What is the downside of having sex on the first date?

[Anonymous]

Assuming that you understand safe sex and have a good judge of character... Why does sex have to be so taboo?

When girls say stuff like "oh he just wants sex, once he gets it he'll disappear..." Uh not if you're actually good in bed, he won't.

Im not saying you should fuck every stranger you meet, but the people you like... Whats the problem with impressing them with your body? Why do you not use sex to form a connection, instead you use it like a bargaining chip to hold on to and cash it in for babies... Why you gotta turn something as awesome as sex into a tool for manipulation?

[PrudentGuy]

Your Details and many Opinions brought up the "downside", but none elaborated WHY they are downsides. So let me try to expand on the collective Opinions.

An Anon where you replied "... you're saying women dont enjoy sex as much as men because they have too much too early..." That is definitely not true.

Simple reason: there is a reserved word for women who like sex like an addict: nymphomaniac.

Yes, if a woman is given the opportunity to "mature" in their sexuality, they actually crave sex much more than an average man.

Thus lead me to argue that

1) us guys start by craving the physical side of sex, less so emotionally (hence most younger guys do not want a committed relationship);

2) whereas girls start by creating the emotional side of sex, much lesser the physical side.

But when both "matures" sexually,

3) guys start to desire the emotional side and hence after 35, guys may want to "marry and settle down";

4) likewise girls after having their emotional side satisfied and experienced great orgasms, start to turn into a nymphomaniac 😁😁😁.

So you see, eventually, sexually mature guys and girls crave both emotional and physical side of sex.

Back to "first date". Its hence not good not because of exploitation and manipulation, because without a doubt, those are bad principles to live by.

Rather its because the genders had not understood each other well enough. And this lack of knowledge easily cause accusations that you raised in your Details.

Thus my Opinion is, if both can wait, learn more about each other, then when they engage in sex, its for both the emotional and physical connections, sex will feel good for both and more likely to last long term.

[Anonymous]

Let me be real blunt. Men and women are different. A man does not 'give up' sex, a woman does, and a woman who gives it up easily is not a woman to be respected. The more men a woman has sex with, the less her capacity to bond. Most women by the time they are 20 have literally no bonding capacity at all, they are fucking emotional train wrecks, and the selfish men who are content to play into their disease and use them for sex are trash. You may think you respect them, but you have a conflict of interest. You're just fucking horny and want to jizz.

Any man who encourages women to give up sex early, ladies, take a moment and think... why is he doing this? Men who encourage and support this modern trend of women giving it up early are HUMAN FUCKING GARBAGE GREEDY SLUT WHORES

[Asker]

So you're saying women dont enjoy sex as much as men because they have too much too early? And now men want the bonding experience women get because we dont have sex as much as them are the whores? Thats pretty twisted.

[Opinion Owner]

What I am talking about has nothing to do with enjoyment. It has to do with emotions, and a woman's capacity to bond with a man in order to have an emotionally stable healthy relationship based on trust and respect. Men need physical attention more and emotional attention less. Women, these days, these sorry sad creatures, are taking what they can get, which is sex, and desperately craving that true emotional bond which is denied to them. After being in that situation a few times, she goes cold... she's now just physical, like a man. I know what it's like growing up with all these lies... I know it might be hard to understand what I'm saying or accept it, but let me be clear. Sex should be between two people that actually love eachother and want to be together forever. If it is done any other way, it will result in pain and misery, it is only a matter of time. Usually, because women are more in touch with their emotions, they will feel the majority of the pain, but like I said after they get used a few times that side of them goes away. Nothing makes me more sad than seeing these broken creatures... and men who aren't at all aware of the power they possess or what they are doing, they make me sick. I am friends with some, I try to accept they are learning but they just want pleasure and don't care who gets hurt. It's fucked. I know it's normalized, but it's WRONG.

[SandandWaves]

I me.. just would never do that on a first date.

[SarahP080102]

I agree.

[DavidFox]

Because it’s just selfish. You don’t know them, it’s like having sex with a stripper.

[Asker]

Has anyone ever really complained about having sex with a stripper?

[DavidFox]

The stripper

[Asker]

They must enjoy it enough to want to do it. If they didn't want to do it but did it anyway then their feelings dont really matter.

[DavidFox]

Bingo, thanks for agreeing with me: their feelings don’t matter. Sex on the first date means feelings don’t matter, it’s not an emotional experience.

[Asker]

Nope I dont agree. Sex doesn't need to be an emotional experience to be enjoyed.

[DavidFox]

Thanks, this is where we agree to disagree. When I choose to make love it’s about the physical, emotional, intimate feeling I have for someone else. You have other reasons to have sex. No worries, and good luck.

[Wise4myage]

Sex on the first date is fine, but it if your interested in something long term, then that ship likely just sailed and left you behind.

[Dchrls78104]

It could be your last.

[JessieBellll]

Losing respect

[Asker]

Whos respect are you losing?

[OddBeMe]

Nothing, but be prepared to never hear from the person again. Some poeple are only after sex while others seek relationships. Nothing wrong with either unless you deceive.

[Gripper1970]

Nothing to look forward to

[Asker]

You enjoy cucking yourself to girls to have something to look forward to?

[Gripper1970]

I do, but i like the build up of a relationship

[Anonymous]

Lost respect.

[Anonymous]

None.

[Anonymous]

None, You had sex, found out she is easy and you can ghost her and move on

[Asker]

Why would you ghost her if you enjoyed it?

[Opinion Owner]

It's up to you. If you are on here enough you read the same questions over and over again and if I were to deduce anything from these repeated questions its that guys act a certain way up until they get sex and then they ghost these girls.