How can I stop envying women, for years I can not leave the feeling that women have it better, I don't know where I can talk about this?

[Wolkmi]

there's a lot of advantage that men can't have, I don't want to dwell on examples:

Tinder, that women dont need to risk and approach men (even when women approach they aren't rejected so much), they have always suitors in sex or dating, dating or marrying up, onlyfans, findom (you can search this, women have slaves in BDSM easily)...
a woman just need to be attractive, and is easy, women dont suffer height discrimination like short men or a small p*nis equivalent, or being shy, i dont talk about being pretty or ugly, short men are considered ugly just for the height, and they can't change their height to fit women's preferences. Or women dont need confidence or a good career just like men or compensate...

[Anonymous]

Okay, first off, let me start of by saying you are coming across a little bit hostile towards women in this post. Secondly, i feel you are falling into some incel-like behavior. I dont say this to be mean or anything, its simply an observation.
But to answer your question, you need to accept that some people have it better, yes, both men and women, but not everyone does. Some women are ugly, some dont get guys. I know I never got with anyone seriously until I was 18 and I never had much luck with dating apps. Any struggle a man has, a woman could have too. At the end of the day you need to simply accept that.
If you’re short, own it. Don’t walk around with the negative perception that you’re ugly just because you’re short otherwise thats how other people would perceive you. For a good example, the wonderful Danny Devito. Everyone loves Danny Devito even though he is short and not conventionally attractive at all. He used to go up to tall girls at bars and chat them up and he would get a good response back. What Danny Devito has in this situation that I believe you don't, is self confidence.
I don’t think you envy women or hate women explicitly, but that you’re projecting your thoughts about yourself onto women so you feel better and don’t have to acknowledge that you are the one feeling you’re inferior and not the women. Now i dont want that to sound mean, because i dont mean it like that, but I think you could use some help becoming more confident and yourself and becoming better at talking to women in general. And i dont just mean romantically. I mean become friends with some women simply to be friends, learn and grow from them and their experiences. I genuinely think you could outgrow this with some life experiences and work so i hope you just try to listen to me at least a little bit.

[Wolkmi]

" I know I never got with anyone seriously until I was 18 and I never had much luck with dating apps.." i have 23 and virgen and kisless, there are forever alone men with 30, 18 is a normal age, you in fact have sucess in dating. Also Danny Devito is a celebrity not a average person. A handsome man dont have the advantages pretty women have, things aren't equal, for example as i say a handsome but short man or a handsome man with a short penis, women dont suffer that, you can see tall suggar babies, how much short gigolos you see? Maybe strippers... or the findom thing or how women are desired in BDSM, tinder, etc

[Wolkmi]

and iam not hostile towards women, its just jealousy.

[Opinion Owner]

No offense, but maybe the reason youve gone this long without any romantic prospects is because you put out this energy. Secondly, my Danny Devito anecdote is from before he was widespread famous. Im talking about when he was much younger and hadn’t really hit Hollywood yet. But my point is your attitude is what stops you from getting girls or feeing better about yourself. The fact that you respond to everything else i say except that confirms that to me and I really think you need to evaluate what you want in life and if you want to continue this cycle of victimhood or grow beyond that

[Wolkmi]

but i dont talk about me and iam not a victim, is in general. Look at onlyfans or findom or prostitution, who are the ones making money? Or with tinder? Who has the matches? Really this is not about me, i can't show you posts of how women care about height but men dont or how women see as dealbreakers things like income, have roommates, etc

[Wolkmi]

is very funny that women are always blaming men on their personality. Well for example if a was a woman i wouldn't need a personality, the looks were more that enought

[Wolkmi]

and what mentality if what i say its true? Men are the ones who approach women or with prostitution or onlyfans, women are the ones making money. Or that women dont suffer short height or small penis equivalent, i dont talk about being ugly but about being attractive but short or being a handsome short man with a small penis and shy... there's no such equivalences in women...

[AaronKrieger]

Work on improving yourself and liking yourself more. Seems like his stems from your insecurity about yourself, but I could be wrong about that.

[Rangers]

You're totally right

[Wolkmi]

thanks

[Warmapplecrumble]

You can have my periods
You can have my pain during childbirth
You can have my pain for carrying a child for 9 months
You can have my pain for menopause

[Wolkmi]

LOL but you can have children whatever you want, there's no way a man can start a family when he wants. A single man can't have biological sons

[Warmapplecrumble]

... I can't have children without a man

[Wolkmi]

sperm banks easy access to sex women usually have it easier to find boyfriends

[Warmapplecrumble]

I want a man who will be with the child and be his biological father

[Wolkmi]

ok but i say that for example with pregnacy a single woman can have biological children, maybe in the past men too but today with the contraceptives i dont think men have that option easily

[Warmapplecrumble]

I don't think I can get any guy I want to reproduce with me and stay with me and my child

[pigoat]

Sex change exist you know

[Wolkmi]

but i dont want necessary to be a woman, i envy the gender roles and advantages

[pigoat]

So you are just disappointed that men can't have the same advantages You remind me of a midget baldman i once knew who wish to be gay because women fucked him over so much Ni matter how much he wanted it he was never gonna be gay he told me this That's you, it will never happen keep being unsatisfied

[Wolkmi]

How are you so bitter? I just say i envy women and i wish men could have that advantages too

[Redstang88]

Yeah, and there’s plenty of perks to being a guy too
One thing that definitely won’t fix it is self pity and whining

[Wolkmi]

but is not self pity or whining !!! Onlyfans or findom or sex work, tinder... that women are privileged there is very objetive. As a man i see zero perks or advantages in dating or sexuality specially if men are not allowed to complain like women

[Redstang88]

What do you think you’re going to accomplish? It’s whining Besides, most of what you whine about only works if we’re stupid enough to fall for it 🤷‍♂️

[Redstang88]

Sure women have the best side of things with dating, but with life in general there’s pros and cons for both sexes

[Wolkmi]

I dont whin. I just give my opinion

[Twalli]

So only in a sexual sense women have it better. In society it's entirely different

[Anonymous]

its a reminder that it looks like guys, men, are more difficult to raise than girls do when it comes to parenting.