Did I mess things up and what should I do now?

[Simplismilez]

We had 3 dates pervious that went well. Most of those times were pretty romantic and then we ended up doing sexual stuff last night. I. E. blowjob and he fingered me. I don't regret doing it because I'm a sexual person and I like him a lot. But do you think I messed things up with us? Cam I fix it. What should I do now?

[OlderAndWiser]

I understand having a strong libido but it is difficult to have sexual activity in a relationship and then pull back and say we aren't going to do that again for quite a while. Many women think men just want to get laid. SOME men just want to get laid but more of them actually want to have a relationship that includes sex, but they want the relationship.

For a guy, sex is a way of becoming closer in a relationship. It says that our partner trusts us enough to be intimate in a way that she doesn't do with many guys. And when you have sex and he gets you off, it makes him feel good knowing that he satisfied you. That is what you have taken away from the relationship. So

1. You need to let him know that you do want to get closer to him.
2. You need to let him know that you still trust him and you are really looking forward to the next time that you get between the sheets.
3. You need to let him know that the sexual activity you had was very satisfying and you look forward to finding out just how satisfying he can be for you.

Maybe you have a chance. It doesn't sound like he has copped a negative attitude so give it a shot!

[Jjpayne]

You are fine! Don't be so hard on yourself. Be yourself! Don't be ashamed! Have fun! Just relax and don't be so stressed. Just enjoy yourself with him and if it's meant to be then it will be

[Jjpayne]

Thank you for the mho :)

[ririissleepy]

I dont think you messed anything up.
You should just do what feels right for you.

[MrCommodore]

No it should be fine, relax

[ohshee]

No your fine ,, he's ok with it but I can't believe he didn't get you off there's no way I would have let that go ,, I would had rather done that then for you to give a bj

[Simplismilez]

He did...

[ohshee]

I told you you were. Good

[ohshee]

Well I think it was Hot

[TadCurious]

I think it's all fine. Although the whole "I'm worried you might think differently about me now" thing is really kinda lame. Why do so many girls always say things like that?

[Simplismilez]

Because it's happened to me way too many times

[Prof_Don]

He seems chill & hasn’t lost any respect for you... RELAX!

[bowenw]

It sounds quite normal to me, and there is nothing to fix. Just continue with the relationship and see where it goes. Go at a pace you're comfortable with.

[Simplismilez]

I did. Just got in the heat of the moment yesterday

[bowenw]

Perfect. You're human.

[magiusX26]

i think your fine but just overthinking it.

[Massageman]

I really don't see how anything is "messed up" other than maybe your underwear after last nights' visit. Relax a bit and enjoy it.

[pizzalovershouse]

Guys want a relationship with a girl who waits for sex other wise to him your just a friend with benefits or hook up only

[Simplismilez]

So you're saying I messed things up?

[pizzalovershouse]

Yah if your looking for a guy to keep you as a girl friend like the old saying a guy who gets the milk for free figures why buy the cow

[pizzalovershouse]

Guys want a girl who can make them wait as much as a month for sex cuz it makes them have to work to earn it cuz then he realises she is relationship material an worth marring some day

[Simplismilez]

No offense but I disagree. I don't like the idea that I'm now no longer girlfriend material because I like the guy and consented to do something we both clearly wanted. I'm no less marriage material for doing that. I'm still a good woman who will do anything for the people she loves but I like sex. And if someone likes me and I like them. Why the fuck not? I'm not hurting anyone and I'd certainly never judge someone because they want to have sex sooner or think that they're a whore.

[magiusX26]

i will respectfully disagree there pizza.

[pizzalovershouse]

Just saying thafs what the percentage shows from exsperts

[Tellme]

Nah, I think you should just continue doing what you like and what feels good for you. Either that matches with what he wants, or it doesn’t. You‘ll find out... :)

[Simplismilez]

Id like to but I've been judged for it before and have been labeled as easy. I did what I did with him and any guy because I thought he liked me also and that something could come from it.

[Tellme]

That’s good! I think you should follow your own way. Don’t listen to what others say. I guess they were just jealous.

[Valnac]

Get together with him and see we’re it goes.

[onlyusernamenottaken]

I think for a relationship things are now stuffed. This guy obviously doesn't want feelings and sex mixed together, so after you sucked him off he probably now only sees you as head or sex and when you try brjng feelings into it or slowing down, he isn't interested at all.
Not your fault, it's just how a lot of guys are unfortunately

[LoveYourself24]

It doesn’t seem like he’s not interested. I don't know I would think things are fine between you both

[Sampike11]

It sounds like everything is fine and he really does like you.

[Sampike11]

Sometimes things happen in the heat of the moment, if I was him i wouldn't think any differently about you

[Simplismilez]

You think so?

[Sampike11]

If he truly is into you yes

[Sampike11]

This is completely random and off topic but you look very familiar

[Simplismilez]

Um lol sorry I can't say the same.

[Sampike11]

If it is you I didn't think you would, no worries

[Simplismilez]

Where do you think you know me from?

[Sampike11]

We would've chatted on another app a few years ago

[Sampike11]

Pm me if you want

[Simplismilez]

Doesn't ring a bell. Sorry

[Sampike11]

No worries, just figured I'd mention it

[lonlynchi5]

Move on Baby ur still young