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Guys is it a big deal that my boyfriend doesn’t like phone sex and sexting?

My boyfriend and I been together for a year and a couple of months. Since the beginning he really wasn’t into sexting or phone sex, we did it but once and that was all. Later down the line if I say something dirty he will engage but only if it’s been a min. But he never likes to get crazy and he says because one time he got “blue balls” and it’s painful. I Send him nudes from time to time and his response is always “love it babe ” or “mmm my favorite ” and then he saves it to his nude gallery of pictures he has of me. And there is no escalation from there. When I ask him why he doesn’t like sexting he simply says 1. Gives him blue balls 2. He wants to do it not talk about it. Should I worry? He never likes to talk sexually expect when we are actually doing it lol. Anything sound off? Is it okay that he does this?
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  • No. It seems that more recently everybody here is obsessed with sexting. It's just another example of people being overly obsessed with their phones and the internet rather than face to face interaction.

    Sometimes I enjoy sending a few dirty texts (usually about what I'm going to do to her when we next have sex), and I obviously like nudes, but not sexting. It's nothing like actually having sex, which is the important part.

    It just seems so weird to me, this change. I just read what @kirast said about it him making excuses and it being a make or break thing - really? Sexting as a make or break thing? Ridiculous.

    • Sometimes people want a specific thing. If it's important enough to that person, by all means it can be a make or break deal. There can always be more under the surface that we don't see because it's not told to us. We don't know them, and there's always a tipping point. I've hit that tipping point before and wanted out. So have some of my exes. Everyone has their reasons. Some might make perfect sense and some might not make sense to us at all, but when you're inside the walls of that specific relationship, feelings are always going to be different than the one who's out looking in. For this situation, Something as minor as not receiving a sext when she's wanting to be romantic or just a little frisky could be built up to a bigger issue. Obviously coming on here and asking a question of the sort, she's hit a point of confusion. And was asking for advice. I'm giving my 2 cents as are you, but don't discredit an opinion by saying ridiculous when you don't know every detail of that situation or if it's escalated to a certain point. If you're not fully satisfied in any facet of a relationship, people can become flighty and question it. I've seen it happen. I do absolutely agree with you on the obsession of the phone thing. No facial interaction is truly the biggest downfall the internet has brought us. It happens more and more. Humans seek confirmation.

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  • Blue balls doesn't hurt. I've never had it hurt. It sounds like an excuse to me. And if he doesn't want to talk about it there's gotta be an underlying reason. If this is something you enjoy, let him know this is a way you like to express your attraction to him. If he isn't into it still and it's a make or break for you, you know what to do.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Your Boyfriend is abit uneducated, Blue balls is caused when the semen produced is in there for a long time without being released. Nude pics and stuff don't Give blue Balls. So I'm guessing you guys are not having Sex? If so then of course he will not engage, whats the use of getting turned on for nothing.

    • Well we are sexting when he said he got it. So I’m not there to have sex but no we have sex everytime we see each other

    • Ohky, But Google what gives blue balls qnd send to him

  • 1. You should not be worried. You turn him on so much that it physically hurt him. It's more of a 'rich man's problem'.
    2. Blueballs should never be a problem. He can just jerk off and he wouldn't experience it.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Seems odd. Why wouldn't he want it

  • He loves you but I guess he doesn't lust for you

  • I say don't worry, but perhaps you should stop sending him nudes because it seems that gets your hopes up but nothing ever happens. Personally though, saying he gets blue balls is an excuse, because all he has to do when that happens is rub one out.

  • No, it seems reasonable to me. I have the same feeling too, I hate pretending it's happening when it's not.

  • He must be really shy.
    If you were my girlfriend, you’d have to be changing your panties by now.

  • Is it a big deal?

    • Yes is it suspicious or weird

    • So it is for you, you should tell him. I love sexting.

    • No I’m asking from a dudes perspective if it’s weird or suspicious

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  • If it's a big deal for you than it's a big deal.

  • Have you guys talked about being exclusive?

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