For you or him?

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Do you mainly engage in sex for the purpose of pleasing your man or is your goal to get yourself off? Is he a vehicle for your own pleasure?

Obviously you want to please your man. But do you work on reaching that big "O" or are you in it to get him off?
There's no right or wrong answer.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I never come from sex- not for lack of effort or skill on his part. But I love it all the same and I would rather only have sex and never come than get eaten out all the time and come but never have sex if that makes sense? His pleasure is very important to me and it’s actually very hot to me to know that I am giving him pleasure or even to feel like I’m being used for his pleasure.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Shouldn't it be for the pleasure of both... The more both are equally getting pleasure, the more both will want desire the sex. I think when one is doing it just for the sake of the other, that's where the breakdown of the sex life starts... I definitely want him to get pleasure, but I definitely want to be pleasured as well. So both.. Final answer 🙂🤣

PrudentGuy · Answer

Its very easy for guys to say "for both" because this is the politically correct answer in lublic forums like this one.

But doing is the challenge, especially when we are very horny at that moment.

This is because when we guys are very horny, all we need is a vagina to thrust and and we almost always get an orgasm.

And this is where the challenge comes, to have "enough" foreplay so that the girl is also aroused enough to get at least an orgasm.

This really need a lot of love and affection for the girl and that act is incredibly difficult when we are horny.

So yes, the answer is both. But many times, we guys even disappoint ourselves during the deed.

Behappy85 · Answer

Should be for both partners. Yes at times and in moments one want to be selfless and please their partner over themselves which if fine. But over all it should be for both.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Sex with the first boyfriend was out of pressure and then afterwards it was just to keep him faithful. Bt he said he couldnt help but be with more than one person so i realized i was wasting my time. Sex with the second boyfriend was more so of me being seductive and it just sorta backfired cause we no longer waited til marriage 😂 i totally did it for my pleasure. Not really physical pleasure but emotional type shit. I just like knowing my teases were a success 🙈 i feel so evil

ushagomez · Answer

It is about giving pleasure, not taking it. When someone gives you pleasure then you give it to them in return. That is how both enjoy.

JackSmy · Answer

I don't think it is EVER her REPSPONIBILTY to 'please' me!! My erection, my feelings, are for me to figure out, and NOT HERS to be responsible for!!
That isn't fair, in ANY way, as she has no control over my feelings, or mood, like I have no control, over her, or her feelings!
Do people really think that they have to get their partners off, as part of a relationship? That is TOTALLY FUCKED UP!! You have no control, and thus, you will FAIL!!

WarningWarning · Answer

Good question. When I was younger, it was about power. The power i had to please a man and make him powerless. Not in a sick way, just a fun sexual playful way. Like, I bet I can make you cum in so many minutes. Or I bet I can make you cum without touching you. What I got out of it was getting off on his pleasure. How hard can I make him cum, can I make him do it again. Then I met my soon to be ex. And everything changed. I still had that power over him. I could take over and end it in seconds. I still could today. But it was just different. The first time on, a different feeling, different objective. I had feelings i had never had before. I was 25 and divorced and he was 20. He had no idea what he was doing. But the fit, the spark, the craving, was just different. We connected with the same feelings. So it became something more. I allowed him to explore me. I learned myself and what it felt like to have an o. Then we realized there are about 6 different orgasms for women. And got to the point where he could make them all happen in one night. It became what can we do for each other so that we both can get the most. How can we make each other feel the best. So each time was the best time. But if course you had the times of blow jobs where I finished it without getting mine, but that was fine, there was always next time. There were times I would ride him (he could only handle that for about 2 minutes and he'd cum) and I would do it for my own pleasure only. He'd get his tho, but my purpose was to ride him and take it. The best type of sexual relationship is where all types give, get, receive, together. All types are explored with the same person over years. It had never been just cornflakes for us. Always something to try. Always a thirst for one another. Always wanting to please each other. It got to the point where all he'd have to do is kiss the back of my neck, and I would start feeling it. Too bad he is a dumbass. And a dick.

Jjpayne · Answer

For me, it's a joint effort with the goal to please each other. To me, sex would not be worth it if she was not enjoying herself too

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i'll find a way if she's in the mood and i'm not. i expect the same

tasleen · Answer

Well from last few years we doing just to satisfy my husband pleasure

Meangurl · Answer

This is a great question when I was younger it was all about me me getting my pleasure how hard can I orgasm how frequently can I orgasm. Now that I’m older and married I enjoy all aspects of pleasure I enjoy making my husband toes curl in cramp and making him come so hard I enjoy the intimacy and sharing every little detail with him well I also enjoy the aspect of him making me orgasm to where my body just quivers

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