In dating, why are males told to change who they are to appease females, but the same message is not taught the other way around?

[Posterboy56]

Guys are told by each other and by females that we need to shape up if we're going to attract high-quality girls (or, really, any girls at all); we're told to lose weight if we're chubby, BUT more importantly we're also told that we should change our interests and personality to suit potential mates. However, it seems like the opposite is not true.

Guys: I love "Rick and Morty" like the back of my hand, rarely wash my hair, eat 30 chicken nuggets in one sitting, and have anime quotes tattooed on my ass. Also I live with my mom.
Feedback to guys: Wow dude uh... you've got a lot to work on. Almost no chicks, especially quality ones that are decently attractive, are going to pay you much mind. Change it up.
Girls: I love "Friends" like the back of my hand, eat 30 chicken nuggets in one sitting, and have Legally Blonde quotes tattooed on my tits. I wear long fake nails because I think they're attractive even though they look like absolute ass. I'm a strong independent woman and you'd better respect me. Also I live with my mom, am currently pregnant, and have a toddler. From two different baby daddies.
Feedback to girls: Omg you're so brave, you deserve everything you want and more, you're amazing you go girl, any guy would be lucky to have you and if he doesn't give you everything you want you just kick his ass to the curb like you should.

... I am only slightly exaggerating and anyone who is in the dating world knows this is the basic crux of the situation. So... what exactly is the reason for this irrational, sexist discrepancy?

[Bandit74]

Women are viewed more as victims by society as a whole and tend to get more sympathy and support than men do. Also the average woman has more sexual value/appeal than the average man does so women realistically dont need to change their bad qualities to get a partner while guys do.

[Posterboy56]

Yeah it's dumb. It was rhetorical.

[DavidFox]

There is no discrepancy. From an early age girls are groomed and constantly face pressure to be a lady, be healthy, and countless rules to be attractive to guys.

[Posterboy56]

Well... yes, there is a discrepancy, and it's the one I've ^ described up there; what you just wrote is also true, but does not negate the truth of what I'm saying regarding how females act once they're older. They generally don't act the same way when they're six as they do when they're twenty-six, so...

[DavidFox]

A 25 year old woman is constantly given advice and told how to change based on her crush and wanting to please her man. It’s not like all women reach 18 and can get away with being lazy and arrogant while all men must bend and change to their will just to make them happy

[Posterboy56]

I think you need to date more man. Or peruse more profiles and what they actually say on online dating sites. And if you see how people talk to females that are whining about dating on Facebook, versus males, you will see what I am saying.

[DavidFox]

So I am well aware of what is said on dating profiles and also aware the majority of people on those sites are not intending to date, therefore those profiles are fake/misleading.

[Posterboy56]

... Uhhh...

[DavidFox]

Does that make sense?

[GothQueen]

I get what ur saying but its not necessarily like that for all girls. Society does tend to give more sympathy for girls and women and they tend to shun men and boys, but I think both have things they r forced to be and do. And I'm not disagreeing with u. Society is kind off messed up and really toxic, with girls, if they wear something ''revealing" they get called sluts. And boys if they aren't muscular, and dont act like something they aren't, boys are deemed weird and fat. But they shouldn't be. But its society.

[Anonymous]

I don't think that's true. Girls get the message all the time that they better start taking it up the ass or no guy is going to stay with them for long. And there's a lot of truth in that.

[Posterboy56]

I don't understand your comment-- are you *literally* referring to girls doing anal, or are you *figuratively* referring to something else that I'm unaware of?

[Opinion Owner]

I am literally referring to the pressure women get to do sexual acts they are not comfortable with. Just an example of how women are also told to change in ways they wouldn't otherwise in order to please men.

[Posterboy56]

... Did you not read the post, or something

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, unfortunately, I did read your post. Did you forget you pull your head out of your ass, or something?

[Posterboy56]

So, I think you may be mistaking the word "dating" and the other words written above to somehow read as "anal sex." You may be in need of a literacy course. Perhaps there's a local community college near you?

[Opinion Owner]

Are you really this dense? Most 8 year old children could have connected the dots here. lol

[Posterboy56]

Aaaand whooosh. Well done champ