Why does my new boyfriend just cum whenever he wants during sex?

I am still getting used to my new boyfriend. When we have sex he just cums when he wants like after a few minutes or 15 minutes. I am used to a guy that checks with me or tells me he is about to cum. My friends said that is kinda normal and just asking here.
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  • You both sound young. I’d suggest talking to him about it. “I really enjoy our intimacy... could you try letting me know? It really excites me when I hear that or whatever” men are not complicated but we are pretty dense. What is obvious to you is not to him and vice versa.

    it may be selfishness, but younger guys are still learning control. They set the timer for 30 minutes but it goes off in 2... just saying. More than likely he may feel very embarrassed depending on how you discuss this. intimacy is about pleasuring your partner. That needs to be the first priority. Tell him how to please you, Instead of how he’s not pleasing (and never tell him a former guys was better at xxxx). Just say hey babe could you try it like this, or I’d think it would be so hot if you did that.

    chances are you rock his world... and if you give him clues to return the favor he will. Now if he doesn’t... you have a decision to make.

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  • That sounds selfish. Sex should be about mutual pleasure and both partners should cum if possible. Tell him you feel very close to him when you cum together and to let you know when he's getting close. Tell him not be embarrassed about telling you, and you'll also tell him when you're getting close to coordinate better. If he happens be ready to cum too soon for you, try fingering yourself so you cum together, or ask him to take a short break to settle down.

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  • Nothing normal at all silly. YOU should be cumming first if not twice before him.

    Help him help you by finding a chill way to bring it up and talk about it. 😉

  • Because you let him be selfish. I don't cum until my partner has cum as often as she can.

  • Kind of rude! Where is he doing that?

  • It amazes me guys like that exist, and are having sex regularly. Your new boyfriend is selfish, and you have sent the message that it's okay.

  • He’s not used to talking and communication during sex. It can happen more and more if you ask him to be more vocal.

  • I don't know but sounds pretty selfish

    • may i ask are you a virgin?

    • yes sir

  • Because he's a selfish bastard

  • I never in my life told or heard about someone saying im about to cum
    Wtf its not porn stage with cameraman near you

  • Talk to him

  • Its normal for selfish guys to do that, but you need to talk to him about it because he can't read your mind. Make sure he knows the longer he waits to finish the more turned on it makes you.

  • Because he’s a piss poor selfish lover

    • Anytime you see a username like @Vulvalicker you may want to listen to their sex advice... 👍👍👍

  • I don't say that too, just let him do his job.

  • yeah its normal males get excite and aroused quicker then females. You may have to stimulate him less and for him to do more foreplay on you

  • I don't tell my girlfriend when I'm about vh to cum. If she wants to know I will, but otherwise I don't

  • Generally a guy would cum inside a girl when he reaches his limit without informing her... also the average time a guy would be cum would be after 20 minutes.

  • you shouldn't be bogged down, at your age. you should be playing the field

  • Different guys do different things

  • There’s a little blue pill called Viagra.

  • I never say when im about to dump maybe thats why i got dumped 😞

  • yea it is usually for young guys and he sounds young but i would get em to spend time on foreplay and explorin your body also pull his dick upwards to help em last longer and get in sex positions where your in control that give ya more pleasure and him less pleasure do that first and then the sex will last longer and be better for ya both

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