Guys, Would you Forgive someone for doing this to you?

[Iceseeyou25]

Let's say when you were 13, you were accused of being gay by a boy named Issac. Issac went and told the teacher that you touched his butt and made inappropriate comments. Later, you were jumped after school, lost all your friends, and you had notes written to you that said kill yourself, faggot. Burn in hell. One time you really had to pee and Issac, and a couple of other boys backed you into a corner, kicked you in the stomach and made you piss yourself. Years later, Issac asks for your Forgiveness. Would you or still hate him?

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Forgiveness can be difficult, and yet many people manage to do this every day with friends, family and coworkers. The path to forgiveness typically involves a wrongdoing, perhaps an apology, and some form of accountability or behavioral change. After this, the person who has been wronged decides that moving forward and “letting it go” is in everyone’s best interest, thereby forgiving the initial transgression.

Forgiveness is the personal process of deciding to not continue to hold on to your anger, resentment, and thoughts of revenge. Letting go of the anger does not change the fact that the abusive behaviors were wrong, but rather, it can create an enormous positive shift for you, mentally and emotionally. Consider allowing these two concepts to exist at the same time: the abuse was wrong, unfair, and not something you deserved, AND you have the power to forgive, allowing yourself to prioritize your healing. I hope I answered your question. Feel free to ask in case of any questions or queries

[Anonymous]

Well, the reason why I said that I would forgive Isaac, because now that I am an adult and believe in Christ ways of living and understand that there were evil influential spirit's that caused Isaac and the rest of the little boys to do those things. And now knowing that this would be part of a test of my salvation and obedience unto Christ's commandment. I don't expect everyone, to obey christ commandment because a lot of people don't believe in the ways of Christ and yes, it would be a bit pill to swallow. But from a Christian believing perspective, you will see that God has impressed upon Isaac Heart to make amends with you because God has a greater purpose for you and that little thing just might be the snag that is holding you back from truly being all God wants you to be for him.

[virgin20]

If you forgave someone that caused you so much trouble mentally and physically, you need to get checked.
Keep negative people out of your life

[Iceseeyou25]

What do you think of a guy who forgives Issac, has sex with him, helps him forgive himself, and forgave Issac for leaving him and going back to his ex? ( Issac Completely broke his heart at this point and made him feel like committing suicide

[virgin20]

He mustn't have any other friends is he's that desperate to go back to a person like that. You don't surround yourself with negative people

[kespethdude]

A-fucking-men, brother!

[kespethdude]

I would make it my mission in my life to destroy that scumbag.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I dont care about the gay thing, but spreading rumours and then assaulting me? Get fucked buddy, I'm not forgiving you for that

[kespethdude]

I wouldn't use the word "buddy" here. I'd use "mother fucker".

[Inexpensivefurniture]

@kespethdude maybe it's a regional thing lol. Here, calling someone "buddy" is usually sarcastic or confrontational

[ColHathi]

I would if he genuinely understood the extent of his damage and showed remorse, I think. Ofc it's not like that's just gonna erase everything that's happened, which I doubt I could just forget, but...

[kespethdude]

Bullies don't understand the concept of remorse and NEVER change.

[Anonymous]

I will kill him

[kespethdude]

Blue anon with common sense. I like it.