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Do guys care about what you look like down there?

hi. so I'm a virgin, 19, in college. I have recently started getting more involved with a guy- over the weekend I made out with him heavily, sucked him off etc stayed the night with him. I didn't let him do anything to me however (kept my thong on) because I'm nervous and insecure about how I look down there.

the main thing holding me back with fooling around with him or ANY guy for that matter is my insecurity with my pussy and how it looks down there. this is TMI, but I have larger labia, they are asymmetrical (right is bigger than the left) and its not perfectly pink down there (its darker and more brown)... you could say I have more of a 'fat pussy' and more 'meat curtains'. just not as clipped and perfect and pink as in porn.

I wish I could be more sexually confident and liberated but this is literally holding me back SO GODDAMN MUCH. I'm worried it will turn a guy off to the point of him wanting to stop in the bedroom, & for him to quit liking me altogether.

let me note that this guy REALLY likes me, genuinely, & respects me. he wants to commit and be my boyfriend. he seems to be good in bed and wants to pleasure me. he kept saying he wish I would have let him do stuff to me because he wanted to make me cum, eat me out, finger me, everything... his attitude towards me and his genuine interest in me makes me feel that he doesn't care, and that he seriously wants to just make me feel good... but my insecurities are holding me back from letting him.

please, I need some big-sister advice, and some very honest advice from guys. girls - do you also have these insecurities is it normal? guys - do you seriously care what pussy looks like? if you like a girl would you care? would this change your interest in her? thank you in advance
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  • You’re overthinking this. Outside of the porn industry, few people have genitals that are perfectly symmetrical or have perfectly colored skin. You’re completely normal. It’s not unusual to have some insecurities. Hell, guys wonder how women will react to seeing their penis. You just have to have a little faith and push past that. This guy is into you. He’s not going to care about such minor details. Trust me. His main goal is to pleasure you down there and hopefully pleasure himself inside you. He won’t be thinking about symmetry or skin tone. Put yourself out there and good things will happen.

    • thank you so much that really helped I just need to have some confidence and make that leap of faith - ur correct. I appreciate it sm girl thank u

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  • As long as you are healthy, hygienic, and well taken care of nobody who gets close enough to see what you have to offer is going to care.

    Vulvas come in all different shapes and sizes, and the only ugly one is one that is treated poorly by its owner.

    • thank you - im clean and I keep it fresh and everything, just a little nervous that's all

    • You have already put way more thought into your appearance that anyone you will ever date will. Don’t me too hard on yourself.

    • ugh, thank you, I needed that

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  • If you really think it looks that bad, I would advise a simple coverup for now. Let the hair grow around it to hide it some. Shave it to an attractive style to make it clear it is a choice and not that you are too naïve to know to shave.
    Remember things like color and shape are most likely genetic. Other females in your family have probably dealt with this too.
    Men adapt to there women in most cases and women do the same. C*cks are usually not pretty, but you have already taken one in your mouth and pleasured it. Relax and enjoy yourself with a partner that sounds willing to pleasure you.

  • Hi, what you describe sounds beautiful to me and probably to most any other guy.
    The problem is that You are way over thinking what you think guys want to see. And though porn is fun and entertaining, it is not a good guide to follow or learn from.

    There are a few websites out there devoted to a vag like yours and admirers (like me).

    My advice is to relax, drop the thong, and enjoy your new man. Any guy that would run from your vagina because of the way it looks is shallow and not worth keeping.

    Good luck and enjoy. :)

    • Thanks for the MHO :)

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  • No, guys don't care about what a pussy looks like

  • It probably doesn't matter. Like if a girl is beautiful enough and nice and stuff, then it really doesn't matter too much what she looks like down there. Men's brains are hijacked to love you either way, so I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. The guy will love you anyway, trust me.

  • Ok this is number 7 or 8 question you have asked i have asked 4 times to send me a messages you have to understand just 2things and your gold i hate hearing your pain or your thoughts about this even I want you to get laid and not just laid I want it to be so good that it turns you inside out and you feel the need to smoke lol

  • Any guy worth being with doesn't care. As long as you've washed it this week (and I mean just the outside as part of normal bathing, no douching or special intimate hygiene products required), the fact that you're allowing him down there is the only thing he cares about!

    In general, men are a lot less fussy about the tiny details that adverts targetting women would have you believe. A head, some boobs and the mere existence of a vagina will do!

