Is it wrong to be selfish sexually and only do things that make you happy, or are you supposed to compromise?

[Warmapplecrumble]

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[vampireelf]

It depends on your partner. I have been with many selfish girls, because it turns me on a lot. Just like Pillow Princesses 😍
If both partners care too much about the needs of the other, its can end in a "i like to do what you like" "and i like what you like". Thats so boring. I like a girl to tell me what she wants :)

As for selfish, i had a girlfriend who made me lick her every day, while making me never cum. It was awesome!

[Warmapplecrumble]

Didn't you feel like she was a bad person 😂 I think I do this behaviour. I never thought about it untill now.

[vampireelf]

Noo it turned me on so much, every time she orgasmed without even caring about my orgasm, i fall more in love with her 😍

[Warmapplecrumble]

But that's bad?

[vampireelf]

No thats good :) thats why i only date selfish women

[Warmapplecrumble]

Are you sure?

[vampireelf]

Yes of cause, i once licked a girl 15 times to orgasm, she didn't even touched my dick. It was the best sex of my life! One parter having 15 awesome orgasms is sooo much better then both having like 2 OK orgasms, because they try to be fair and selfless

[Warmapplecrumble]

I always have sex after oral 😂 is that good enough?

[CameronStark]

Please tell me that you aren't taking this guy seriously.

[centerline]

at times its ok to be selfish, but most times you should have some interest in your partners feelings and needs...
and mostly, if both people were in to pleasing THEIR partner, without any selfishness, their sex life would be so much better...

[AustinMan]

It depends a lot on the sexual and relational dynamics. If there's a Dominant/submissive element present, then the submissive will find themselves complying most of the time.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Not so much a compromise as a mutual shared pleasure, sex shouldn't be about compromise.. With the right person, sexual chemistry it'll be about shared pleasure, shared wants/needs/sexual desires

[katiesmuff]

Just do what makes you happy and F"UCK everybody else! Sounds like a great success plan to follow.

[wingattebaby16]

a healthy relationship, both in bed and out, requires agreement and compromise.

Being selfish Sometimes, is normal.

[Lliam]

Definitely compromise. A girl needs what she needs! But people should also be eager to do anything possible to please their partners without going into things that are personally out of bounds. Sex is not one sided. Sometimes you have to take turns. And it's also great when each person uses their partner for their own pleasure simultaneously, like when he's riding you hard and you're riding him right back, saying things like "Yes! Just like that!" or "Fuck me harder!"

[hahahmm]

In a relationship it’s wrong but it’s more about the overall longer term situation and not each act/aession. So one day could be more about you and more about them BUT it’s determined by whoever is really leading the relationship more than the other person. There’s always a leader.


Casual sex is meaningless in that it doesn’t build/destroy a relationship between you & the other person. Not that I’m a fan of it tho... cause it uses your time & focus which could be put to better use.

[JackSmy]

It's OK, sometimes, to just be REALLY SELFISH, and just want your partner to just make EVERY EFFORT, and just totally adore you, and take care of you!!
Some women have said, and during that time, and, OK, I know what she likes, and know the days, and some little, extra 'Love' and care, like she needs an 'excuse' to get that?
When I am with one I think I love, every little thing, and just wanting to be close, and see her, and love her!!

[Berethor]

So you never give your husband a blowjob, is that what you saying? :)

[Warmapplecrumble]

I do but I mostly receive

[Berethor]

Okay, well it sounds pretty selfish, your husband is a submissive guy?

[Warmapplecrumble]

Not really

[Jjpayne]

I think relationships are about sharing in all things. It's healthy to share your preferences allowing the partner to voice their opinion on what they are comfortable with and coming to a compromise. Relationships are healthier that way

[wankiam]

to me sex is about the other person... if i want to be selfish then i will have a wank

[Agape93]

It’s not wrong at all

[0112358]

Depends on the couple and how they see it I guess.

I’d like to do the things we both like all the time.
the things only one of us likes occasionally
the things one likes and the other dislikes but can stand once in a blue moon.

and that’s true for both my likes and hers. So my ideal partner has a similar view on things.

[Warmapplecrumble]

What do you guys both like can you give a example?

[Natehunter199]

I guess it depends on what works for people and what they like. I my relationship i try my hardest to please my wife anyway she likes. But when it come to me she is like, mehhh. She thinks that all her efforts are is just being there. She put in the least amount of effort as possible. And heaven forbid if i say anything about it. Her excuse is that its take to much time and energy to get me off. She why not just fuck me till your done. Guess i really dont have to worrie about that to much anymore these days. We haven't had any sexual activitie in 2 years.

[Warmapplecrumble]

How can you live without sex for 2 years 😞

[Natehunter199]

To tell you the truth, it is extreamly hard. I guess i can see it if i was singel but being married and sleeping inches away from a really beautiful wife and feeling like your miles apart. Really makes you questions your self and effects your everyday life. To take my mind of it i just try to stay busy and keep my self occupied with projects. But it only works so long.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Why she doesn't want? Did you ask her?

