Is it weird for someone to not care about having sex?

[Flower7]

(If a person is single and it wouldn't bother them if they never had sex again.)

[Reaperbot666]

I've been single nearly 3 years but haven't had sex in over 3 years. don't really miss it or go out of my way to have it. because I don't engage in modern hookup culture rather have an exclusive dating partner. so if a new and willing partner should happen to come along. I would be willing to have sex with them if the relationship got that far.

[Flower7]

It's good that you have morals and don't sleep with just anyone.

[Reaperbot666]

I tend to have 4 rules when dating someone new. 1. no sexual interaction until were in a exclusive relationship together. 2. no sex until we have been dating at least 90 days. 3. both of us get tested for STD's and other nasty things to prove we're clean. 4. we both use protection to reduce risk of pregnancy. if a new partner can't follow those. then their most likely not worth my time.

[Tstrbrainer]

I don't think it's weird.
Not all people have the same level of sexuality.
Some people don't need it and it's not a problem as long as they are single

[Flower7]

I agree that this would be a much more complicated issue for a person who was in a relationship.

[Tstrbrainer]

Definitely as in a relationship, we have to consider the other person

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Sometimes I think I could be asexual. I feel nothing when I watch porn. When I read about sexual stuff or when a man asks me for it, I feel disgusted. And it's not weird. Maybe because I haven't found a person I would like to be intimate with.

[DavidFox]

Or you are asexual.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

@DavidFox Could be. I find the idea of casual sex really disturbing.

[DavidFox]

Which aspect of sex really turns you on?

[DavidFox]

I asked because is sounds like all parts of sex are a turn off for you.. why I suggested you may be asexual.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

@DavidFox Sexually aroused men in general. I was groped by a horny man who couldn't control himself when I was a kid. It scarred me and discouraged my dating life. From then on I don't want to get near men. Even compliments on my body is not welcome. Especially, when there are married or non single men approaching me, I literally feel like I'm going throw up. If he is single, but only looks for hookups, it's depressing to me.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

They turn me off. I think I'm sapiosexual, but not really.

[DavidFox]

Sorry to hear that, horrible :(. I can understand that affecting so much of why You feel disgusted. What makes you believe you are sapiosexual?

[DavidFox]

I was intellectually curious so looked up sapiosexual: Sapio- comes from the Latin verb sapere, meaning “to be wise” or “to have sense.” So it’s attracted to intelligence.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

@DavidFox Right. I'm attracted to people who are smart, and interested more for the mental connection. However, it's still not sexual feeling. I just feel drawn to them, and really enjoy it when I have deep conversation with them. I prefer talking about the hidden meaning of life. My brain is tingling. It's way better than quick release of dopamine.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

@flower7 Thank you for MHO.

[DavidFox]

What is the hidden meaning of life?

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

@DavidFox Something like... When someone discovered that he was born because of an accident. A man wanted to have his pleasure. He found a woman who agreed to have sex with him without marriage or being exclusive. It's JUST for fun. Then, a baby was born. He became a tool for the mother to ask for money from the non-legal dad. He grows up with a question, "Daddy really loves me?"

[Tstrbrainer]

It is good, when you like a person, you must be feeling drawn to them for their character. If you have a relationship, it must be very meaningful

[DavidFox]

Oh is that an example of what you like to discuss or are you searching for life’s meaning in that scenario? Each person usually has meaning and purpose in life. It can take a while to find that meaning.

[RemoErdosain]

I wouldn't say it's "weird", but I'd say it's rare. Sex is so overrated. I think I could also do without sex for the rest of my life

[Flower7]

I agree that it's very overrated. Especially for women. We don't get as much out of it as guys do because most of us don't orgasm from penetration.

