My guy has a BBW porn addiction! I'm not a BBW and never will be! Please help?

[K1nkyK1ttenXx]

So I have been with my guy for 10 years... this seems to be an ongoing problem. I don't have a problem with people watching porn... but when it's excessively done, in my opinion, I consider that a problem. To be honest I think porn has ruined a lot of marriages & people's minds in general! Can be very brainwashing if you're not careful with it. So don't come for me, I'm just saying! Anyways... I'm what they call a "freak in the sheets" LOL but no matter how spicy I am I don't think I will ever be enough for my guy and he will deny that til his death I think. He tells me I'm enough and he doesn't like BBW women better and he would never act on his fantasies even though I've caught him on a few dating sites talking to big women (that he was talking dirty to but said he would never actually meet up with anyone, all just fantasy roleplay, no I don't think I believe him)! Plus, that's all that's been on his porn history for the past 10 years! Bbw this bbw that. Sometimes gang bangs occassionally or 3somes. Yet here I am, a petite girl!!!5ft2 &120 lbs. I'm satisfied with his dick so I'm not looking at porn, or fantasizing about other people so maybe I just don't understand porn addiction but it seems pretty common sense that if he loved me he wouldn't be doing this shit! Can anyone help me understand this since he's not telling me straight answers? Maybe a dude that understands this situation? Like I am legitimately NOT GETTING IT and I feel like he is LYING to me about being into me. Been together 10 years and have a son together. I am so heartbroken and hurt and the way I feel about myself has been broken... I no longer feel good about myself... after we have sex I now feel disgusted because I think he fantasizes about big girls when he's with me which is a shitty feeling!!! I just don't see how our relationship can be fixed at this point.. If he's satisfied with me like he says he is why is he fantasizing about bbws if that's not what he actually wants? So confusing

[Daniela1982]

So what are we supposed to do, magically turn you into a BBW for sex and then back to normal after it's over? You have put up with it for 10 years and are apparently OK with it as you are still together. In my opinion porn is not good for anything, as your case shows. So you will have to either plump up or live with it as getting out of a unhappy relationship is off the table. Anytime anyone complains it shows it is unhappy.

BBW Porn , uhhhh, no!

[RomanSahu]

Yes agree... Porn is addiction and makes thing worst. You can talk to him about his fantasies other than BBW and try those out. Get him into other more kinky things if you can... so that he may be diverted for some time then will be fine after few days.

One of my friends, her boyfriend was also addicted to the porns particularly online sexting things with girls. So she did try some kinky stuff like roleplay, bdsm things and she helped him to learn all these. Now both are happy she also enjoys a lot with his dominant behaviour.

May be you both can find out who is dominant and who is submissive then can go for it.

Not sure if it works for you but just give it a try if not already.

[K1nkyK1ttenXx]

Thank you for that lol but I already been doing that for 10 years lol

[RomanSahu]

Haha okay. My bad! Your username says it all.

[RomanSahu]

Hey, thanks for the MHO ;)

[RemoErdosain]

It's probably some fantasy he has. Just because you're different to women in the main porn category that he watches doesn't mean he's less into you. The fact that he took it as far as to message women online about it doesn't speak very good of him, though. One thing seems pretty clear, and it's that he really enjoys sex with you, because he keeps coming back for it. Trust me: If it weren't doing anything for him, he wouldn't keep coming back

[CubsterShura]

I'm also similsr to you in terms of height and weight. Honestly speaking if I find my future husband watching any porn he's done for but otherwise this general obsession with BBW wouldn't settle fine with me and I'd actually leave. I don't need to be the most attractive woman, I don't need all men to drool over me but at least the man I'm marrying has to be happy with the way I look. I don't know how my mind will even handle it given my past with anorexic tendencies and not feeling thin enough even now.

[nerdybutlazy]

If he's been on these dating sites it kinda sounds like he would totally cheat on you

[K1nkyK1ttenXx]

It sounds like it but he swears it's just fantasy roleplay and he'd never meet up with anyone. I consider talking to women like that cheating so yes he has cheated in a sense. Not sure what to do. Been with him for 10 years, have 3 kids, low on money... pretty sad

[nerdybutlazy]

I'm sorry that that's going on but I don't know if that's what he's spending his time on

[Gramkabir]

No way... if watching porn is cheating then every guy is cheating... watching porn is like a watching movie... you may like a movie star but guys don't want her in life... so as porn... it's for ejaculation only.

[Berethor]

Most men prefer thin women so it's strange, all porn he watch is with BBW? but he been with you for 10 years and even have a son with you, so I doubt that he don't find you attractive.

[RxMc2401]

Please tell him I will gladly find him whatever sort of BBW he wants and we can trade straight up... I’ll gladly take his beautiful woman off his hands and appreciate her all she likes... This is crazy and you’re too sweet and beautiful to have to deal with this nonsense

[LiamSawyer]

I saree with you 100%, he has a porn addiction and has lost the sense of reality. Dump him you need a guy that appreciates you and will be loyal to and that means forget watching unrealistic, fake porn.