[Natehunter199]

She is dealing with some health issues that are causing some problems and makes sex really painful for her. Do to this covid it has made going to doctor appointments more difficult and pushed her surgery date back quite a ways.

[Warmapplecrumble]

What problem does she have?

[Natehunter199]

She has a few tumors and extra uterus tissue that cause some pressure that are giving pain and discomfort. And 5 years ago she was diagnosed with a auto amune deficiency disease.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Oh I'm sorry to hear, How are her periods? Is she on the pill? What's her diet like?

[Natehunter199]

Her periods where about every other week. She was put on some birth control pills to help with it up intel her surgery. This covid pandemic had push the process out and made it harder for her to get back to her appointments. She has a pretty good diet. Looking at her you would never know that she was dealing with the problems she has. Good news is that her doctor is pretty confident that after her surgery that she sould pain free but it might effect her sex drive

[Warmapplecrumble]

Can you give example of what she eats for one day?

[Natehunter199]

It varies, mainly for breakfast its eggs with some veggies cut up and mixed in, and toped with some slices of avocado. Toast or bagel with cream cheese. Fruite and yogurt, and washed down with fruit juice or hot tea. Luch it mainly soup and sandwich or a salad. Dinner differs, but us living on a farm it is usually a type of meat with potatos, grilled or sautéed vegetables, or some kind of rice. It differes day to day

[Warmapplecrumble]

Needs to up her iron levels. That's no where enough. Needs to be 18mcg. Not having enough iron causes cramps, and heavy periods for some women. Not enough fat either like butter, lard. It has vitamins a, d3, K2. It also helps promote healthy hormone levels. - fatty fish, liver, organ meats, raw dairy, fermented food, pickles, blood sausage/black pudding are good too. Stress is really bad for menstruation cycle. There should be 0 stress. No crazy exercises, no crash diets etc, no arguments, no sleeping for 1 hour. It all affects the cycle. These things will help a little.

[Warmapplecrumble]

But of course I hope you can visit the doctor soon and things get better for you guys. If you can call them and ask for advice maybe they might give some guidance also

[Natehunter199]

Same here, she is going on 5 years dealing with this. I dont mean so sound selfish but i sure hope after she recovers from her surgery things go back to normal. I miss the sex like we had. And it is so damn hard to sleep next to her and keep my hands off her.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Why can't you give her oral sex... ?

[Natehunter199]

Trust me i would if she let me. It still gives her pain with any stimulation when she tightens up. We have tried it in the past. She use to be pretty good with continuing to pleasure me. But i think after a while with not being able to recive it back, she just got in the mood that she doesn't want to be involved in any sexual activity.

[Warmapplecrumble]

I can understand both of you

[es20490446e]

Do things that doesn't make you unhappy.

[Andres77]

Sex in a relationship, I've found, is better when giving and giving and giving... because then my wife (and old gfs) is very appreciative and wants to give something back.
I love giving oral. I focus on that a lot.
I can only have one orgasm and it's so intense that it leaves me weak and tired so I give her lots because after I cum I'm mostly done in. I'll usually go down on her to make her cum again and clean her up so there's no wet spot and we both sink right to sleep, dry and comfortable and exhausted.

[Grond21]

It reeeeeally depends, Because some people use those terms is so broadly that they think they are being selfish by not wanting to be forced into sex.
Very important to have standards and it's also very important to be loving to your partner. That middle ground is something that's relatively easy to know once you know the principles, but it is still on a case by case basis

[jaxredwoods]

I may be a little bit bias since I'm a cuck/sissy but heck yeah be selfish!

[Warmapplecrumble]

It's not rude? ☺️

[jaxredwoods]

I mean context matters but usually not. In my case as a cuckold I encourage my partners to seek pleasure without worrying about mine.

[jaxredwoods]

Lol in fact in my case my own partners can have OTHER sexual partners.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Don't you feel sad?

[jaxredwoods]

Not at all. Because I'm not able to satisfy them, they deserve a real man who can. Right?

[Warmapplecrumble]

Why can't you satisfy them?

[jaxredwoods]

Lol a tiny dick. Like it could fit into a shotglass tiny.

[pink_and_inlove]

For me I feel great satisfying my boyfriend it’s pretty easy to too lol like it excites me when I make him feel good. I think efforts should be both 50/50

[DiegoO]

If you are in a relationship and you are not able to reciprocate or feel miserable if you do, guess what. Why are you in the relationship in the first place?

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, generally speaking, sex is supposed to be done in a way that satisfies both partners.

But I don't think it's wrong to have one night once in a while that is just about you. But it should really be their idea, not yours. I think it would be more meaningful if it was a gift from them from their heart.

[Warmapplecrumble]

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