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How do I handle my boyfriend who only likes real rough sex?

Rough sex is ok with me but not every single time. I don't know what to do since he says that is only way he can cum so I don't know.
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Superb Opinion

  • that's a bit disturbing. A lot of people like it rough at the appropriate time but if he needs a little chaos to get excited tread carefully. Sometimes having your shirt buttons popped, your panties rapped off by his teeth and then bent over the kitchen table, car trunk, up against wall with your ankles wrapped around his waist is pretty hot. followed by a few hours in a luxurious bed while he runs a feather or his tongue around your body is more balanced. As many girls who fantasize about it rough don't usually cum because its a whirlwind that's over too soon,

    If you are clear about your boundaries then you might consider taking a pass because he will probably want to continually expand the degree of roughness to satisfy him and you may get to the point where it doesn't seem safe to be around him. I think that you should explain to him exactly what you wrote on here and be clear about your limits and the consequences of trespassing over those limits. In order for that to work you need to stick to your guns if he doesn't recognize your feeling about it, If you threaten to give him the toss, you've got to follow up on that otherwise he will ignore you. Do you know any people who also know this guy, It would be disturbing to find out he's been arrested a dozen times on assault charges. If you can find out any info from an impartial 3rd party who has known him for a while.

Most Helpful Guy

  • He's been watching too much hardcore porn. Tell him if he can't respect you enough do have it slower once in awhile then tell him there's not going to be any sex.

    The only other way to calm him down on the rough bit its to out rough him. Meaning depending how rough he is you have to be twice as rough and be its till it hits limit where he doesn't want it anymore or as much. I think he likes being very dominant so now you have to take charge.

    Or just do the first option. Up to you

Most Helpful Girls

  • He doesn‘t need To cum every f*** Time. Try To talk with him and find a Point That Makes both happy. If your always down To Rough sex so he can cum, he should be down To have some nice Slow vanilla sex with you, and Maybe finish with a handjob or Blowjob.

  • Sounds like a self-centered little cocksucker with insecurity issues. Dumb his worthless ass & find yourself a real guy/man.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • He needs to spend a month or so not getting any and not touching himself. This will make his member more sensitive.

    Men who squeeze themselves too hard often have issues like this

  • Is your boyfriend circumcised? It's extremely common in cut men to prefer rough sex, because they're missing 80% of their nerves.

    • Ya he is

    • That's most likely the issue. See how sensitive he is. Try comparing your own sensitivity to his to show him. There's little that can be done, though he can looking into "foreskin restoration" which helps to keep the glans covered, which will reduce glans keratinization, and should help sensitivity over time. It's not a cure, and the sensation improvement can take months to years, but it will help preserve what he has. Really, though, a 2007 study showed that 75-80% of sensation is lost in circumcision, all of it fine touch, temperature, and pulling. Some men do better than others, but I know of hundreds of thousands in his position, so it's common.

  • If he is not willing to compromise then probably best looking else where he is straight lying and just being selfish

    • Ya thats what my friends said

  • If you are not into every time tell him. He can cum other ways, he is just playing you to be in control. If he doesn't respect you it may be time for the two of you to go for counselling or to send him packing.

  • try slow sex, tell him to try it and see where it goes

  • start romantically... then go for rough and then when he cumms.. again back to being romantic

  • He needs to take turns

  • I sense a compatibility issue here, so if he's not willing to meet you halfway, then maybe he's not right for you?

  • By leaving the guy is not right and the harsh conduct will only esculate until something really bad happens. See the pattern lady

  • Looks like He is the 1 handling you just shut up and take it like a slut..

    • Ya thats what he likes

  • Have a heart to heart with him and tell what turns you on, and what doesn’t!

  • That's easy stop having sex with him until he decides that it's a two way street. Sometimes he can't get what he wants if he wants to get what he wants... If that makes any sense 😅

  • That is NOT the only way he can cum

    • He says it excites him so I don't know. My other bfs liked rough but not every time

  • By dumping him

  • Try this convince him to start soft until u cum then he turn to a monster he is

    • Ya I will try

  • Oh, you mean he wants you to ride him really rough?

  • Start of doing what you want and then let him take over to finish how he likes it

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