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Do lazy hookups get you off?

I hooked up with a guy I thought would be a good candidate to help me relive some stress and long story short it was very anticlimactic and extremely disappointing. I cannot STAND lazy sex idc if we’re in a full blown relationship, married, dating or just hooking up I feel like you should always leave a good impression even if you don’t plan on seeing that person again at least give them something worth thinking about every blue moon.

Now Im not saying get buck wild with everyone you hookup with but at least do something exciting. Like if you know you don’t feel comfortable giving the guy a blow job then at least throw it back and ride him like you’ve never rode before etc... and if the guy doesn’t feel comfortable going down on a girl front or back then at least use your fingers/thumb and work the g-spot until you get it right. The point of hookups are to get your nut and go but it’s annoying if only one person benefits from it.

Anyway I basically stopped him mid position and made him get his clothes and leave my place. I just don’t like half ass sex and I told him that well before we planned to hookup and yet he really thought he was doing something...

Are my expectations too high when hooking up? I’ve never been the type to overstay my welcome or want a guy to linger around when we finish. I’m always a get your things and go lol but I always feel a tad bit bad when I have to stop someone mid session to say dude... this not it.
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  • I don't think your being unreasonable at all. It's a guy's job to do the work period. I've had most girls lay there and only move when i switch them positions or to kiss. I'm a man and I am dominate in bed so I like to smother her by being all over her, licking everything, and fucking vigorously. Also no excuse you always have to be on your A game. Even if I never see the girl again that gives me more motivation because I want to consume that body knowing I won't have it again.

    • EXACTLY!!!

Most Helpful Guy

  • Making love means that I want to bring great pleasure to my partner and express my love for her in a physical way.
    Fucking means I want to use a female body to get off.

    Hooking up is. . . making love, or fucking? Yes, your expectations are too high.

    • That’s the thing i never said anything about making love lol i don’t care to stay over, cuddle, and stare into each others eyes all night while being stroked slowly holding hands because to be honest none of that gets me off or makes me feel anything. I was talking about fucking but the mutually beneficial kind where not just the guy cums but he can also actually make the female cum too for once

    • So you want him to care about you when your fucking but not care too much after you've cum.

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  • Should have been me 😇

  • Haha I've stopped sex when I wasn't having fun. If you already communicated then tell him to go. But maybe tell them what you like during sex?

    • Lol I can only imagine how she probably felt but yeah I could start telling them what I like, it’s just sometimes you just wish a person would know or at least listen to your body to find out. That’s probably where my expectations are too high at is expecting them to know my body 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • Haha maybe there's a happy middle ground for you. Reading and paying attention to body language is usually like 50% of seduction. 🤣

  • can't really help but very well written

  • So... you expect to actually get off when you pop a random hookup.

    What kind of a tart are you? Lol!

    I thought it was common practice to fuck your hookup lile you are never gonna see them again.

    • um yea... it’s my body, why would I want a bare minimum guy who can’t even please me fuck me? lol but if your a bare minimum tart with lazy sex just say that 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • Hahahahaaaaaahahahahaha! Like a lousy lay would let you know up front! Silly girl!

  • Sure they have in the past

  • I don't blame You I hate it to you have to give me some energy

  • When you hook up with someone, you expect him and (her for men) to bring his best or almost best game because this is your first with that person. A proper guy would make sure that she has at least one good satisfying orgasm but more is better.

    In my case, I would ask her if she was okay me being rough because I like to dominate and control the sex how I want and if she gives consent, I will go that way. İf she isn't into that, I will try to find a middle ground.

    When you hook up, you don't expect a lazy sex. Therefore, Your expectations are reasonable.

  • I don't really do hook ups because I need emotional connection.

    • I understand

  • No your expectations aren’t too high you don’t want it to be lazy and unfulfilling. You just want the guy to be into it as much as you and at least act like he’s enjoying it.

    • Exactly!!!

  • i get it, i want a girl that gets involved in what we are doing

  • Well I agree one hundred percent. Come find me I'll give you what you want. if your going to do it di it well. my motto

  • What made it lazy did he not lick your pussy? Did he not fuck you hard and fast?

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