My partner has zero empathy to me, i was raped and he doesn't care, i find it really hard to have sex because of flash backs and my past and he literally makes me feel bad to have sex with him when im not ready i feel like he uses me as a sex doll and only cares about his needs, he doesn't care how i feel or even want to know about the rape he has zero interest he only cares when something affects him, i feel so depressed lonely and uncared for he use to be nice to me, also caught him looking for other girls on dating websites, i feel like all guys are the same as i've only ever had abusive relationships or guys who don't care about me after making out they really care about me and make a effort at first.
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OigitGuru
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Why the hell are you still in a relationship with this guy? Being with someone that has not scene of empathy for you not a relationship anyone should be in. Honestly him showing no empathy for you as a victim of sexual assault makes that even more true. The fact that you are questioning it shows that you know this. Don't let your emotions block out every other aspect if your thought processes. Because every other part of your thought process is tell you to leave. Because its the best thing you can do.
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sadMeesterExplorer
+1 y
I hit yes, meant to hit no, but honestly, maybe. There are many terrible things that are common, this could be one of them.
Regardless you need a better man. I care. All the men I would consider good people would care. And even if you didn't have that terrible experience any man who tries to guilt you into having sex shouldn't get any.
If you cave to a man-baby he gets worse. You would do well to realize this man is not only immature, but evil.
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HowAwkwardToBeAliveXper 4
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This is bull shit. He’s raping you if you say you’re not ready yet he’s still using your body as a “sex toy?” You need to heal, and stop going after abusive men because it sounds like you are being used for your body. A man who really cares will wait. Try being in a relationship where you take things slower and don’t have sex or even makeup until you feel comfortable being touched.
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midnightmoon05Guru
+1 y
Hope you get some counseling before continue dating.
You need to start counselling to work on rebuilding your self-esteem. You should have already kicked this guy entirely out of your life!
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AndyOhYoda
+1 y
You need to do a couple of things. First - dump the guy. He does not care nor will he change. Second - find a good counselor to help you figure out and deal with what happened to you. A good one will be worth the time and effort. In the end you should be able to find the right kind of guy who will care about you, and you will be able to deal with your past. Good luck.
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triffXper 7
+1 y
Gosh it must have been horrific what you went through and I'm sorry for the idiots you have met Not all men are the same but I do feel that there is a terrible peer pressure on girls to allow sex and it's time we brought into the world something more to protect them Although the law has protected women over sexual assaults now I don't think this guy is what you need right now You need to take some more time to get over your awful ordeal Come back and tell me why your with him
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boggbossMaster
+1 y
You have made the choice to be with a guy that is shit and you are now asking if its birmal if u claim all guys are like this and truly believe this then yes its normal please stop believing somthing so stuoid and dumb this retard but ofc you won't you will claim u love him and allow him to continue to treat u like shit
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ItsTheNephilimMaster
+1 y
You kidding? The first sentence of your description itself strays the conversation away from a 'normal relationship'. Is this the kind relationship you think will bring you happiness? Come on! Don't be so lost. Do away with him and find someone better. Don't hate yourself this much.
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Agape93Master
+1 y
No. Why are you even with him?
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hbg84Xper 6
+1 y
Its not a good thing. If he doesn't feel any empathy for you it's a huge red flag. There's a possibility he might try to rape you if you don't give him sex.
You should probably find someone that is more empathetic to you.
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oncplYoda
+1 y
He is interested in sex only.
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TallAnonMaster
+1 y
No, but if it's a repeated pattern, you have to consider that you enable this behaviour for people. You need to change so others treat you with proper respect, because nothing will change by keeping silent. Obviously he's just using you, you don't need to agree to this.
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midnightmoon05
+1 y
Thats how I also interpreted. She seems to be able to attract men. They treat her decent in the beginning. "he used to be nice to me"... At some point, she creates a dynamic that the man doesn't respect her. Not sure if she is reading this since she posted anon...
TallAnon
+1 y
At some point you have to take the common denominator and look at yourself for when people keep treating you badly.
ValnacGuru
+1 y
I’m very mad that you had to go through that. I would go with you to get counseling. And would support you all the way!
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The_unknown_memerXper 5
+1 y
IT IS NOT AT ALL NORMAL unfortunately it is happens often
Please please leave that God forsaken bastard for your sake
And please call for help
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steverangerXper 6
+1 y
Who raped you?
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PulseofsulfurXper 7
+1 y
You need to leave him. If you're being raped by your boyfriend you need to call the authorities or dump him. No boyfriend should abuse a relationship just to get laid.
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Anonymous
+1 y
It depends how you get started and how long into your relationship you are. My experience is that once guys get regular access to sex, they are less considerate.
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