Is it toxic that my boyfriend tells me I would look a lot better with big boobs?

Or am I just oversensitive?
I have a few pics that I took with 5 bras underneath my shirt to make it look like I have some tits lol. He always says that I look much worse comparing to those and I generally would look much more attractive if I had bigger chest.
Is it toxic or am I just oversensitive cause it has always been my complex and I'm overthinking it
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  • You both toxic to your boobs, and you bait him to that thought with your angst. You should not be doing those silly pics and he should accept your body like it is, especially if he known that you had small boobs from the start, you not the only girl with small boobs in this world. You can't change your boobs size, in a natural way, well maybe unless you give birth, so your boyfriend should take it or leave it.

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Most Helpful Girls

  • Thats not nice of him to be honest. I dont like that he is saying that. When i was a bit younger i didn't have any boobs and a guy i was with told me that i was small and it really got in on me. I ended up getting a boob job to improve my confidence but it has not changed anything for me and i dont feel any more beautiful. Boobs dont matter to me anymore and i thought i would find happiness with them. I found a guy that liked me with no boobs and with boobs and he was a good guy. Dont let your boyfriend change you. Dont change yourself for some guy. Your beautiful how you are xxxx

  • It's fine to "wish" someone's boobs were bigger, but to actually tell them is very insensitive. If he was just joking about your pictures that you sent him and you're taking it the wrong way then I think that's absolutely fine and maybe you just need to talk to him about it. Literally 2 days ago I sent a message to a girl (with a joke) and she replied with another joke (that went completely over my head) and I thought she was being very rude. I kept my cool and just talked to her about it and it was just a misunderstanding.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Hell yeah that's very toxic, you tell that bastard if he wants some big boob bimbo, he don't need to be with you. You're perfect just the way you were built and if no man wants to accept you for the way you are built tell them to kick rocks. Boobs are for babies to suck on they're nice to play with but that is not the satisfaction that a woman needs from a man. if he want to live a childish fantasy and have a childish experience with big boobs then he needs to go somewhere else and let a real man take care of your vajayjay which gives you real pleasure.

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  • It's just utterly disrespectful to you. He should like you for who you are.
    On the other hand, you shouldn't wear 5 bras for photos, accept what you have and live with it!!

  • I don't know if it's TOXIC, but it's incredibly insensitive to criticize a part of you you cannot change or control the size of.
    If he thinks you look so bad with your breasts, why don't you take them away and find someone who takes you as you are. He sounds like an ass who needs someone with the breast size he WANTS!
    Open the door and leave.

  • It’s toxic. I never would dare say something negative about my girlfriend’s boobs. They’re perfect, he should find yours perfect too. Dump him.

  • Yeah its a bit toxic. He should be more respectful.

  • Yes, that is very toxic and you should dump him - you deserve better

  • You should find someone who loves you exactly as you are. There are many guys who do NOT like women with really big boobs and who actually prefer women with smaller boobs.

    If you caved in and had boob implants to make him happy, what would be the next thing that he would want to change about you?

  • That is toxic. What does he expect to get out of telling you this? You cannot magically grow bigger boobs because he says so. He should love and respect your body just the way it is, he should not be trying to change it that's disgusting. Next time he says that, tell him he'd look a lot better with a bigger dick.

    • Or a smaller one. Lol

  • That is toxic. Small boobs can be beautiful, and many of us prefer them. But in all my dating I never told a gal that she would look better with any physical changes. That is just rude and offensive!

  • Tell him to chill. He should like you for you and not your boob size. If your size is not good enough for him he will have to move on and get use to jerking off more often (yes all young guys do it frequently... they just will never admit it) I actually prefer an A or B cup. Bigger is not always better. How is your sex life with him otherwise?

  • if he mentions is once or twice, no big deal. If he keeps bringing it up, the guy has the wrong priorities and you may not be as important as you think. Of course he might not realize he is doing it. But if you mention it bothers you, and he keeps it up, then you should take a long hard look at him as a mate option.

  • Well boobs are nice, and shapely ones are nice too. However, you have what you have.
    I don't know if he is being helpful or a jerk. If he keeps ragging on you about your boobs, then he is basically unhappy and really does want big tits to play with, in which case, dump his sorry ass and find a guy who cares more about you.
    A good guy will be happy with your body. I always say as long as I can put my mouth on them, then they are fine.

  • He sounds like an ass

  • That seems rather insensitive to me. You can’t change reasonably change this so there’s nothing good that can come from him telling you this. If he mentions it again you might say “If you want to date someone with larger breasts, go do it.”

  • I think it's toxic that he would make you feel bad about your body. There's absolutely nothing wrong with having smaller size breasts. A boyfriend who really cares about you loves and accepts your natural body.

  • I'd really get upset with him and feel insecure. I'd tell him he'd look better with a bigger dick

  • No. Maybe you can get him to buy you implants.

  • Your relationship has no future. Get rid of him now.

  • Yeah it seems pretty bad. I'm sure you are beautiful as you are, and you could find someone who will tell you that every day.

  • A good guy would not suggest his girlfriend change anything about her body. If it's something you would like for yourself, that is a different story.

  • No, that's toxic.

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