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I matched with a girl on tinder and she almost immediately started getting very sexual and it has turned me off? Should we still meet?

So I matched with this girl, and she very quickly wanted to switch to text, and almost immediately started sending me nudes after that. We set up time to meet up this weekend, but as time has gone on, I am feeling less and less interested... partially because I don’t find I’m as attracted to her as I was initially, and the other reason is she seems to be moving very fast. If I don’t respond, she will send follow ups asking if I think she is cute, and add more pictures. If it was purely sexual, I would feel less uneasy, but she seems to be getting attached really fast. None of this would bother me that much if it was someone I knew better, but we have only been talking about 3 days.

It just makes me nervous because if we end up hooking up, I am not really up for a relationship or anything for a number of reasons... I just don’t know if I should actually meet up with her or not. She did give me an out. She seems like she is real, so I’m not worried about that as much, but still. Have you ever had someone move really fast and it turns you off? Should I meet up with her to see how it goes? Or are there too many red flags?
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  • Come on man you only live once go f*** her till wrong with you just don't give her your address so she won't be able to just pop up anytime don't f*** her at your house go get a motel room tell her you live there no seriously opportunity don't knock but once so if you want p**** you better go get p**** because p**** don't knock that often how many times have you had p**** knocking your door down to get to your dick huh go f*** her and have fun

Most Helpful Guy

  • From your description and if I were in your shoes, the first worry would be whether I can handle her high level of sexuality. I'm also not really an active communicator and if they keep pushing for replies, I just don't reply or connect back. All these would be too much pressure for my kind of lifestyle if I matched up with such a girl, so I would prefer to wait for another. After all, she isn't the only one around.

Most Helpful Girls

  • No!!! Obviously you need to run from that person. A lot of you people want to go on something like tender and y'all people keep on forgetting it's originally a hookup app. What do you expect to find where to find all kinds of crazies on those kind of places. Cut her off immediately. And blocked her while you at it.

  • I have Had Guys want to Get Married Like----Tomorrow. It IS a Turn Off. I have just Told them to GO SLOW. If you do Want to MEET UP, Set boundaries. She is probably trying for YOU to get to Like her by Sending Nudes, Although TINDER is a Hook Up Site. xx

    • Thanks to Gag. xx

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I mean yes it is a turn off. Because then there is no chase for you men. She seems desperate to me she prob just wants a friends with benefits

    • I’ve honestly never been big into just hook ups, I have normally been interested in pursuing relationships, but I am honestly not sure if I am going to be in the area for much longer and because she seemed like she was only interested in hooking up, I was on board, but there seems to be no chill... and it just makes me nervous that she is going to get too attached or something, and I would rather not lead her on if that’s the case. But I am also making assumptions here

    • Up to you on how you feel about it. I respect you for saying that many guys wouldn't think this much and would just go for it. So good to know there are good guys looking for something meaningful then just a hook up. I respect that and you should pursue that

  • So ask her first what she is for rather than meeting. If her interest is sexual and your isn’t, then why stress to meet

  • In the end it is totally up to you!

  • She is likely a narcissist, and seeking attention in order to keep herself satisfied. I would steer clear, especially if you aren't attracted. Be boring and less attractive, don't reply to any baiting statements. Explain yourself, maybe, but if that doesn't work, drift away and avoid.

  • Dude, you met her on tinder. What did you expect?

  • not if you are afraid of sex, and she wants some... by the way, what are you doing on tinder if you dont want sex? do you think thats a matchmaking site like E-harmony? it isn't. its a hookup site.

  • Some are saying not to meet her because it is a dude. Meeting you will find out the truth, and I cannot imagine a dud will show up still trying to pretend to be a gal. You are having doubts on matters that you can probably ascertain once you meet her. You need only wait till this weekend, so you should wait and see her this weekend.

  • Why are you on there in the first place if your not looking for a relationship 🤦‍♂️🙃

  • Run she want money...

  • First off, no.

    Second, this is why very few people see online dating as anything more than a source for hookups.

  • Just move on. You have already answered your question in your question. You are not attracted to her so who cares if she is moving fast or not.

  • If you're sure she's not a catfish, best thing you can do is be fair and tell her it's not going to be more than casual sex. And I would do it through text if I were you. You know, just in case.

  • I should be careful there arnt any premium charges incase she isn't an Escort or something simular

  • Could be a dude pretending to be a girl. Could also be an attention seeking girl. I don’t think I’d proceed. Too many red flags.

  • Give her a chance and tell her what you prefer next time.

  • If you aren't feeling it then cancel. Tell her that you are sorry but you don't think it's going to work.

  • Be thankful she isn’t asking you to join a premium site or to pay to fuck her , just go fuck her you got a freebie lol

    • Hahaha

  • It's a dude

    • 😂😂😂

    • Yup.

  • I'd give her a chance she may surprise you.

  • No! Really bad idea.

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