Which situation would you rather be in?

Question

Situation #1: Your partner sees you as a 10, the sexiest person they've ever seen, but you see your partner as a 5 - average looking, and there are many hotter people out there.

Situation #2: You see your partner as a 10, the hottest person you've ever seen, but your partner sees you as a 5 - average looking, and there are many hotter people out there.

RoastedToast · Accepted Answer

Been in Situation 1 before, it doesn't feel very good. As there's a guilt of Just using your partner. I don't know if she thought I was a 10 I never asked but she was giving it a 10 in investment whereas I not so much, at this point I was at a stage where I didn't care about anything. Trying to persuade yourself you like her/him as well doesn't work as at this point you are just straight up lying to yourself and it's fake. Just gotta break the cycle and come clean before it's too late.

You could say the personality makes up for it, but physical attraction is what makes a relationship, if you are not physically attracted to your partner then what's the difference between your partner and your friend?

Anyway point is in this scenario no one wins, the only question is would you rather sacrifice yourself in this scenario relationship or would you prefer to sacrifice your partner, as one of you would be left feeling trapped, craving for something more. That's what I believe.

My job is done, that took way too much effort, time for me to not touch GAG for another few weeks.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Definitely  situation 2 . I know I'm unattractive looking. And short, too. Any woman who claimed I was a 10 (or even over a 6) would be lying her ass off. However, I make up for it with my personality. I may be a 3-6 in looks, according to women, but I'm like an  8 or 8.5 in personality.

flamiE · Accepted Answer

Situation 1, reason being is if he sees me as really attractive he’d be doing all the things that are needed to turn me on lol while if he sees me as not so attractive he’d be less excited about making out etc.. and I don’t need to find my partner extremely hot for me to have a good session, it’s all psychological to me, so yeah 😊

Josephinemunich · Accepted Answer

I don‘t want My Man to be the Best looking Man Alive, for me if he has a good character and a Good heart he‘ll immediately is going to be actractive to me. I‘m Loyal so even if he would be „just a 5“ I would Never Look at another man the way I Look at My man.

MrOracle · Answer

I would rather be in situation 1, but that's absolutely impossible. I'm far more likely to find myself in situation 2.

Bram852OOO · Answer

1, but my ex tought that she wasn't good enough for me when this was the case. While in my eyes she was the only person i ever wanted.

filjongrif · Answer

As a 42 yr old its very normal for me to have sex with a 23 yr old. . it still hasn't happened though. oh to be with a perfect tight toned body with a nice tight pussy again

Katerina_Belle · Answer

This is a tough one but in all honesty, for a relationship to work you both have to see each other as sexy or hot, you both have to be sexually attracted to one another or one of you will leave the relationship when you find someone that is.

I always say go for someone that loves and values you and naturally, you will be in a healthy relationship as you are both with each other because of how the other person makes you feel.

Lochlan · Answer

So in either situation, there is an illusion. Situation #2 if they actually feel like a 10. I'm a contradiction in so many ways and probably a 5 to somebody already based on peoples' preferences.

colelydiason · Answer

Sitch 1. Much less likely to cheat on me than in situation 2. Hopefully in 1st it isn't the only thing keeping them in. Too bad if I get fat or old and lose them

ohshee · Answer

I THINK 2 and it's ok how she see herself. As long as I can make her feel like the way I see her

KenzieDutcher63 · Answer

If it’s sex I know I look ugly I just want the partner to be hot

Zealashton · Answer

if you dont work out and get the right perportion of muceless and strive to great ness with me, im not intrested in fat chicks

Jjpayne · Answer

Situation 1, 100 percent! If she loves me that makes all the difference in the world

jgokgotit · Answer

I picked situation #2. If I love a woman her looks do not matter too much to me. If she only views me as a 5 and still is loyal to me and loves me then she is a keeper.

AnggieGirl · Answer

Someone can be attractive with their looks but their personality is so annoying that their looks don't matter.  Someone can be alright looking buy a fantastic person through and through.

Dargil · Answer

Neither. A relationship should be equally yoked.

Apope16 · Answer

Im in situation 1 right now

lanadelrey25 · Answer

#1 please lol

mishmashlady · Answer

Situation one

Massageman · Answer

I'd rather we just see each other for who we are, faults and all: that is how a relationship should work if it is to be a successful one.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Of course I would prefer #1 as men tend to focus more physical attractiveness, and I'm okay with a 5 if he has certain qualities. I'm more attracted to the person's character.