You look at wolves: the Alpha has his game and that’s it. Imagine him stepping up behind the female like, “Hey babe, you wanna get it on?” She would take off running.

Reign_Interrupted · Accepted Answer

It's so cringe. You'll definitely know when I wanna hop on and go for a ride.

MrOracle · Answer

It's been - hmm - 20+ years since I had to ask. I'm aware that not every girl is ready right away, but LOTS of girls would happily have sex on the first date (which I normally don't do), so by the time it gets to that point, she's definitely ready. Granted, the women I date tend to be comfortable with their sexual desires, but it's just not a problem I've ever really had, even as far back as high school 35 years ago. I can only ever remember a single girl who wanted to slow things down a bit, but there's been a few who were concerned that I didn't go fast enough, and they weren't sure I was into them.

I'm sure there's a lot of culture difference that explains this, but, yeah, it's not much of an issue in the US, at least, not that I've seen.

AustinMan · Answer

Ladies, I suspect you hate when he asks to soon, a common error among younger men. For me, it's about when a strong emotional connection occurs. Once that happens, sex is on the table and I've never gotten a bad reaction to a calm, direct, matter of fact conversation about what we like, want, and don't like.

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NamerOfStars · Answer

Ah, yes- don't move too fast, don't move too slow, don't ask for clarification. This is why we invented the word zugzwang.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

In my generation, most of us don't ask. We just start getting more and more frisky and she knows what we want and then she either starts acting like an eager participant or she throws a bucket of cold water on me.

Lov2PlezUgurl · Answer

G -- I love it when she asks
it a pretty clear sign when you walking to the lake for a late night swim and the girl is a couple of steps in front and she just pulls her shirt of with no bra it's time to go muff diving I have never asked for sex most of the time it just happened without WORNING a few times I was ask straight out a couple of times I was offered money I didn't even ask how much I do have Morales
.. no I didn't.

ohshee · Answer

I have never asked to have sex it just happens with out either one asking it's in the heat of the moment have ask a friends with benefits WHAT ARE YOU DOING DO YOU WANT TO COME OVER,, I Have Had Girls ask me to fuck them,,, or Are you ever going to try to fuck me ,, lol i guess i was tsking to long ,,,,, and i have asked 1 girl if I could kiss her and that's was just because of everything else that was going on and where we were !, everytime i would try the moment our lips touched we would have to break away]

Jjpayne · Answer

Not me yet 😂😂😂

Hans222 · Answer

As you know it's C for me. But I'm flexible... I'd be open to her taking the initiative 👍

shu2905 · Answer

I always ask before i go down

JDavid25 · Answer

Well, I hardly date in the first place so askin for sex is not usually a thing.. But when I am interested in somebody I don't ever ask and it's not usually the first thing on my mind.. Most times..

have_a_good_day · Answer

I did not even know it's supposed to be asked for 🤣🙈
Noooo, I could never do that, it is so upfront 🙆‍♀️
It has always happened naturally ; like it is meant to.. An evolution of two souls to merge as one 🙂

broken_heart_at_48 · Answer

Before I was married I messed with a lot of girls and was always straight up with my intensions. I was pretty successful. Of course this was the 80's and early 90's

worldscolide · Answer

Its never been a mistake.. If she was not ready for it a simple no is acceptable. If she makes a big deal of it, i drop her, because i dont need someone in my life that has hangups about sex, or treats the act of asking like its some kind of offense.

abutaher · Answer

Sorry. I haven’t this experience yet

douride2 · Answer

It was more the other way around for myself.

Myk13 · Answer

I have no problem waiting until she is ready. As long as she realizes that if we haven’t talked about being exclusive. I’m probably getting it somewhere else. For clarity, I am speaking for myself only. So please don’t assume that all guys are getting it elsewhere. Many/most are probably not.

_no_one_ · Answer

I tried but didn't forced her or something so i don't think i did anything wrong but it's a big turn off ik.

WhiteGlaze · Answer

I prefer the silent signals. You can say everything with a little eyes and hands.

MountAverage · Answer

I don't recall having ever been in a situation like that. Or maybe it was so long ago that I forgot. But usually whenever I was dating someone new, it was either quite sexual from both sides from the beginning, or, if it wasn't, it was very obvious or she communicated it properly.