He sees me as just sex but I love being around him?

[Anonymous]

Hi.

I was dating this guy for about 2 months and we went on dates and it went so well. We’d spend the whole night together up until 6am. Every time. I can tell he loves being around me because he never wants to leave and he wants to spend all night with me. We make each other laugh and I’m a very laid back girl which he loves.

we had sex on the 4th date and it was really good, he enjoyed it and so did I. But since I grew such a connection to him within the two months it felt so much deeper to me. A few days after we had sex I finally had the courage to ask him what he wanted ( Yes I know I should have asked before ) and he just said he’s not ready for anything serious but we can still see each other and have fun which I agreed too. He’s 18 so I understood.

I can tell he’s very attentive with me because he always goes on my Instagram and likes all my photos from time to time and adds me on everything.

He only messages me though now just to go to hotels and stuff. If I asked to actually
go somewhere he probably would agree but expect sex after.

I already have a friends with benefits who I don’t have any connection with apart from sex. I don’t want another one. I know he loves the sex and being around me but he dosent speak to me everyday anymore and only when making plans.

shall I stop seeing him or do you think he could change his mind? He’s been asking to see me recently but I’ve just held back since I’m scared I will get attatched.

I’ve realised now he was taking me on dates to build a connection and talking to me everyday so the sex felt better since he said it feels better when you connect which is actually what he said to me. Shall I just not try Persue anything.

Thank you xx

[Being_a_good_Indian]

After a few dates, it becomes clear that this charmer has no interest in an intimate and meaningful relationship with you. His real agenda is only to have sex with you.

Men who are sincerely interested in you will ask how you feel? How's your work project coming along? They'll ask about the big account you're trying to close or how your annual review went with your boss.

Remember: men who want to be your boyfriend take you on dates, whereas men who only want you as a f*ck buddy take you to their place (or meet you at yours).

What to do: Don't accept a dinner invitation where he picks up dinner. Instead, let him know that you want to go out for a casual dinner.

Men who are interested in developing a relationship with you, want to share activities and cultural events with you. They want to get to know you better to make sure you're a fit for them, too. It's important they make a good impression on you that says: "I'm an interesting man who enjoys doing different things." They want to know if you're compatible with each other in many areas - not just sexually.

When a man loves your company and enjoys being with you - he just wants to be near you. You can invite him over to play a board game or to watch a movie. When you're done, you can say, "Hey... I'm tired and I have an early day at work." He's happy that you hung out together and satisfied just being in your company. Even though, you normally have sex, he's Ok that you haven't and content to share a hug and a passionate kiss.

But when you tell a man who's using you for sex, "Thanks for coming over tonight but I have to wake up and drive to the airport for a very early flight," - he'll pressure you to have quick sex. If you aren't receptive, he may become extremely angry at not getting his way.

What to do: If he gets upset at your refusal of sex, don't argue. Just say goodnight.

I hope it helps you out. Feel free to ask if you have any queries.

[igaveyouanickname]

He lost interest and is now treating you as side-pussy.

I would guess he wasn't made to wait long enough at the beginning and you didn't say "no" to him enough periodically, so his relationship boner and respect deflated too.

[Marilynjuana]

1. Liking pictures on Instagram doesn't show care or attentiveness
2. He openly told you - he doesn't want a relationship. Believe him. If you do, the two of you simply aren't compatible, and that's okay. Let go before you get even more invested.

[Asker]

I don’t actually want a relationship right now. But I know that if I keep seeing him eventually I will start to expect more from him which I don’t want to happen. Thank you for you’re opinion maybe I should not carry on

[boggboss]

If its clear he dont want more why do u think it will change sorry 😅

[Asker]

Just maybe because he likes being around me and we have a good connection but true

[boggboss]

If he did he would have already asked to be with you clearly it was not enough

[Gedaria]

It's still has it's good points. You both enjoy the sex. You have more than some do...

[Twalli]

If you really want a relationship with him then continue. He has already laid the groundwork for a relationship even if he isn't ready for one yet

[In_Trance]

Smh... this is as good as it gets. You accept it or walk away

[Valnac]

Why not have two FWB’s and enjoy them both.

[d_manx]

Move on your being a snack right now, if a man wants you he will let you know. If your okay with everything and not having anything serious with him stay.

[Anonymous]

sounds like you''re bother fucking other people