While it was long thought that only males had a "refractory period" after ejaculation (orgasm), many women experience this comparative "downer" of relaxation time immediately after their orgasms as well. If given restimulation, many women will come out of their refractory period very quickly, ready for a new orgasm within minutes. For guys, it will just take a little longer.
That said, it is this SUDDEN DROP of heart rate, blood pressure, and nerve stimulus of certain bodily areas that leads to this comparative emotional "downer".
The fact that it seems tied to whether you orgasm or not makes me guess it might have to do with a sudden drop on hormones or emotions after an orgasm.
I get depressed/anxious after sex or having am orgasm sometimes, but I think mine is more tied to trauma so I don't know if that's the same thing you're experiencing
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I get that way when I have sex with girls who I can’t imagine a future with. I know that either she or I don’t have feelings for the other and it makes me wish I was lying beside a woman I could see myself in the future with.
You need to feel loved.
If you always feel the same way you probably should discuss this with your doctor.
Simple solution: Stop having orgasms.
You might want to look into female circumcision.
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@JoyGirl never heard of female circumcision? It's not that uncommon.
Post nut clarity is a bitch
Its normal. For example when im horny I'll watch a creampie scene or a swallow scene. But then after I cum I tend to find that stuff kind of gross.
You feel down because it's sex. If anyone has it.. and finish they feel bad
No i don't. I think you have some underlying mental health issues causing this. I think you should look inward and address them. Professionals can help.
maybe because you feel guilty for being a slut
That’s a pretty common feeling after masturbation but sex is an entirely different story.
Because you saved up everything for a wonderful climax! Then to realize.. Dammit, what a waste. Now I gotta build it up again.
Ah yes post nut clarity. I didn't know girls can have too it tho 🤔
Its the comedown from dopamine
Usually it’s the other way around!
Do you feel guilty for having an orgasm?
You might wanna talk to a counselor, something to do with sexual anxiety!
IT is like Postorgasmic illness syndrome but psychological one. It also happens to guys every time after sex
You mean it happens to every guy?
When I cum, I lose my interest in sex for a while. You must hear guys who lose all his attention and interest in sex when they are done. A lot of women complain about it. Normally it takes 10-15 minutes for a guy to recover from that average. But it can be longer
Yes but its ok dear
You're not attracted to him.
I am, i love him
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