  • No guy is going to care even a fraction of a tiny bit. You are not able to judge your parts as you are a woman. I mean a penis looks really gross, but women seem to like them. So I can't really judge how a penis looks. I can understand what you are saying, but seriously, no guy will think even a second about it.

    • its like a penis does look gross but when u are in the heat of the moment its good and its hot and you like it, but like the balls are gross to me no matter what lol. thanks for the advice

  • Your worring about nothing really how your describing yourself is common it's not like your vagina is not nature looking a lot of women have the same style so just be confident in yourself you have more chance of pushing him away being withdrawn and putting yourself down like this then him being put off by how your vagina looks seriously so just be confident in every way you look he is clearly into you so why would that change? It won't because of something so silly relax and enjoy😊

  • Technical virgin, sucked him off would keep his around for awhile, but he would like to see your pussy at some point, you need to prove to him that you are a girl and not guy after all. :)

  • There are a few things to consider here.
    Hmu if you want to talk about it

    • shoot, I can't send u a message but what are the things to consider? please telll

    • Follow me

    • I did... my user starts w throwaway

  • Guys don’t really care. We’re more concerned with how it feels inside. You’re fine. 👍

  • Your fine love.. pls use protection bc ur a freshman n well u dont want to get pregnant early.. also is sex necessary?

    • no, sex isn't necessary with him obviously, im just trying to prepare myself. I think the furthest I would go with him is him fingering me or eating me out, I most likely won't have actual penetration with him, even if I can get over these insecurities

    • Oh.. be careful.. wen ur in the moment u dont think about consequences

  • Your vulva is perfectly normal. It's normal for the inner labia to be longer and visible through the outer labia, and it's also normal for them to be asymmetric. It's also normal for the labia to be more darkly pigmented than your overall skin tone. None of these things are flaws. The vulvas that you see in most porn aren't really representative of how most vulvas are in the real world.

  • Some guys do and I think it's dumb. I love the look of all pussies. And in my opinion any guy who says something negative about a woman with large labia needs educated. also pubic hair never shave for a guy. It is there for a reason. and some of us love a hairy one.

  • I do not. Just be clean and fresh and I will do the rest.

  • They don’t care!!!

    • You're right we don't care cuz in the end we're going to fill them up anyway:D

    • @poneglyphs yep lol

    • @gwenhwyfar it's true though :^)

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  • No one is going to break out a ruler and measure the lengths of the right and left labia. Also in regards to the color I have seen a couple pornstars who had darker skin in that area and I thought the contrast was hot. Similarly I think tan lines can be considered be hot too for the same reason. They sort of highlight/draw extra attention to the areas I already find hot/arousing.

  • Honest advice... You have nothing to worry about. The things you mentioned, large labia, asymmetrical, darker color, won't even be noticed. By that I mean he won't even pay any attention to those factors. I know I wouldn't. I'd be more focused on pleasuring you that what the imperfections are. No girl is 100% perfect down there, same as guys. We all have slight imperfections as well. So, when you're ready, go for it. Just relax and enjoy the experience.

    • thank you for this advice, I appreciate it. I still need some time to gain confidence but this helps if u are being 110% honest about it

    • 150% honest. Whether I'm giving oral, or having sex, the shape, color, lip size doesn't make a difference. Honestly. If you asked him after if he noticed its asymmetrical I guarantee he'll say "really, never noticed".

    • thank u so much.

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  • I don’t know I don’t have enough experience to say. I feel like meat curtains sounds bad but other than that I don’t think I care too much...

  • Your self-centeredness will be your undoing. I guarantee it. Everything just isn't all about you all the time. No guy cares - he's just happy if you like him and want him. This level of narcissism is like a mental illness.

    • its not narcissism its insecurity

    • Insecurity is all about YOU. You feel sorry for yourself, your total focus is YOU. This is the epitome of narcissism. For women they call it solipsism. And you are CHOOSING to be a victim. Women just LOVE to do that. What your vagina looks like is absolutely irrelevant. See a shrink if you don't believe me.

  • I've dealt with slim and trimmed, hairy and hidden, and (almost) as black as coal and near as lumpy. I've dealt with them all and I'm making it to 70!

    If a guy likes you for your other attributes, a flap here or a flop there is NOT likely to stop him.

  • Vulvas come in all shapes, colors, size, and so forth. Yours is completely normal, no need to worry about that. If a guy ever rejects you because of it, the problem is the man, not your body.
    Also women in porn often get cosmetic surgery to make their genitals "prettier", so that's not an accurate model for you to follow.

    • 100%

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