How do I become more confident being on top during sex?

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Hubby told me I did good but I can’t help but feel like I don’t know what I’m doing. I prefer him on top but I know he gets tired of doing all the work. Although he’s never said anything. I just feel at a complete loss of what I’m supposed to be doing on top. How do I become more confident about it?

Mark-IV · Accepted Answer

its normal if you never done it, but a way to think about it is that you're using his dick for your pleasure and if you’re unsure how to move when on top there are 2 basic ways girls move

1 Riding : basically get on top and move your ass up and down so he is inside you then out until the tip then back inside, some girls straddle their man , some lean forward and lift their ass and slam it back down, you do what you like

2 Grinding : you put his dick fully inside you all the way, try to keep your back straight so it goes deeper inside, put your hands on his chest or lean back with your hands behind you, and then rock your hips back and forth, usually girls love this position because it’s a lot less tiring and you can grind very very deeply especially if he cumming inside, the rubbing sensation from your clit also helps gets you off.

i personally love it more when a girl grinds because when girls are doing the work, it feels different and the way they rock their hips is less forceful and is very girly and playful, its not hard hammering its more of a message while still very deep and sensual because we are facing each other

you can try and experiment with your man, and I’m pretty much sure he won’t complain, he will be enjoying the view of a woman pleasing herself with his dick, and when it feels too good and you can't control your hips just lean forward and tell him, he can still thrust upwards and AFAIK it feels amazing for both to finish this way

Makeushiver · Accepted Answer

The absolute best thing you can do is whatever turns you on the most. Assuming most guys feel like me, if you are getting aroused and/or coming from what you are doing I'd be happy and I assume your husband would feel the same. I'm not sure women realize what a major component of their desire, arousal and orgasm (s) is to guys own arousal, at least it is for me so I assume most men are the same. Find whatever position turns you on the most use it and use it to satisfy yourself, That's what would turn me on the most and I assume your husband as well. Nobody is holding up Olympic style scorecards based on your form so find what feels good and go for it with gusto

wingattebaby16 · Accepted Answer

The best thing I can suggest is to Google it.

Women on top like to just rub back and forth as it mashes our clit against his pubic bone, BUT men need thrusting.

My man likes me on top so he can play with my boobs, butt, and clit, but when he is close, he always rolls me over and rides me hard so he gets his finish.

When I have been on top when he shoots, he has told me he is just mostly oozing & doesn't get the same feeling as when he is thrusting deep and hard and controlling the speed.

Men need the rapid stimulation to get the MOST out of cumming.

you can always PM me like you have on other things like this... being prego, I am not a bitch anymore and actually like having sex again.

SunnyGirl80 · Accepted Answer

Use your boobs when you’re on top! Guys love to see you play with them, squeeze them, lick them, pinch your nipples, lean down and put them in their face... I got even more confident on top after my boob job. Guys can’t help but cum when I ride them. It’s become my favorite!

CindyRuns · Answer

Just think about how much you love your guy and want his body ... and then... just do it !!!

WalterBlack · Answer

You can practice outside the bedroom by hula hooping. In the cowgirl position, rocking the pelvis front to back is often a better option than concentrating in in-out thrusting. Hula hooping is a similar pelvis rocking motion. Keeping your pelvis in contact with his should give you some clitoral stimulation. Also, close contact reduces the chance of his penis slipping out. Those are the basics. Beyond that, you can play with your breasts or your hair in cowgirl position and make eye contact. Most guys like that kind of visual. If you are laying against him, kiss his face, neck, chest, etc. Whisper in his ear about how good he feels inside you. Basically, let him know that you are enjoying the experience.

GingerGuy · Answer

You don't have to know anything, seriously. You do what you want and what feels good for you, because it all feels good for us. Unless you accidently "pinch" or something, you know, if you get going too rough or something lol, it's all good. But he'll let you know if that happens not to worry.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

the key to intercourse is to focus on yourself. oral is for the other person. so not every position is going to be great or hit you the right way, but that's why you find the right positions that focus on your pleasure. when trying something new you need to communicate.

i've never enjoyed the girl on top. visually it's great, but yeah, they don't know what to do. so tell him to put his hands on your hips and control the motion and speed

0112358 · Answer

Do what makes you feel food and get yourself off, hard.

bowenw · Answer

Try different positions e. g. lying on top of him, cowgirl, and reverse cowgirl to see if there's something that feels better. Consider watching some porn for inspiration. Also get in a position and let him do the work. Try playing with your boobs. Ask him how it feels with you on top and if he'd like to try something else.

maxdoesss · Answer

I think you're looking at it the wrong way. You should be enjoying yourself and not be trying to please your man

es20490446e · Answer

Enjoy the dick.

Marco10 · Answer

I think it would help if you dress up in a dom woman attire e. g. black leather pants and maybe have a riding crop with you. Do some role play first. Dominate your man a little and then go on top. You’ll be more comfortable if you think about it as foreplay and then ease into it.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

What do you usually do when you don’t know what your doing... well at least do me I research. Figure out what’s the best ways, tips and techniques.. then you would need to communicate and ask your husband, what he likes and what will make him gain the most pleasure and stick to that. It’s all about communication. Nothing wrong with not knowing, but the problem lies when you say in the not knowing

roastbeef · Answer

During sex when you both of you get wet its harder for male to feel sensation to keep him aroused when a female gets on top it changes angle and he can arch his back and feel the sensation of your pussy and his hands are free to feel your breast ass etc. in which would restimulate him and you. Just try it from time to time and time well tell :)