Girls, What does it mean when she says you have my permission?

[Natehunter199]

To make a long story short. Mine and my wifes sex life has gone to crap. It has been about 5 years now do to some health issues. And probaly 2 years with no sex. Nothing at all. She told me a while back it was ok if i got laid by another woman. I didn't think i heard her rite and never brought it up again. Well just the other night she said it again. Im sitting here thinking 🤔 we have been together since we were 17, married for 11, 2 kids, and she is the only girl i have been with. Is this a trick. No im not going to lie, it made me more excited the a two leckered billy goat. I wanted to nail my wife so bad at that moment but i know that wasn't a option. Do to the timing of finding out her problems and now to the covid deal. It really has mad it a longer process now.

So my question is. Girls, have you ever given your man permission to get laid by another woman? And if so, did you hold anything against him? What do you think my wifes motive is here? Should i give it a try or ride it out and wait to see if things can get back to normal after her surgery?

[Secret6620]

You may need to seek counseling first... And of course support her through her surgery... She sounds extremely depressed... I remember when I was like 20 I told my ex he could do whoever he wanted while we were in a relationship... Just because I was depressed and I didn't want to be alone and I also didn't want to be intimate... I think if you love her and you are soulmates... You should fight for her... Even when she cannot fight for herself... If you have exhausted all options over the years and nothing has changed... Then one of you will need to make some hard decisions... You BOTH deserve happiness... Even if it's not with one another...

[Natehunter199]

So you told a boyfriend, he had your permission? What did he do and how did you feel towards him?

[Secret6620]

Oh I am not guiding you in a direction... My feedback was thorough... Enjoy your evening ✨

[Secret6620]

YAY 🙋 Thanks for superb opinion!

[Natehunter199]

Your welcome

[ZiZi_Bell]

I would have a long discussion with her about it and make sure it really is something she is ok with.

You clearly aren't the type to sleep around, but if she understands that you have needs she may just be ok with it.

Either way, you need to have a long conversation with her about it and maybe take things slow. If she says you can fool around with someone make sure to do so respectfully, and figure out what her boundaries are.

[Natehunter199]

I did have the long talk with her. Told her write it all down on a paper for me. I all so let her know im not 100 percent ok with it because i dont know how you truly feel about it. And i told out of being respectful to you, i want to know what your rules are about this.

[ZiZi_Bell]

That's a really good and responsible way to go about it. Just make sure to respect her boundaries.

[Natehunter199]

Hell, i even told her to get me a realistic sex doll😂 but i was serious. Told her to get one that looks like her. She said sex dolls creap her out and was worried the kids would find it. I have tried thinking everything to still be respectful to her.

[ZiZi_Bell]

I get that. But if she's saying it's ok and she wants you to do it then you are being respectful as long as you follow her boundaries.

[Natehunter199]

Im trying to be as respectful a possible. Not going to lie, that it is getting hard over time but i still now at the end if would be far worse if i disappoint her. I dont want to do anything to make her loom at me or thing of me any differently then she does.

[ZiZi_Bell]

That's why you should take it slow. Start by fooling around with someone and see how she feels about it. Make sure she's honest with you about her feelings about it too.

[Natehunter199]

Another part of me thinks she said this because of this covid deal still has everything shut down around me. So the chances of finding someone would be slim to none. But the words out of her mout would pull me out of a slump.

[ZiZi_Bell]

That would be pretty manipulative. Does she do things like that a lot? It sounds to me like she just understands you have needs and she doesn't want to hold you back.

[Natehunter199]

And if by some chance i was given the chance. I dont know if i go through with full on sex. Oral fun or a handy i feel i would be fine.

[ZiZi_Bell]

Try sexting someone and see how she feels about that.

[Natehunter199]

She doesn't really do things like this. But my wife is a pretty damn cool wife. Dispite the little issue's we may have but all in all she is a damn good woman. Out in town, i dont have to sneek peaks at girls showing two much skin. She will point them out to me. Or say to me. Look, her nipples are showing really bad. Or that girl isn't wearing any panties under her skirt.

[ZiZi_Bell]

Then honestly I don't think she'd have a problem with you fooling around with someone else. :)

[ZiZi_Bell]

Honestly she sounds like my kinda girl! XD

[Natehunter199]

That is a good idea, would have to find a candidate first

[Natehunter199]

She is a gem, she ask me to give my honnest opinion to her friend on what i though about her nipple rings. She has allways been pretty cool with the you can see but you can't touch deal.

[ZiZi_Bell]

And now she's saying you can touch. Lol But yeah, I think finding someone to sext first would be a good gauge for how she may feel about it.

[Natehunter199]

I believe your rite, test it first before she regrets telling me something she ok with when she really isn't

[ZiZi_Bell]

Yep. And if she isn't ok with it afterward, it's just sexting. So it's not that bad.

[Natehunter199]

Yep, i most definitely dont want it to be some one my wife or i know and will eventually end up seeing once everthing is back to normal after this covid crap

[ZiZi_Bell]

Lol that could be fun though.

[Natehunter199]

Im sure it could, but i see it being a problem in the future. I dont her have that pop into her head everytime she sees the person

[ZiZi_Bell]

That's fair. So then yeah, sexting is probably the way to go for now. Lol

[Natehunter199]

I have been out of this game so long, i wouldn't even know where to look

[AustinMan]

I'm really sorry about the health issues. Is she expected to eventually recover enough to enjoy sex? There's a lot you can do to relight the fire if she's physically able.

[Natehunter199]

It should, but she dose have a change of losing her sex drive for good. But she should feel better and not allways be so short winded and tired. And trust me, i have been riding it out. But she is only physically able to get me fired up and leave me hanging. She gets to tired before she can finish me off. I have tried to come up with idea with her. At the beginning she was all for it, now she is like mehh. Got get some help. Not really the anwser im looking for but she's putting me in between a rock and a hard spot.

[AustinMan]

Find a good couple's therapist and see them for some sessions. I'm betting you'll get your eyes opened in a positive way.

[SarahP080102]

I'm wondering if she is telling you that because she is getting dick somewhere else and feeling guilty

[Natehunter199]

That has crossed my mind more then once. But everything i looking into and found. Shows no indication that she has. All her stories check out. And if she isn't spending time with me she has the kids with her or she's with my mom or sister. And i have 2 really good friends that work with her and even know a girl that works for my wife. So im pretty sure if something was going on her work with someone i would have been told. But i guess i will never truly know.

[Anonymous]

No don't but at least ask her to suck you off.

[Natehunter199]

Trust me, i have. My wife doesn't suck dick. I think i have gotten may 4 bjs in 17 year that maybe lasted 30 seconds max from her. Then it was on to putting it inside her. Hell, i can't even get her to give me a handy. She get mad and says its to much work for her rite now.

[Opinion Owner]

Easy go have an affair.

[Natehunter199]

Ok are you doing tonigh? Lol.. just kidding. But it is tempting.