[RemoErdosain]

I heard that, yes, but when you do orgasm, the orgasm is much better than for guys. For a guy, the orgasm itself is a pitiful thing, really, and not really that big of a pleasure as for all the talk it gets. When I finally had sex, the thought of it had been building up so much that it was underwhelming, to be honest, and I don't blame the person I was having sex with, because even though I don't really like her as a person right now, I can say she was definitely good in bed (as she should be with such vast experience), I'll give her that

[Flower7]

If guys' orgasms aren't that good, why do most of them chase sex so much?

[RemoErdosain]

Maybe it's because of everything around the orgasm being good, like the connection with an arousing human body, I don't know. Maybe it's just the tricks the mind plays in order to pursue reproduction

[TheUniqueOne96]

I've never had it myself and I don't care to have it either TBH.

[Flower7]

Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

[TheUniqueOne96]

No, I'm into women, but never had a relationship or sex. If it happens, fine, but if not, I don't know what I'm missing. As long as I'm happy, I'm not too bothered. The idea of both sound cool, but there's no certainty that it would make me happy.

[Flower7]

It's great that you're able to be happy either way! That's a really good attitude to have.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Thank you, though it may be a bit of reluctance to try or fear of failure. I'd give it a chance if I felt I met the right person, but happiness is the top priority. This mostly applies to relationships. On the bright side, if nothing else, they're fun to talk about. 😁

[Jjpayne]

Sex is clearly not for everyone, especially as you get older, you are looking for other things

But I still believe everyone stills wants intimacy in some form or another

[Flower7]

You're right that it's not for everyone.

[Flower7]

That's very very true.

[JPrez]

It’s certainly understandable. Some people just don’t have it in them.

[Flower7]

Yes, that's true.

[Ianto]

Ouch! 😂

[wankiam]

voted b... im more than happy being a single wanker

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I just think some people are not a real sexual type of person?

[Flower7]

Yes, that's true!

[pigoat]

They can say they don't care about sex but you can't really know you just have to take their word for it

My mom hasn't been in a relationship or dated for over 20 years

She has said many times she doesn't care about sexual stuff

And judging by not seeing her date and just work and come home for 20 years i have to take her word for it

My older cousin similar story

[Flower7]

Well I'm talking about myself, so not believing it isn't an issue in this situation.

[Jamie05rhs]

No, it's not weird. A lot of people are like that. I'm just not one of them.

[Flower7]

So far I haven't come across any others.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sueshe doesn't care. Lol

[Ianto]

I think it is not unusual to feel like that, particularly after a difficult break up. Fortunately nature will take over when you meet someone new. Until then don't worry about it too much - although atrophaic vaginitis is a concern.

[Flower7]

I'm too young for vaginal atrophy to be an issue. That's something that happens to women as they age, usually after menopause. I'm in my 30's.

[Posterboy56]

Depends-- is the person male or female

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes. Its not normal not to desire sex and not have sex. Sex is a natural human function God created for humans to reproduce and for recreation and pleasure.

[pizzalovershouse]

I would think they lost there drive a that maybe have a horne imbalance from diet or a lack of taking care of there own needs

[Flower7]

What needs?

[Steve37]

If by weird you mean unusual or uncommon, then yes. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with the person but their feelings aren't typical.

[Flower7]

That makes sense.

[bklynbadboy1]

Yes very weird

[Jerre]

Very weird. I have never been around a woman like that and undoubtedly never will. I enjoy fucking too much.

[Flower7]

That lifestyle definitely wouldn't be compatible with everyone!

[Jerre]

You got that right!

[Valnac]

Yes, very weird. Men and Women are born with sex organs. Puberty makes those sex organs become known. Masturbation gets us familiar with what those sex organs are capable of. Sex is the next progression.

[Aus15688]

I’m in chastity and never have sex

[Flower7]

But do you desire to?

[Aus15688]

Ummm yeh I think so but I don’t deserve to at the same time...

[Smirnoff23]

Definitely not weird

[Flower7]

That's nice to hear.

[Younghungguy17]

Most younger men don’t care

[B2281]

Depends on the circumstances I suppose.