So taking in your response to the other reply plus the initial information, you honestly should just talk to him about it. Hopefully, he will listen and be comforting and supportive of your concerns. Starting as friends with benefits can definitely make someone question if has another one now that he is with you. But you're with him and you want to be his best and what keeps him coming back to you. I can understand the insecurity and the need for reassurance here. The only way to get that reassurance though is to talk to him and confront the insecurity head on. It's valid to talk about because you are so concerned about it. And maybe I am weird since I truly embrace this, but there is nothing wrong with being needy or clingy or weak or anything else when it comes to your partner. To me, that just shows that you care about the relationship. Unlike me, however, for those who donembrace that, you just gotta manage how you put stuff to where it's not to a level that would push him away. If you need any more specific advice or anything, feel free to message me.
Long story short we met 2 years ago and we basically are friend with benefits. He’s hot and cold with me. Sometimes I feel like he’s open to to relationship and other days he’s not. He tells me that he always thinks about me. He also told me that although he doesn’t call or see me sometimes it doesn’t met he’s not thinking about me. Also tells me that I will have a special place in his heart. he says he wouldn’t mind having a baby. But sometime he’s cold and breaks promises. For example about meeting his mom and going on dates.
Hmm the breaking promises can be tough on any relationship and especially if he wouldn't mind having a baby. I would hate to see that happen and him always breaking promises to you in helping with the baby or to your baby itself in the future. The hot and cold aspect is probably what would worry me most as far as an actual relationship and not just a friend with benefits situation. Like the days he is open to the relationship is it because he wants to keep you as his friends with benefits or does he really want it? When he isn't is there someone else he saw that day and just closes off because he got what he wanted that day or maybe felt guilty? I mean sure there are other reasons as well, I am just using those as examples. But the meeting his mom and breaking off dates or whatever seems like he isn't ready for a relationship or just doesn't want to take it that far at all. Hard to really say of course without knowing his real mindset but you do need to make sure you protect your own feelings from being hurt if he isn't ready or willing.
What are you talking about? You just mentioned he's friends with benefits, not your boyfriend. He's a fuckboy. He's pretending to be open to a relationship so that you won't stop having sex with him. If you want anything more than that you're wasting your time with him and with worrying about this.
If he's your boyfriend be honest with him and tell him about it. Communication is key. If he cares for you he will comfort and reassure you - no judgement.
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Get over it hon, to be blunt. He’s with you and not them for a reason.
^^ This right here
Well long story short. We started as friends with benefits and it’s been 2 years since we met. Sometimes I feel like he’s interested in something more then sometimes he goes cold.
My advice still stands.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!You can talk to him about it but it's your issue. Just let it go if you can. It's not just about the sex.
Don't overthink it. Just enjoy the sex. It is ok to talk about sex with him. Get him to tell or show you what he likes and you do the same with him. Otherwise how is your sex life with him?
I would be more worried about him being a player if I was you, but okay. So you are feel insecure that he been with girls who are better than you? it's probably true, but what you gonna do? :)
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Is he sleeping with them now?
your being silly here. he chose you. those othets can be viewed as practice to hopefully make him better at it for you.
My wife is not the hottest i have ever been with. Not the greatest sex. But i would have no one else but her. Love conquers all. I would take my wife over all the girls of my past. That something special in her makes her the best. It is something in her smile and laugh.
Talk to him and tell him how you feel about it. Talking to him can help you out.
Well, you need to work to keep his attention. Make sure the sex is good and frequent. The moment you start playing games he will jet.
Hope he doesn't sleep with more women.
his past is none of your business
Don’t dwell on the past. You and he are starting a new relationship. Move forward from today
Enjoy your intimacy and don’t cause problems that aren’t there.
It isn't about looks or sex, but how well you fit together
He may not be for you either lol.
This is something women do that you really have to learn and make a conscious effort NOT to... compare yourself. Do you compare him to your ex's? He's probably separate from them in your mind right? So are you to him. He's with you and chose you for a reason, because he wants you. He wants you, so therefore will make you the best!
Since you choose him, it must be something that attracts you as well. You can't have it both ways. Think about it. There are plenty of inexperienced men with low counts out there, and you happened to be with one that has a high number.
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