Guys, Does he love me or just have sex with me?

[Kate1991]

Right please don't bash my post... So since December 2019 i found out after 3 year's 1 child and 110% loyalty on my part that he was sleeping with a women possibly double my age she has grown men as children 🙄 i was 26 at the time... He found a job 🤷 but turns out his wage was shite because instead of going to work he was going to a hotel with this old whore (google maps) so i couldn't keep this in i needed to say something and tbh i got nothing he said i was delusion etc then ever since this he has cried when falling to sleep saying he fucked up! I said why then he woke up and said nothing and ignore it... Cut a long story short for the last 10 months he has watched porn in the same room as me (so i couldn't see his screen or sound) he made a comment while on his phone "30 seconds with her" i mean this broke me I don't need to hear this anyway it's got so bad he actually sends me to shop something stupid to get me out of house so he can have a tug 🤔 guy's? Am I missing something here why is he doing this to me? I've never ever hurt him i have always done what he's asked of me he is never honest about anything! He can check my phone when he wants and i feel awkward going on my mobile because i have had 4 years of him accusing me! 😔 I feel so run down unattractive is a understament the most painful words to date was just as he cum he said to me you don't need anymore sex with all Snapchat albums we have 😭💔 i don't use Snapchat only for my children. Wtf is happening? If me catching him cheating has caused all this why is he still here!! Hasn't he hurt me enough i feel he has a grudge against me and I don't know what i have done. I'm not the most beautiful women he's probably had a relationship with but i don't think I'm ugly 😏 I know you all going to say leave! And i really want too but i lost my little boy with this man and if i leave i lose the only part of my son i have left I don't think i love him anymore I'm just full of anger and frustration.

[Berethor]

I don't think that your looks have anything to do with it, after all he was cheating with a woman double your age, so he didn't sound very picky about woman's looks. It's a difficult situation, especially considering that you have a child. Does he love your or just have sex with you? looks like neither, after all he said that you don't need anymore sex with all Snapchat albums you have. Yes you are 110% loyal to him, even after you catch him cheating, you not a whore. Maybe you should ask him why he prefer to have sex with old whore rather than have sex with you, and maybe you should tell him that a snapchat album is not a replacement for sex, and you can tell him that you need to make sure that he don't cheat on you again, and the only way to make sure by having sex with him often, so he would not have enough time and energy left for cheating on you with an old whore.

[chriscdi]

there could only be 2 reasons why he is still with you, one is because he wants sex, which is the most common reason or because he needs emotional support and uses you for it, either ways its a bad thing because it means that the relationship isn't running on love, which kills the whole point of the relationship, i do agree that you should leave, i know its easier said than done but hopefully it helps when i tell you that even tho you believe he is the last thing with your kid, it doesn't matter because with or without him, you have your kid, in your memories, all the memories you had with your kid are still there, and no one can take that away from you.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Wait you lost your child? When did that happen?

[Browneye57]

TLDR. And why god invented paragraphs. And what's with all the bold type?
Seems like your relationship is on the rocks. Just move on.

[18will2]

I'm struggling to come up with better advice than just leave. The truth is though that is not a relationship that you can stay in. He clearly has no respect for you, little to no care for you and you are being a made miserable. You are beautiful, you do deserve better. I get what you're saying about losing a the last part of your son but you will always have those feelings so he will never be gone but you just cannot stay, your son if he was here would want a happy and mentally heathly Mummy, the best way to honour him would be to live happily. For him to cheat is unforgivable in itself but to treat you with such disrespect and contempt is despicable

[18will2]

To answer your question I don't think either. I think he wants to control you

[RHK36]

Well you do need to leave. There's no good reason to stay with someone like that. He treats you like shit because you've been letting him walk all over you and because he's a trash person. The longer you stay the more he'll chip away at your self esteem and confidence.

[Iron_Man]

just sex

[larry69]

He has cheated and once you cross that line there is no going back. I am sorry this has happened to you and sorry for the loss of your son. You are still young enough to find the right man and have a family. You deserve to be happy.

[Oldman70]

Ask to be included in his play-time instead of being left out..

[Valnac]

He’s either immature, stupid, or both!
You can try taking him to couples counseling.
But I don’t know how much more you can take!