Guys, how does it make you feel when people expect you to have a high sex drive just because you're a guy?

[remmadee]

I've been with my boyfriend off and on for about half a year. I'm usually in the mood more often than he is. He's expressed to me that he just doesn't have as high of a sex drive as I do. I was wondering. Do guys feel pressured just as much as girls do? I've seen stories upon stories of women feeling depressed or like they're not good enough because they just don't want sex as often as their partners. What about when it's flipped? How do you guys feel if your partner has a higher sex drive? Do you feel the need to put other guys down because their drive isn't as high as your own? Why is that something that you do? Does it make your partner selfish to expect you to want to have sex more and do you think you would just tell them to find someone else to be with if it's that big of an issue for them? Let us know how it really makes you feel.

[Kurαȷ]

I don't feel pressured, I simply feel off-put, I feel that the more sexual people undermine the meaning of physical intimacy by trivializing it.

It just doesn't work like that for me, so I don't date women with a higher sex drive, although I did make that mistake in the past, when I didn't know that most women had a higher sex drive than was "advertised".

Nowadays I simply look for women with similar views to mine- the kind of women who find it acceptable to think about sex several months into a committed exclusive relationship, who get most annoyed by men who ask questions along the lines of "so, when are we going to have sex?".

[centerline]

it make us self conscience... we know you want it, but we just aren't in the mood...

sometimes during the day we think about it, and have plans to make a move on you later in the evening, but then the time comes and we have lost our ambition for sex... its kinda like wanting to go swimmng so bad on a hot day, yet when you get to the water a little later, you aren't as excited about getting in as you were earlier... a strange phenomenon that all guys deal with, and it bothers most of us but there is nothing that we can do about it...

[JackSmy]

I have been with a few that have a much higher sex drive, but they are totally content, and satisfied, when I just focus on them, and going down, and loving their lips, and clit, and just learning what they need, and want! Part of every relationship!! You learn what your partner likes, and then do that, for them!! :)

[Berethor]

It's usually the men who have the higher sex drive, thanks to testosterone, and if a man is not able to match is woman's sex drive then he likely to feel unmanly, while his woman is likely to feel unattractive.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/AManIsAlwaysEager

[Gigglytr0n]

Funny, especially considering they know that I don't have time for that shit

[DreamCatchcer]

If you are in a good relationship, sex should be a part of it.

It's up to the individual couple to figure out hoe often.

If one partner has a lower see drive, the other can always masturbate.

Is your sex drive high or low?

[Posterboy56]

Uhh... feels pretty normal, since most of us do.

If we don't want sex with our partner, then something is wrong. Like with the relationship. There's no just "oh I just don't feel like it right now." ... that doesn't exist, and if it does, then either there's something wrong emotionally, as in he's losing attraction toward her or is really like sad or something, OR he has something physically wrong like low testosterone, in which case he should consult a physician.

[Steve37]

I've never been in a relationship with a woman with a higher sex drive than me but I imagine there's a similar feeling to what a girl feels when a guy always wants sex and she doesn't.

[Bang5luts]

Let's start off by setting a foundation. For instance, the largest sexual organ in the human body is the brain. With that being said, there are so... many different things affecting the Male and female's (for that matter) sex drive. Imagine if you will being a woman and then hearing your partner say something negative in a joking manner about your unclothed body.. That would cause a woman to feel insecure, would it not? Thus lowering her drive or desire to have sex, with her clothes off at least..

The same can be said about a man. Let's say a man comes home from work and hears his partner on the phone with her sister/mother/bff saying something like, "So that guy was like a two pump chump?" Even if the guy wasn't paying much attention to the conversation, his subconscious mind might have been. Then inadvertently unbeknownst to him he's just not performing well. I know, I know sounds a little out there right? Most guys at a very young age are taught to ignore their feelings. We fall off our bikes and dad says, "Walk it off!" "Walk it off Billy". Therefore, teaching young boys to ignore their feelings and just walk it off.

Another factor that can affect a person's sex drive is blood flow, how hydrated they are, feeling some sort of undue pressure to perform. I mean if a guy has a difficult time maintaining an erection even one time. His partner will ask them, what is wrong am I not attractive to you. Which only further exacerbates the situation.

So remember, even the thickest skinned partner that can handle anything, might have a subconscious mind that catches everything said.

[Jerre]

My sex drive is quite high, able to fuck 3-4 times a week. Could probably be more if I limited my orgasms to 2, but I go all out and use all my cum by having 3-5 orgasms. I have several friends with benefits who have a sex drive about equal to mine and they are ready to fuck nearly everyday. When we get together, we fuck and 69 until we are exhausted and fall asleep. Several time they woke my up during middle of the night wanting to fuck again. I obliged.

[Valnac]

You fit my needs, you naughty girl.

[jizzyjay]

Its a lot of pressure. Especially when u feel the effects during sex that u initiate lol