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

It's not an addiction it's what he prefers and likes

[chriscdi]

well if youve already caught him talking to some then do you really believe he wouldn't act on it? i feel like he would, either ways, you gotta decide what you wanna do

[Madmegalomaniac]

Porn and real life are different. Porn is to satisfy lustful cravings. Relationships are meant for romantic cravings.


If the relationship started with him approaching you, there likely is something about you he likes.

[Tiffanyloves2swallow]

Before I met my boyfriend I didn't watch porn I felt the same way u do at one point my boyfriend would talk to other girls but never do anything with them I felt like I wasn't good enough also but we now watch porn together now and I don't mind it cuz he watches it to get idea or to compare me to these girls but he likes me watching it with him so I can get more ideas for us in the bedroom and make it more fun and it does work he's never cheated on me he talks to other girls I used to get mad but the way he out it he's with me and I'm the lucky one that gets his dick and it's mine these girls wish they could be me and he's never done anything with anyone else but me so it does heat things up in the bedroom, there's nothing wrong with guys watching porn I learned to like it and I get ideas for myself with my guy

[Twalli]

Flirting with them is different, but watching that type of porn is fine. I probably wouldn't date a really tall girl or diet with them. I do enjoy porn with tall skinny girls who have small boobs.

[Valnac]

I think you are overthinking it.
If he can separate the 2, why can’t you.
You are the one he married.
You are what he wants, everything else is a fantasy.

[K1nkyK1ttenXx]

Only thing is we are NOT married... and I feel he hasn't married me because deep down he doesn't love me

[K1nkyK1ttenXx]

Plus if I'm the one he wants there shouldn't be any fantasies! I'm not over here fantasizing about other dick LOL

[Valnac]

Oh, sorry!

[Paulychicago10]

Aye captain. Would that be your vessel out yonder?

Sorry I can't really help on the question. It may just be a faze he's going through

[K1nkyK1ttenXx]

LOLOLOL

[Guthm]

it's okay, don't worry about it.

if you like Spanish guys would you leave your boyfriend for them?

[K1nkyK1ttenXx]

There's a difference between liking something and being OBSESSED with it like he is...

[Guthm]

if he obsessed about it that much, he wouldn't be your boyfriend tell now. I can't understand people who like BBW 🙄🙄

[CubsterShura]

Dude listen. Ethnicity wise I have a preference for Asian dudes, but I'm dating an Arab now (and I have no desire to trade him for everything on earth and beyond.) Doesn't mean I still obsess over Asian guys or watch Asian man porn all day everyday.

[Guthm]

nice, at least someone recognise Arabic guys.😄 I feel most people considering Arabic ethnicity as Indian. because they both have brown skin and dark hair

[gandolph3]

maybe he keeps you so that the rest of the world won't see his fetish

[Anonymous]

OMG he wants to be your feeder

[K1nkyK1ttenXx]

LOLOLOL dying 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Opinion Owner]

run while you can :) because someday you might not be able to run

[Anonymous]

It’s strange he would like that type when you are nice and slim which is what most guys want. Just has a fascination with them I guess but they are not desired by many guys so it’s strange to me, hope he gets help from a therapist

[Anonymous]

You've gotta be able to separate fantasy from reality. We all fantasize about things we'd never do. Have you ever been mad at someone and thought about punching them in the face? You wouldn't do it, but it's fun to think about. Same sort of thing with porn. It's a fun thought. That's it. Nothing more.

[K1nkyK1ttenXx]

I get that but when this has been his go to porn category for years it just seems like a little bit more like an obsession than a fantasy... which hurts me... I'll never be fat! It won't matter how much I do to keep things spicy... because I'm not fat! Even though he swears he's happy with me... if he's happy with me why did I catch him for the 5th time on a dating website called "meetme" talking to women? Just so frustrating & heartbreaking

[Opinion Owner]

But it isn't. It's just a porn fantasy. Though catching him on a dating site is completely different. That's not a fantasy. That's an action. You have every right to be upset about that.

[Anonymous]

If he is addicted to that genre he has a thing for those women. And if he is talking to them on dating apps he is most likely cheating; or wants to cheat. This isn't the guy you want to be around.

[K1nkyK1ttenXx]

We've been together 10 years and have 3 children together... I've tried leaving but he gets all suicidal and weird. He said he will get psychiatric help for the porn addiction... which the dating site was also like porn because he wasn't meeting up with anyone he was just dirty talking... still very hurt by it nonetheless...

[Opinion Owner]

I hope that the therapist helps him.

[K1nkyK1ttenXx]

I hope so too because I can't keep doing this or feeling like I'm not enough. ILL NEVER BE FAT LOL

[Anonymous]

Have you considered leaving him?

[K1nkyK1ttenXx]

Yes... many times... just hard with 3 kids and not much money