Have to pleasure myself because he won't?

[Anonymous]

I have no clue what's going on... maybe he's cheating. But he's a pretty trustworthy guy. Or he has a pornography addiction I don't know. But the past week I've been mad because it's like he's not sexually attracted to me... the sex with this guy is so boring! The first thing that pissed me off is he would rather watch porn than have sex with me. I purposely masturbated loudly last night but he was still watching the porn and didn't even care to come join me. Then this dude lied about being freaky. He swore up and down he was freaky... okay well I never seen it.
The porn he watches is boring and so is his vanilla sex. Now he's been watching his porn to the point to where I can hear it but mean while he won't go out and get condoms so we can have sex. We went to a sex shop together and he was mentally not even there.. he literally looked bored as hell. And was on his phone the entire time. It ruined my mood and I didn't want to buy anything!
Oh yeah problem number 2. He makes it obvious he doesn't trust me and if we don't have condoms no sex for me. He's been divorced. I know he doesn't like me as much as his ex's.. it's clear as day. Should I confront him today? I'm tired of this sexless relationship.

[jgibsonian1986]

Pornography addiction is pretty real and I'd say is the cause.
The next steps as you can probably imagine are to talk to him about it, specifically how he feels about porn. It will be tough though, studies show that porn addiction affects the same parts of the brain as alcoholism.
Seeking therapy is also an option if he is willing or onboard at all

[Asker]

He has an addictive personality. He used to be an alcoholic. But yeah he told me he had some issues with porn... and that he hated how he uses it. But he didn't want to go into more detail. This is to make our relationship and sex life worse...

[jgibsonian1986]

If I were you, I would do some study on porn addiction, and show him the similarities to alcoholism. But take things slow, change takes time and patience will help. Maybe even take a day or two to talk to some professionals who know more about this for help as well. If he wants to move past porn it will improve the quality of his life so much, and you helping him with that would be good for your relationship.

[Wise4myage]

Sounds like he might be addicted to porn, but why bother wondering? Just dump the clown already and fine yourself a real man. Also, saying he doesn't trust you could be used as a distraction for his cheating.

[MrOracle]

Why bother? It's clear that he isn't the right guy for you (and, by your description, probably not for anyone), so kick him to the curb and find a guy who treats you right.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Really sounds like he's not in the relationship like you are.
Confront him and ask him what's going on.
You're clearly not getting what you want and I would recommend you to reconsider the relationship perhaps.

[Lov2PlezUgurl]

Come on life is too short to be spending it with someone that is so stupid and ignorant won't f*** a p**** when he's got it man I ain't had sex in 8 years I have tired thing up matter of fact I'd probably have to stop paying rent

[Asker]

Well could be a reason why I stay.. other than this I don't pay rent and he treats me good

[guitarguy1995]

It might be time to break uppp.

[bowenw]

It sounds like he's playing you and doesn't really care about you.

[bklynbadboy1]

Why are you wasting your time with this clown. He's probably cheating you admit he doesn't like you as much as he likes his ex. So why are you putting yourself through this bullshit for a man thats not even attracted to you your better than this! Smh

[Valnac]

Definitely, kick him to the curb and get a man that knows how to treat a lady like she likes