This is one of those that I have chosen to stand firm on. This is the way I see it. If I asked you out. For drinks, dinner, ice cream, coffee or hiking Halfdome in Yosemite. My request, my choice of where we go and what we do. I am paying.
Wouldn’t it be great if somebody were to ask you to join them for a fun date on the 50 yard line, 3 rows up, behind your favorite team at this years Super Bowl. Only you’ll be going dutch. Now I don’t know about anybody else out there. As much as I would love to go. I couldn’t pull that rabbit out no matter how much lube was dumped in there.
Anyway, I asked, I’m paying. If I asked you out for drinks and you accepted. But for ice cream instead. I’m still paying. If you can’t stand me and want to get the hell away from after an hour. I’m still paying. If you don’t want me to drive you home. I’ll pay for other means. I brought out, I’ll take you home. Same thing goes if you have a nice time and I request a 2nd date.
That’s where my expectations end. I don’t even expect you to be 100% honest with me. Is that your natural color? Are those real? I’m just kidding, I wouldn’t ask until date #3. Lmao.
I operate with the same rules.
#3 is the tacit agreement when a woman accepts a date. If she has no interest she should decline the invitation, or at least make that clear when accepting. A man offering a date may hope for physical affection but shouldn’t expect it, and the woman has no obligation to offer any.
Agree 100%.
I would expect nothing past the pleasure of enjoying a nice meal, nice conversation and hope we would hit it off and the possibility of something developing in the future...
Too many times people have too many expectations and that right there is a set up for failure...
That and people move too quickly, expect everything to happen just like that... But if you can't invest time getting to really know me and just enjoy my company, the time don't getting to know one another, that would make me think you also wouldn't invest much time in an actual relationship...
Well said.
@Bluemax thank you! 🙂
I would say A or B. I voted A but don’t really like to think I’d be paying for attention 😂 I would hope he wanted to give me that anyway of his own volition
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I def expect to be in a relationship before the day ends. I didn't come to waste time. I didn't get to know at work/school/online/otp for months just for us to not be a couple by the end of this date. If you came to just hookup, then dont even bother to come
I expect them to be grateful and at least say "thank you." Although realistically, I don't pay for dates. We either go Dutch or I find someone who won't waste my time/money. A date is supposed to be a chance for two people to get to know, and hopefully like, each other. Not me bribing a woman to like/sleep with me, cause I could just go to Chinatown if I wanted that. (Also, if I were to ever ask someone on a date, it'd be a mutual location, not me insisting I take her somewhere, then expecting her to pay half. I'd never do that. Ideally, we wouldn't have to spend any money at all, like a walk in the park, or going to the river, or something.)
My opinion is "none of the above". If I pay for the date (which I always end up doing) then I expect her to be honest and I expect her to realize that we're on a date. I don't need sex from her, but I would appreciate it if she didn't hit on the waiter, or talk about all the times she had sex with her exes, or stare at other guy's asses. I'd like her to focus on what's going on with us, be attentive, put down her phone, be active in the conversation, respond to questions without saying "Mhm" as every answer, etc. I don't even want to have sex until we know we're right for eachother. I don't care about short term relationships, I want someone who puts in as much effort as I do.
Nothing. I NEVER go into a date expecting anything! That's just messed up!!
I just want to be with her, talk a bit, maybe share food, and some different likes or dislikes about foods, and learn more about her, so I can know if I would like to spend more time with her, and get to know her better.
I don't expect anything. Other than showing up if she said she'd show up.
Show up if she says she's going to show up.
I'll tell you what I expect if she's not into me and knows she could never be. A firm, unambiguous "no" when I ask her out in the first place. I desire and expect a woman to assert boundaries.
I expect for us to each pay for our own food, and for nobody to "repay" the other anything. The only transaction should be my company for her company.
All what i wish for both of us to have fun and enjoy each other's company
I'm more than happy to pay for a date, but I expect that the girl will at least give some attention to me and tries to engage in a nice conversation with me. That doesn't necessarily have to lead to another date let alone a romantic relationship, but as we are on a date anyway, I would appreciate it if we both would do our best to have a nice evening.
AlI expect is her time, attention and effort. By effort I mean to make an effort to get to know me.
Nothing.
I think C. To be very clear - it doesn’t mean they’ve decided they want to date me. It does mean they’re at least considering it though. If you know you’re not interested in someone you shouldn’t accept a date.
I'd prefer to split the bill unless we are already exclusive. If I was to pay for someone I am not already exclusive with then I'd expect that they are least open to dating me otherwise why waste my time by agreeing to go on the date in the first place.
So option C.
Although for option E-G I would probably describe my feelings towards it as more than hope for but less than expect.
Like I know I am not entitled to any of those things and can calmly and respectfully accept that if she doesn't want to she doesn't want to, but I probably would be less interested in setting up future dates especially if I think she's the type of girl who has gone further with other guys on the first date in the past.
To me the 'paying' is just a side effect of meeting.
I expect... insight?
I expect her to feel carefree and to enjoy her time spent with me. It’s my job to plan, pay, and protect her. What else should I expect?
Protect? Excuse me, how can you protect a woman if what you want is only casual stuff?
My main goal is to find a wife and get married. That’s why I would date, to lead to that goal. I don’t see that as casual in the least. Please let me know when I gave the impression that dating is casual.
If so, that's great. Hope you'd find the one you wish for.
Just a good time. When I was younger and had less money, I stood more firmly on this equality stuff. Pay for my food and she pays for her. In general, if I invite someone out, then I’ll pay. Having wealth allows me to be more generous towards others and I don’t want my date to be stressing over the bill. I just want her to enjoy herself and have a good time without money being a thought. Besides... easy hookups today don’t require a date. I would be offended if I got the vibe she was using me for a free meal though. A lot of women do this, but they’re pretty easy to pick up on.
Sorry, but yet another immature and silly GAG question. You should expect to have a nice meal, conversation, and a great night out. You can't expect a connection or anything else. If it is meant to be, it will be. Relax, enjoy yourself, respect your date, and show some self respect.
The purpose of a date is that it is part of the courtship process.
I do not expect anything, not even her time.
If she stands me up, or flakes before the date, she has saved me time and money by eliminating herself as a prospective girlfriend/wife.
If it was transactional, I would hire a prostitute.
Companionship and a decent time. Anything else is a bonus.
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