I think my wife is a sex addict and I am not able to have sex with her. What should I do?

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I got married last year. She told me that she had sex with 3 people before marriage.

After marriage she wanted me to have sex with her everyday. I wanted to take things slowly. But I agreed with her and had sex with no emotion. She had so many weird fetish like Rape fantasy or reverse rape fantasy etc. I did just to make her happy. I have to say I don't big penis, so this was kind of insecurity.

Then she wanted me to have sex everyday. It is not possible to satisfy everyday. I cum very fast than normal people. Few months back she bought a sex toy.

From last 1-2 week, I am not able to get erection. She was behaving like I am her sex slave and scolded me like anything.

Today she took it further and said that she wants threesome with another man. I got really angry and slapped her. She got mad and striped herself to naked and started scolding. Then started mastrubating with banana Infront of me.

I locked in the bathroom. She still inside and shouting. Neighbours are asking what happened. I am ashamed to tell about that.

knottywriter · Accepted Answer

So she definitely sounds like a sex addict. I am going to say this once though... neither you nor your wife should ever hit the other. That said, let's discuss... being a sex addict, I don't know how she would respond to a threescore with another woman but I would see how she feels about that if she wants one with another man. If one partner is gonna be asked to do it one way the other partner should be willing to do the reverse. I would say see how she likes that idea but again the second addict aspect hinders what she might actually say. There are sex addiction groups available. Not to say that it could just be she likes sex that much and it is normal but she is pushing boundaries that have you at an uncomfortable level and that's when it becomes an issue. Toys can be a fun use though if you utilize them as a couple for the benefit of both of you. There has to be common ground and she has to compromise. But if she is truly a sex addict, do not bring a 3rd party into the bedroom.

0112358 · Accepted Answer

She has a high drive. I wouldn’t say she’s an addict.

Alyssa11 · Accepted Answer

Loooooool why does this sounds like it's going to be me when I get married. (I'm a virgin and desperate for commitment!)

Ok, sorry. What do you think about having an open conversation about this with her?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Why did you slapped her , though? The last time I went loony, my man put me over his knee and spanked me. My anger dissappeared and I was so calm.  Anyway, she should seek professional help.

SoapySandwich · Answer

Your best option sounds like divorce man, she isn't the right person for you.

Hangry22 · Answer

She needs professional help just like any other addiction

RandomLoser · Answer

Just divorce.

loveslongnails · Answer

Get a divorce... you're not compatible. There's no compromise in sight.

In_Trance · Answer

what do you wanna do?

CubaPirate · Answer

Cool story bro

steveranger · Answer

Three some 😅😅😅😅

gandolph3 · Answer

open the relationship and let her have who she wants

brinaloghry · Answer

Okay thats definitely crazy. You shouldn’t have slapped her, but she seems a little loony. I definitely would not put up with that. She does seem like a severe sex addict. Just no.

Anonymous · Answer

Powerful sex toys that plug into the wall

Anonymous · Answer

Let her get some f*** buddies

Anonymous · Answer

We'll clearly She has no respect for you. Lol a banana,,, let her have another guy just make sure you videotape it.  On the other hand, why don't you satisfy her by eating her out?