Please I need to find out if I am gay or not?

[Batkoo0]

Well I am not a girl and I mostly wanted to ask girls about that, but I dont know where, so I will ask here and hope for honest answer and for help. I think I might be gay and I am so scared and confused, but I am not 100 per sure, so I hope with your help me to find out If I am gay or not.. Well, I was a normal boy and I liked girls and only girls, but I have been rejected and this somehow affected me and I started to wonder what it will be if I was a girl and I tried to wear girls clothes, bra and thongs (I have a sister), and then I tried to finger my ass too and even fucked my ass with objects and i liked it.. I was 15 or 16 years old back then and now I am 28. And after all that I started to think and fantasize about sucking cock and get fucked by a man.. I even sucked cock once, it was a long time ago and the man couldnt get hard, I sucked his small and soft cock, but I liked it I like being on my knees in front of him.. I was 20 years old back then. After that I had other chances to meet with a man, but I always quited before the meeting, because of shame, stress and fear.. Then I met a girl, she was my first, we fell inlove, even engaged and lived together for 3 years, but then she left me for another man.. I was totally broken after that and damaged, but these feelings came back.. Again I want to wear thongs, bra, girls clothes and started to fantasize about sucking cocks and getting fucked. I think I still like girls, I mean I turn over to them, but it is more like in the way that I am envy of them, I want to wear their clothes, to be like them, thats why I think I may be gay..

[broken_heart_at_48]

Gay bi straight whatever just be you and don't hurt no body or disrespect anyone and who cares about the rest. If I had to guess I'd say gay with a bi curious maybe. But who cares you're still a human and I'm a 48 year old straight white male human giving this advice just be you you'll figure out what your into whenever you're supposed too. We need to stop focusing on things like skin color male or female sexual orientation or what country we're from we're all members of the human race and need to be kinder to one another and learn to work together on how to solve the world's real problems just think what we could accomplish if we all focused on global warming or feeding the hungry getting water to the thirsty stop fearing or hating on the unknown if science and a majority of the smart people are right we're going to be in bad trouble in just 10 years sorry so long and be comfortable with you

[Batkoo0]

You are right, wish there was more people like you!

[John_Galt]

if you enjoy sex with guys and girls then your Bi... you may want to give to some thought about do you like relationships with both or just one or the other. But it’s cool... don’t panic or anything. There is nothing wrong with any of that stuff. We are who we are. as long as you take all the steps needed to be mentally, physically and emotionally healthy. Who cares!

[Batkoo0]

Well I can't say that enjoy sex with guys, cause I only maded one blowjob so far, but I def desire sex with men now and not with women...

[Anonymous]

I need to say that I respect gays very much, and please don't take this as a hate comment. I think you are straight but as a self defense mechanism, you are looking somewhere else, because you've been hurt by women. Because you say you always liked girls, but I also think it's only you who can know what your sexual orientation is. In my opinion please don't take this opinions too seriously, and maybe what could help you is having alone time to reflect, and maybe a healing time from those wounds from your past relationships. Not because you've been rejected a lot by women it means you need to be gay. Maybe it was for the best they rejected you.

[Batkoo0]

Thank you for your great answer! You speak with wisdom. I know that I dont have to worry too much about the label, but I am really struggling at the moment and I feel really messed up. I mean, thats why I want to and I need to find out what I am really, I mean if I am gay, or bi, I think there is no chance for me anymore to be straight. I know it is sounds silly probably, but I need to know and to understand what I am, to be sure, in order to get things together in my life, because right now everything is a mess and I am a mess.. Also, yeah I always liked girls, but I think my desire for them are gone now. I like how they look and etc, but instead of wanting to be with them, I desire to be like them and I am fantasing about dicks and men.. :(

[COMMODOREII]

I agree with her. Then for all we know even after all the healing have you thought of possibly being bisexual. Nothing wrong either way plus even lets say you choose to be straight nothing wrong with finding guys attractive. Just learn to slow down. Take time for you and heal. Take care of yourself. You don't need to rush into any relationships right now. You have plenty of time. Good luck to you bro and i hope all your dreams come true. *hugs*

[Opinion Owner]

I really hope you find yourself, and what your heart seeks deeply, take your time, there's no rush, it's okay to be single and enjoy getting to know yourself. My first boyfriend is the one I have now, I'm 26 , I took my time going to therapy and work on some wounds I had myself, and also I got to really have my values and ideals together, and I found a guy I love being with and that loves being with me. Also I always knew I was straight, but I also find a lot of women really attractive and beautiful, and that's just appreciating beauty in front of you.

