I am back living at home due to COVID and I cought my younger brother cross dressing in my clothes what should I do?

Our parents left for a long weekend Thursday night to have alone time. Friday morning I left to hang out with some friends and I thought I would not be home for dinner so that is what I told my brother.

My plans fell through and I headed home around 3:30 pm. I get home and yell up to my brother but no answer. So I go up to his room and the door is wide open. He was laying in bed (which faced away from the door so he didn't see me), he had porn up on the tv in front of his bed. I was about to leave and let him finish but then I noticed what he was wearing.

He was wearing one of my fuzzy Onesies and a pair of my Ugg boots. He was also jerking himself off over the fabric of the Onesie. I just stood there not knowing what to do. I decided to just go back downstairs and checked my room on the way.

I found that the clothes he was wearing were laying on the floor and on my bed he had gotten out most of the soft/fuzzy fabric clothing I own and laid it on the bed. It also looked like he was in my bed because I had made it before I left and as it turned out the sheet and blankets I had on were also these fuzzy fleece ones.

I went downstairs and decided to go back out shopping for two hours and then picked up some pizzas for our dinner. I went to my room and there he was there wearing a fleece jacket while putting on a pair of Sherpa lined sweat pants. He then noticed me. I didn't want it to be too awkward so I quickly said "I know my clothes are warmer but please ask before you borrow them" and then to come down for dinner.

I let him wear the stuff that night and didn't bring it up. But I am just feeling like I need to talk to him about it. I am not sure if it's cross-dressing or some other fetish since I did some research and it seems like soft fabric is a semi-common fetish.

Should I talk to him? I am not mad if he does have the fetish then I’ll buy him some stuff for Christmas if he wants but I just want to know.
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  • I will just start out saying that you are an amazing sister for being so understanding. Based on what you said I don't think he is into the cross-dressing by itself. I think you are right and he has a fetish for soft fabrics. I have had the same fetish since middle school. It is much more common than people would think and the people in the community tend to just call it a fleece fetish. Talking with other people who have it the most common reasons tend to be because we would see most girls wearing the stuff. Also experimenting when young we discover that masturbating with it feels really good. It is also not only a guy thing I have met some women who have it also.

    So moving on to what you should do about it. I think you should talk to him, tell him you know and be super understanding and just make sure that it is the fetish and not something else. Assuming it is then help him. I wish I had an older sister that knew and would get me stuff. I mean like buy him men's fleeces for him to wear and take him shopping.

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  • First how old is your brother, this makes a difference. If he is young, he may just be experimenting with his early sexual feelings.

    Secondly, I tried hard not to laugh when I read this. I know its not funny to you, but... it seems seriously odd to me. It's probably not normal behavior, but as I said in the first part it could just be sexual experimentation and confusion of a younger boy.

    So far I think you did pretty well with the things you said. However, I would not encourage that behavior by buying him things to reinforce it. His sexuality is his business, but your right to have your things respected is your business.

    I think what you do next should depend on whether or not he respects your request not to wear your things without asking. You have a right not to have your clothes taken and masturbated on, nor your bed used for this purpose. If he disrespects your request, you need to talk to him and tell him that isn't acceptable.

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  • In this day and age, be it he is cross dressing or it’s a fetish, there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with either of those things!


    I’m glad that you did not make him feel bad about it or embarrass him that was so great of you and the best thing to do. Because now yes you could absolutely approach him and talk about it.


    But only if you will continue to accept him for either of those things and not make him feel that they are wrong or that he is in any way doing the wrong thing or there is something wrong with him. He can then ask you questions he may have and can come to you later in life. And yes later in life when he feels comfortable you and he can approach your parents together as he will have you to help him to be there when telling them if it is the latter that he is cross dressing. But if it’s just a fetish then they do not need to know it’s his business.


    Be gentle and kind and non gudgy and think if it was you how you’d like to be approached xx

    • Thanks for this. I will support him whatever it is. I wouldn't even mind him wearing clothes if he wanted. But whatever happens, I know its not a good idea to ever tell our parents.

