My girlfriend is asexual and we don’t know what to do?
i also love this girl to death because her personality matches mine 100%, she’s super empathetic and compassionate and has never judged me for anything I’ve been hesitant to talk about. I really can’t see another girl like this walking my way in the future
it’s also not that she hates or fears intimacy because we kiss, cuddle, hug, etc regularly. It’s when sexual contact would enter the picture (or try to) that things began to go downward because you can easily tell she gets very indifferent, uncomfortable or sometimes even scared
i do know that she has a background of abuse, neglect, and sexual violence but she’s told me that she has never been sexually attracted to anybody even well before her sexual violence
we’ve tried talking about it many times (in very mature, calm ways) to find what can work. I’ve told her that I feel guilty making sexual advances because I know she doesn't want them and she’s said many times that she understands and her not being able to reciprocate the feelings back makes her guilty as well because she feels like she’s neglecting my needs
i know many say that sexuals and asexuals cannot work. But guys, this girl has something that I know for a fact I will not ever find in someone else. We’re both working hard to think of ways to balance out my sexual needs and her lack of them without making me feel like I’m taking advantage of her or her feeling like she’s neglecting me
So, does anybody have any advice here?
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