[Batkoo0]

well, again you speak with wisdom. But I think it is not normal for a man to appreciating beauty of a woman and wanting to be like them, in their place, right?

[Opinion Owner]

I really have no idea, because I'm not a guy, but I think it could be possible to appreciate so much women's beauty and like them so much that you want to be like them.

[Batkoo0]

Yes, but if is like that and I like and desire cocks ( which I really do), then what that makes me..

[Batkoo0]

Thank you again for your kind words, sweetie. You are right, but it is just that I am like that for years, so I take a lot of time and I am still like this. I need to figure it out, becase I am suffering right now.

[Account]

Chill, it doesn't matter if you are gay or not. It is no one's business but yours.

[Batkoo0]

Well, thank you for your answer, but it is matters to me. I know maybe it is silly, but I need to find out what I am in order to get things together and start living again, cause right now I am unhappy and confused.

[Account]

If you like having sex with females and males you are bisexual

[Account]

Also look up the term transgender.

[Batkoo0]

Well, I though about the possibility of being trans, but I like my life as a man, even tho if I get the chance for example to press a button and become woman, I would do it. But I like doing men's stuff, heavy work, playing and watching football and etc.. as for the sex. Well I only had sex with my ex fiance and I once sucked a dick. I liked the sex with my ex, but right now I feel like I only think about sex with men...

[Account]

... Why do you feel the need to put a label on yourself?

[Batkoo0]

It is strange, right.. I dont know why. But I feel like I am stuck like this and until I put a label on myself, I will continue to be stuck like this and days, weeks, months and years will continue to pass by me..

[Hangry22]

I have read that after heartbreaks from a certain gender, people look for the opposite gender for a partner. Not sure if it's true. Like i said before, it seems like you're bi

[PhilEvans]

I'd say you're probably bi, and there's nothing wrong with that. My guess is you're romantically attracted to women, but when you've had a rejection you're defaulting back to lust and prefer men for that.

There's also nothing wrong with liking wearing women's clothes. If it makes you happy, go right ahead!

[NakedsunNfun]

You seriously need to ask strangers if you are straight bi or gay.
Come on man you are in your late 20s grow up and decide what you are and live it.

[ShedZJ001]

You gay,

[frostwalrus]

Yo, hit me up with a TL;DR some day.

[Avicenna]

Go get a girlfriend and find out

[Kit_Kat88]

Probably more gay

[Batkoo0]

Oh my... So what I am supposed to do.. :(

[Iron_Man]

Your a troll reported

[joeldalton]

Yup. You were straight up until you sucked that first cock.

[COMMODOREII]

You might be just confused.

[Batkoo0]

I dont know, lets hope you are right.

[Dave31989]

You're born gay, just like you're born straight

You already know what you are, you're just trying to admit it

[Anonymous]

Do you like looking at big hard cocks?

[Batkoo0]

well, yes.. A lot.

[Opinion Owner]

Do you imagine yourself doing stuff to them, and do you get hard yourself from those images?

[Batkoo0]

Yes, I do!

[Opinion Owner]

then at least you are bi, nothing wrong with that, a lot of guys feel exactly like that but they don't open up about it

[Anonymous]

Would you have sex with a woman and not a man? You're straight.
With a man and not a woman? You're gay.
With both? You're bi.

[Anonymous]

You are probably bi or trans or maybe gender fluid? Not gay or you wouldn't go for women. The cross dressing is a paraphilia and probably not truly trans. Get therapy and figure it out. Good luck.