  • No big deal, lots of young guys have fantasies of wearing girls clothes. It may pass quickly or not.

    The big problem is that some girls don't mind guys wearing girls clothes, they just don't want it to be theirs for various reasons, the biggest one is they don't want cum all over them.

    I am back living at home due to COVID and I cought my younger brother cross dressing in my clothes what should I do?

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  • Tell him to buy his own and not borrow yours.

  • what age range is he?

    • He recently turned 17.

    • *possible he is a closet cross-dresser and/or bi-curious maybe even thinking his is trans to some degree. *depending on how you feel about him using your stuff. you could consider taking him with you shopping. so you can help him pick out his own girly clothes. so he does not use your as much or all the time. unless you have older stuff he can have to use that you don't care about anymore. *could also consider talking to your parents about the matter. *could also be he just needs to find a partner. to help him release his pent up sexual energy. maybe help him get a girlfriend if at all possible. just make sure he knows to use protection if they start having sex.

    • typo* thinking he is trans to some degree*

  • Talk to him. I can tell that you love him so talking won't hurt. Hope it goes well. He probably won't be that shy since he's aware you know about it and you didn't make a fuss over it.

  • What the actual fuck? Lol... say something I guess

  • Having a fetish for super-fuzzy clothing is a very real phenomenon. In Etsy, there are whole shops devoted to the stuff! You were very perceptive when you just soft-pedaled the incident. Talk to him in a few days to help him sort things out.

    • Thanks for the advice, I do think this is what he has. I just thought it was strange that it was only my soft and fuzzy clothing and looking back he has always loved the fuzzy blankets we had around the house.

  • Tell your mother and father

    • Why? I really don't see a reason for that and our parents would take it really badly like when they caught me masturbating at that age.

    • It’s your duty to fix this before it’s too late for the boy

    • Fix what?

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  • Sounds like one horny guy & wouldn't be worried about it.

  • Fuck, send him my way lol.

  • Sounds like a fetish which is normal.
    You are very smart to play it of the way you did, very mature!

  • How old is he?

    • He is 17.

    • Take him shopping. No way you should have to share your clothes with him.

  • I don’t know what to say about that

  • you did great in not shaming, good for you, take him shopping. let him know you support him. liking to cross dress doesn't always mean gay. just let him know you have his back. you are a great sister

  • I suggest you have a chat with him Hannah.
    I do not know if maybe he is just into fleecy, fluffy clothes or crossdressing or maybe he is just into wearing stuff that his big sister has worn.

  • My girlfriend used to get her bras and knickers stolen from the washing line, I guess guys like womens clothing.

  • It sounds like your brother has the hots for you.

    • If that was the case I would think he would be more interested in my dirty clothes. Most of the things he had were not stuff I had worn since last winter, and even a jacket I had just bought and never worn so I don't think he would attach those clothes to me.

    • They were in your closet so they are your clothes. Guys only want dirty clothes if they want to sniff them. Not all guys are into that.

    • Well, maybe not dirty clothes but at least clothes he has seen me wear a lot. Since I have only been home since spring so basically I have not worn any of the clothes he had out around him. So that is why I think there is some other fetish going on.

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  • It might be that he has an incest fetish. That is why he is masturbating with your clothes.

    • If that was the case I would think he would be more interested in my dirty clothes. Most of the things he had were not stuff I had worn since last winter, and even a jacket I had just bought and never worn so I don't think he would attach those clothes to me.

    • I think that he was hoping to soil them with his spunk and then hopefully have you wear it unknowingly.

    • But he didn't cum on any of the stuff I checked.

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  • Get him a man with a big cock to fuck him like the real bitch he is

    • If dick size is linked to brain size then you must have the smallest penis in the world.

    • Who said that I have a big dick? I said bring him a man with big dick, you the one who said he likes to crossdress

    • And by the way my dick is small not the smallest

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