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How do I tell him that I wasn't wet enough during sex?

So I'm 17 turning 18 in 3 months me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time and I bled but just a little and then we had sex again the second time but this time there was a lot of bleeding afterwards and I'm not gonna lie I was embarrassed. But I found out it was apparently because I was not wet enough I don't know if it's because I was too scared that my parents might catch us or if it was just because we didn't take enough time on foreplay either way I'm scared to tell him I'm scared he's gonna think I wasn't that into it.
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  • You don't need to tell him anything, as long as you both had pleasure from it.. i think is better just to keep it for yourself... there is a saying..."the less he knows, the better you are", some things are just better to be left where they are, unspoken, unmentioned about!, if you feel you don't wet yourself enough, try a different tactic...
    Foreplay him, take the lead and make him do things to you, not just straight to sex, get him to play with you more, to touch you more, to kiss you more, to finger you more, get him to lick you... just arouse him so much... that even your body will respond to it!

Most Helpful Guy

  • Well the first time he basically popped your "cherry". If it hurts with him going in you need more foreplay and should use condoms and birth control as my opinion being so young and yes your parents would be upset. You two should foreplay more get both of you relaxed such as "69" position one of my favorites get you wet and use fingers to toy your personal area get you to loosen up and moisten you more. Good luck and be careful not to get pregnant. Time of month plays a role also as other females could explain better then me. Basically slow him down before going to home plate.

Most Helpful Girls

  • You need to tell him. It is the key to a long lasting relationship. You won't last long in the relationship if the sex hurts you and it isn't fun.

    You need to relax, if your head isn't in the right mind space your body won't corporate (at least this was my problem). And take some more time with your foreplay, if he doesn't know how to touch you help him a little, tell him to place his fingers or tongue higher or lower, tell him to faster or slower. Or try it at home when your alone, figure out for yourself what you like.
    If it doesn't help you could try some lube.

  • I would recommend buying lube. Doctors are of the opinion that sex with lube is healthier anyways.
    Just say that you would like to use it to make sex more fun and enjoyable. (Look out for condom friendly lube!!!). If you can't get your hands on lube you can also use spit... might sound weird but is also a good option.

    If foreplay was the problem definetly tell him. He wants you to enjoy it too believe me. Don't criticize but suggest ways to make your sexlife more fun and exciting. Communication is key :)

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  • Tell him. Communication is key. If he doesn't comprehend it, well when I was 17 I thought I'd be with that guy forever. I've been with at least 30 men since and I'm 25 now. So dont worry about it. Lots of spit helps.

  • Guys actually like talking about sex, before and after. Instead of making it sound negative, tell him about a foreplay technique you learned about and how excited you are to try with him. This means you perform foreplay on him and have him do it to you. This will mean more time so maybe instead of worrying about your parents you get creative where you do it again. But don’t worry about talking sex, us guys get excited when you bring up the subject :)

  • Tell him how you feel. If he doesn't know he can't help. He's probably nervous too so talk about it with him. Tell him you would like it if he licked your pussy for a while to get you wet and ready for his dick, or whatever would help you.

  • Tell him the truth, and mention wanting more foreplay before you have sex. He needs to know you weren’t wet.

  • You need lots and lots of foreplay!

  • Omg so bad

  • Just becareful and safe when you do this. The first few times are going to be painful but eventually your body will start to produce lubrication

  • tell him baby i not wet give me more

  • You don’t have to tell him you could ask him if you guys can spend more time on foreplay

  • Talk to him. I'm not sure if you use condoms or not but get some lube. Birth control is a must too.

  • You could just tell him. But you should also probably wait until you are older for sex.

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